Willing to be the other woman... and hope he'd choose you?

i'm not a woman but i know a woman who's willing to be the other woman, but i cannot say that she's a good woman because i can see that she's after the man's money. The man she's involved is my friend and when she approach him, she knows that he already had a girlfriend but she doesn't mind being the other woman. One time when i was visiting my friend in his house, she was there and his phone ringing. I can guess from his behaviour that the phone was from his other gf, but after he done with the phone this woman just say "i don't want to know who's on the phone" then she kiss him... i just don't understand what i was seeing. Today after 7-8 years they both got married. I cannot understand them but i think they're doing just fine (or at least for now).

I will never be the other woman. Before doing risky things, I always think of who might get hurt, and how will I feel when I'm on her shoes. And for me, I cannot hurt anybody like that. I hate cheaters, and I hate mistresses. I will never stoop that low, and I feel very cheap if I do that. Sorry for the rant, lol. I have a friend who had been cheated by his husband several times and it hurts me so much when I see her sad because of those cheaters.

First i do like to know that person and if he/she is really worth of it then why not ! it is very very difficult to find a right person in your life and when you find that right person, just don't let him go away and this is my policy and i will do all sort of things to impress that person just because he/ she is worth it and i also will be leading my future life happily for sure

I've never been in that situation and will never be. I don't want and don't need to share my man with somebody else. I know that I am not deserving to be a mistress. Also I don't want to hurt another girl cause I don't want to be hurt myself (law of karma).

no, i have not been in that situation and i would never wish to be in that situation. i would never want to be the other woman. it pains me to be cheated so i would never attempt to hurt other girls because i am the other woman. i hated these days because becoming the other woman is rampant. it's adding mistrust on new relationships or even the long old relationships. it's just so sad that men nowadays are weaker. i mean they are not resistant to temptations anymore and girls are becoming tempting nowadays. so sad.

It happens to me all the time and I'm struggling on it. I got easily fall for a particular person that I became acquainted with. We talked and we have so much things in common. I started to have feelings for him and I hoped that he will be mine. But it never did, he has someone and I was hurt so badly. I cried on my own until I got better and I reflected it over and over again. I realize that. we are just friends that is it. For now, I'm in the process of acceptance which is never too easy. But one thing is for sure, I don't have to be the other woman if I have my own self to love and be loved. For now, I'll be more on myself.

There are those that would deliberately ruin other people's relationships but there are those that are unaware. Now for those who are unaware that they'be become the other woman of course she would ask the guy to choose between the gf and her. It could either be the guy is looking for fun and got bored with the gf or it's just that the other woman is more interesting than the gf. Whatever the case, being a willing other woman is for insecure people who think they are not worthy to be loved by people who can really love them. These women have issues so it's hard to understand them sometimes. Just hope and pray that these willing other women will come to realize the mistakes they are doing. "Karma is a b*tch."

chiyosan oh no I would not ever be in that position as why hurt someone else who does not deserve because her lover or husband is a b.a.s.ta.rd of the first water? I would never let myself if I was young again and single again to fall for a man who has no more morals than a pig. I have see women like this and they are as heartless as the man they got ga ga over. How can you love someone who is playing around on his mate? this is horrible and I would never do this, ever No I am not capable of being a home breaker nor would I ever want to be. shame on women who do this to other women.

No this is not something I would subject myself to be in. I understand that at times the heart is stronger then the mind. But I tend to feel that I must be number one at all times. I could not share the person I am with, call me stingy but I don't share me, so I feel I must have the same level of loyalty I give my partner reciprocated to me as well. I can't imagine being the other woman, as being given limitations as to when time shared with me, would be heart breaking for me to stand.

I don't think I wanted to be the other woman. No matter how painful it is, I'll choose the right decision always. I don't want to hurt anybody just to get what I want. Let's just say I am the wife and my husband has this other woman, of course you will be angry too. Always put yourself into others shoes, in that way you can always think and decide what's right and not.

This kind of situation is a bit common in our society nowadays. And I haven't been to it yet. However, in case someday I will come across with this kind of scenario, probably I would still choose to do the right thing. I mean, yes i might love him so much but knowing the fact that he's already taken, is the thing that i have to consider. Besides i wouldn't be happy at all if i knew i hurt somebody elses feeling.

To be honest, I have been in this position once upon a time in my younger days. However, it wasn't with emotional attachment and it never really got so deep. It was just purely attraction on the physical level. I know he knows i was with someone and vice versa. Just two individuals enjoying youth. Wrong as it was, I learned my lesson though. Plus, I had fun. :))

I think I cannot do it I'd rather make way for them to grew their relationship than becoming the bad girl just like in any movies and soap opera.

In my opinion I could not hurt someone to that degree. Even if I have never met the wife/girlfriend of a man I know, I feel that we are all part of a global family and what hurts one of us hurts us all. That belief will not allow me to be the other woman. Also, I have been cheated on twice in my relativly short life. Once by someone that I planned to spend the rest of my life with, that betrayal has scarred me and made me very hesitant to give my heart to anyone else. Since I have experianced that pain myself...I could not bear to force someone else to experiance that.

Hi chiyosan! I have thought of that once before. Those were the crazy days of being head over heels someone. Thank God I bumped my head and woke up to the reality. I will not be able to take the guilt from the thought that someone is crying because her boyfriend left him because of me. Of course, all if fair in love and war but still, I would not want someone to bear a grudge on me just because of a guy.

No. I do not think i will venture in such situation, it sounds stressful to begin with. When in love, i get possessive and selfish and i want full attention to myself, being the other woman means sharing him to another woman which i do not think i could endure. That is like putting torture to myself, so no.

I would never be the other woman for many reasons. First, I think women need to recognize their sisterhood and not do such things to each other, show more respect to one another rather than competing over a man (there are plenty of fish in the sea). Second, I think more of myself. I need to be the only one in a man's life and nothing less will due. I certainly am not willing to share! Finally, if there are children involved it's even worse. Now the action has a rippling effect that hurts innocent people.

My best guy friend is in a difficult marriage. He has a son. Although I would be interested in him if he were not married, I respect his marriage. I would never want to be the other woman. If he were ever divorced, I would consider dating him.

I haven't been in that situation. But, I know someone who was willing to ruin a relationship and her 10 year relationship as well just to fight for her feelings to this new guy she found. I was actually against that relationship, but who am I to ever interfere, it's there own decisions. The girl succeeded and got the guy, the guy's fiance knew about the relationship of the other woman but the guy assured that he was not in love with that other woman. The thing is they are far from each other that is why it was easy for the other woman to take the guy. I felt sorry for the fiance who kept on waiting and hurting here. She decided to let the guy go and gave it to the other woman. The guy however assured that they remain friends and when time permits, if they are meant to be, they will really end up together in the end.

Well I have been in that situation before and it is very hard settling for being 2nd and I did allow it for some time, and eventually I had to get out of it. He was a wonderful man but he was married and his wife had cancer at that. I did not find out until after the affair but eventually I left the situation because my morals would not allow me to keep being the OTHER woman and stay in it. I did fall for him but I knew it was not right and always felt bad about it. I was getting out of a bad relationship at the time so I think I excused it for some time but then I let him go. It was hard and I even found out him and his wife later divorced but for me I could not be the other woman and keep living with that. I wish you nothing but luck if you are having a hard time deciding what to do but always think about the other person involved and how you would feel if you were married and someone did it to you. I had been chaeted on several times by men so after while I realized I deserved to be more than the other woman but his main woman so I walked away & never did it again.