He said "Never apologize, ,Never explain." and I am going" really, well?"

Hello Hatley. Sorry sweetie, but i actually agree with that friend of yours. It's easier that way as most people in todays life will just do the same damn mistakes over and over again and one gets fed-up with apologies.

If I'm wrong I just apologize, that's it. My girlfriend and I always argue about almost anything and I always lost the argument even though there were times that I felt I could have won because in the end, she always went soft on me. I don't want her acting up because it always made the situation worse.

I don't see apologizing as a weakness. I think it strengthens your moral character. I appreciate a sincere apology. I give a sincere apology when I have made a mistake, forgotten to do something or said something that hurts someone feelings. I won't say more as I don't want to generalize.

That young man is not going to earn much respect and will be known as a pompous you-know-what. Admitting you are wrong is not a shortcoming, it's a sign of good character and it lets people know that you hold their feelings in high regard. People who will never admit they are wrong miss a great opportunity to develop their character and a sense of humility, which is an invaluable asset.

I think apologizing for mistakes is a strong thing to do. Apologizing shows that you're claiming responsibility for what you did wrong instead of blaming others or just ignoring it. Yes, with certain things apologies get sort of old..but that's if you keep making the same mistake over and over. It's ok to make mistakes and apologize for them, just don't make it a habit and continuously do the same thing wrong. Also, it can make the other person feel a lot better if they have someone apologize to them. In a relationship that's how you make up after having an argument and it's comforting to know that the other person cares enough to say sorry. In the workplace it's good because it shows your boss responsibility for your actions and your boss will also realize you take your job seriously and when you make a mistake it really upsets you. To me, not apologizing is a sign of weakness. When you don't apologize, you don't have any sympathy or compassion for others and also you're not responsible enough to own up to your actions and claim your mistakes. I mean, I'm only 19 but I think your friend sounds a bit immature to think like that.

Dear Hatley thats really a tricky subject. I have problems with apologizing and rather show with my actions that I am sorry instead of saying it. This stems from my childhood. I was forced to apologize for the smallest so called mistake but you bet when it forced on you with psychoterror its not good. Plus when I apologized then I got thrown in the face that my apologies (which were expected from me) are not genuine so I rather keep silent and hope my deeds make up for the mistakes.

I think in some ways you are talking about generational differences. I will admit that there are people who apologize too much, so much so that it does not seem at all sincere. Generally if you feel you owe an apology, I would give it, it makes you feel better and sometimes clarifies what you had intended. It sounds like your younger friend is not mature enough or strong enough to face up to what he has done that is wrong.

I feel the same way about it as you do. It takes a stronger person to say "I'm sorry" sometimes than to not apologize.

I find no problem in apologizing and I do not see it as a weakness. I think sometimes we do not think before we do things and by apologizing and realizing that we were wrong will bring us a long way. Especially in a relationship. Girls do not like guys that can not admit when they are wrong and they do like when guys apologize for being jerks

I am like you Hatley. I would apologise and explain and once having had my apology accepted then try to correct my error and move on. hopefully learning from the experience. What your friend said is, to me, very bad mannered. We do want to make things right when we have made mistakes. This is natural.

I usually agree with apologize when you wrong others so that you appreciate it when others wrong you and apologize. BUT i do agree with others as well. Don't apologize at all just move on. My pet peeve are those that refuse to apologize and when they do they do it like.. "im sorry but i really didn't do anything wrong". I fail to see where the apology in that is lol. Seriously? THAT is an apology? I think not. People apologize as well when they simply want to save face these days not because they mean it. I HATE apologizing unless i feel it is completely warranted. NO i won't apologize to your step mother for calling her a selfish idiot who thinks the world revolves around her. Because.. it's true buddy :P. When someone continuously does me wrong and doesn't think twice about it, why should i be expected to play nice? So now i take your friends motto and practice it but with a slight change. NEVER apologize NEVER explain EXCEPT when you wronged them for no reason at all. If this makes me a first class jerk so be it. The fact is some people are not WORTH the time or effort past a certain point. When i do something to piss someone off i most likely did so with that intention, and the same goes with anyone else. On the scarce occasions that this is not the case then yup, will be a grown up and say my apology with heart. If you don't mean it don't say it :P This was my rant lol hope you can bare with me because this whole apology thing came up recently with me and some people i know lol

Hello my friend, So good to read such a great discussion from my friend, I must say ofcourse I agree with you being able to admit you are wrong says a lot about the person you are, will I just walk around all day saying I am sorry just for the heck of it NO I am a lady and I carry myself as such great topic hope to join many more.

if i did something wrong, i apologise.. and thats all their is to it. i might not always explain why i did what i did.. because sometimes i might not actually have an explanation for why i acted cruel, or mean, or inappropriate.. but i will always apologise. i think it shows a true persons worth if they can admit their wrongs and faults.. because it helps them to grow as people. to me someone who cannot apologise has no inner strength.

wow that sounds like a terrrible motto. I am only 18 so still young and i always apologize if i am wrong. That is just the polite thing to do. I cant belive some one would even have this as a motto

Hi Hatley, In my opinion, it's a guy thing. Not only will many, many guys not apologise or explain but nor will they admit when they are wrong, let alone take responsibility when, because of them, things go wrong. Many guys are basically uncaring and unfeeling.

I think by apologizing and explaining makes you a stronger person by self admittance that you aren't always right and can learn from your experiences. I would guess this young friend of yours will end up with very few friends as he grows older and will never understand why. I used to be the person that would get bumped into at a store and say 'sorry' I don't do that anymore. I quit being so polite to people I don't know and started to be more polite to people that I do know. I've noticed saying excuse me to someone I know or love is better than saying get out of my way. Makes me wonder how many people your young friend has run into that say he's just such an @$$hole....?

I agree with you Hatley, apologizing makes one stronger, not weaker..Of course if the person who is apologizing for the same mistake over and over again, they need to search for a solution to why they are doing that and quit apologizing.

"Never apologize,never explain??" Thoes who are always apologizing for things just make themselves look weak and stupid?? No offence,this hilarious thought makes you friend look weaker and more stupid.

I think there is a flaw in your young friends analogy. That apologizing makes a person look weak. When in fact apologizing is actually a difficult thing. So when one does a difficult thing, I think it just makes them stronger. Not to mention that it makes for a better world when everybody that goofs actually fesses up.

Hi!~Your topic reminds me of the lines in a TV play called meteoric garden, the pet phrase of the leading male is "If the apologize works, why we need a policeman?" I think that's the point. I hate the person who use of the apologize as a excuse for themselves and it seems every thing can be forgive if they apology.