Why isn't it easy for a girl to just move on?

because when we were young, we were made to believe that fairy tales exist and that when our knight in shining armor comes to sweep us off our feet, he'll always be there, bravely helping us fight the dragons and curses of the world. but hey, i guess some men are the real dragons in our fairy tales..

I also don't get it. I'm a girl, but I will never see myself staying in an abusive relationship. There are two things that I really won't accept in the relationship. First is a cheater, second is an abusive partner. Once someone cheated on me, I will never forgive him, and I will just move on. Same with an abusive partner. I believe that once a cheater always a cheater. Same goes with being abusive. They will say sorry the first time around, that they didn't mean it. But they will never change.

Because after being in an abusive relationship, physically or mentally, or both... she starts to believe the things she hears from him. Ultimately, she loses her self worth and self esteem and start to believe that there is something wrong with her. why else would her significant other treat her this way? I know this personally. I was in a relationship 5 years too long. And while it wasn't physically abusive, it as definitely psychologically abusive. I was incredibly unhappy and depressed and constantly felt like I did things wrong all the time and a bunch of negative feelings.He was very good at twisting things around on me. I stayed at first because I was ignorant of the fact that I actually mattered. And even a year before I finally left him, when my eyes were opened and I saw what I deserved.. I still stayed because I felt like I had too.. and I didn't believe I was strong enough, no matter how unhappy I was with him, I still felt like needed him. That saying "In order to leave you have to promise yourself that you are really ready to let him go" screams so much truth. In an abusive relationship, the girl has to stay strong and keep that promise to herself that she will let him go. And then not giving in the hardest moments. Its hard letting someone go like that. From your point of view,I'm sure it seems easy like a black and white deal but its not. The first 3 months.. even though I knew was bad for me.. in the most painful moments where it literally tore my chest apart.. I missed him like crazy. If I didnt stand strong for myself, I would have gone back. It was a very difficult process moving on. And for women in those situations, they really need to know their self worth and find that inner strength to leave. But sadly most of those women do not think they have the strength, so they just stay because its easier and not nearly as scary as doing something new like moving on.

Girls couldn't easily move on because they are more emotional compared to boys. That is why when it comes to affection in a relationship, they are sweeter compared to guys.

I think that would be,the girl falls in love so deep and can't make herself moving to another one.So she keeps thinking about the past.As time passes by,i think they would be alright.Every wound would healed by time.

It's not easy to move on because women are more emotional than men.... but I don't see the point staying in an abusive relationship.....Not all girls would choose to stay in that kind of situation,,...

We had a talk like this in our school before. It is about battered women, and how they respond to relationships - abusive, to be exact. Most women who stay in this kind of relationships are those that are always dependent on their partners, for for a living, to pay the bills, etc. In most cases they do not leave their abusive husbands or boyfriends because they thought they had nowhere to go, no one to care for them. I believe this can be partly true. for those in a relationship that has gone sour, i believe women who stay is that they thought they can change their man into someone better. most women are really very patient and when they feel like they see the hope that somehow their partners will treat them better, etc.. then it becomes quite like this. But, If a woman decides and wants out, i'd say she means it and will most probably not change her mind, no matter what.

It is twofold. One reason she loves him. She has given him her heart and she is fully committed and she thinks she can change him. She thinks he will go back to the nice guy he was in the beginning. They weren't taught that once a man hits you , he doesn't love you Anymore. And that when you have the right to kill him. Once he hits you , it is time to leave, Period!

most girls they say find it hard to move on. well, i have to agree that moving on is not an easy thing to do but to get out of an abusive relationship should be an easy thing to do. i believe that the pain of breaking up with someone you love so much is truly devastating. but i hope girls or women should put in mind that there are still fishes left at sea. there will be another love, much better, that one can have. if there isn't, there will surely be an avenue to focus one's attention and energy so that she can move one and forget.

There is reason why girl or ladies hard to move on when they suffer disappointment in life. I don't they called about this but I'm sure there is a behavioral explanation about it by the psychologist...

Maybe because girls are emotional and when they falls in love they gave everything while men only shares a little. This is the downside of relationship. Girls giving their all and leaves nothing...so once they lost that someone...it's hard for girls to moved on.

Hi! Been there, done that, lived it. Why did I stay in it? Because I hoped that if he saw the type of person I was then he might see how much more out of life he could get. Instead he saw things as black and white; secular humanism and God. I guess that I was trying to inadvertently 'save' him. Believe me, no one wants to be saved unless they want it on the inside. He had Congestive Heart Failure and there was no telling when he was going to have a good day or a bad one whether it be emotionally or physically. My guess is that this was the only way he could control what he could of his life and I took the brunt of it. No it wasn't anything physically abusive but almost non-stop shouting and me in absolute tears. Eventually I just left. Happily my mother was able to take me in so I was able to start healing. He tried to get me back but I refused. Why? It wouldn't have been any different and I deserved better than to have my self-esteem destroyed. I did let him have it when he tried to apologize and I felt like Tevye (Fiddler on the Roof) as there was no other hand. Eventually you have to say enough. Does that help?

Hi boyuancy, I can tell you from what I know why it is so hard for a girl to move on from abusive relationships. For the first parts of our lives many are like lost in a fairy tale it will be romantic and beautiful and wonderful always. Then the abuser knowing this uses this to his advantage to keep the control of her. He further confuses her by being just the opposite of what she thinks in her mind to be right and or normal behavior by beating her and while so weak and confused tells her she will never find anyone else, and will not be able to survive on her own without him. Most likely belittles her and calls her nasty names to further humilliate her in hopes that this too will keep her self esteem down far enough so she will stay with him too. They have quite allot of horrible tricks and lies up there sleeves, and no matter what they always make it into being your fault this all happened too they had to do this because of you. So that is you tell anybody it will always seem you are the nasty one here and not him at all. His friends usually back him up with this too it is very terrible for all involved I think though. Yet, the people who stand by and do nothing at just as guilty to me as the one doing the beatings they are cowards and should have at least gone to tell someone who would help out about this. This, is just a girl with no children, now put this into 100% more intensity and you will see just how hard it is to leave and move o who on Earth would want to leave there children alone with such a monster as this. Thanks,A.B.

It depends on the kind of girl that she really is and what her motivations are in keeping such "rock a bye baby relationship." It could also happen to guys you know. It's a case to case basis. It could be for the kid's sake or as revenge towards her parents or simply because she needs the guy - financially or blinded by love.

It can vary but a lot of girls can be conditioned to being used and abused by someone who has a forceful personality. One woman I know was in a very abusive relationship for a long time and kept going back to him. The problem was her mother had been abusive and controlling to her from a very early age (pretty much birth) so she had become used to it and thought that was just a normal way for a relationship to be. A lot of girls now have very little self-worth and are too busy trying to look like barbie dolls and think that everything is about making the man happy rather than being happy together. They also seem to think that if they aren't in a relationship they are "failing" somehow and it must all be their fault.

I think it's because we are more emotional than boys and we are more attached. Girls try to cling to the relationship and think of so many ways to keep the relationship working. Our emotions are tougher than the boys that is why we are stronger to fight the relationship despite the odds.

To answer that, girlslikemeare so emotional. I guess tha applies when we are into a relationship too. We are so attached emotionally that it is hard to move on. In my opinion, that girl is trying to understand her guy..

Because they are emotionally attached to that person and somehow prepared their mind not to be over by that feeling..