boring in a relationship

boring with a relationship - i feel so boring now with all of this..
it makes me mad..
i just want my relationship with my partner be better, i am still loving her..
i believe that in my heart, there is still a love that waiting.
help me friends.
@deliar (609)
Indonesia
November 26, 2011 5:34pm CST
hi friends, have you ever feel so boring with your relationship with your partner? just like me now.. i feel i have loss my love, i can feel it again, it so boring to do.. i dont know why... sometime, in my mind, there is a will to break this relationship, but in my litle heart, i still believing that there is still a love to her, but i just can express like in the past till make me like this.. i want to get back my relationship better.. i dont want to let her go.. what is your view friend? can you give me a suggestion?? have you ever experienced something,like this??
14 responses
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
Don't make when you feeling bored or sad, If you don't want to have any regrets in life. Try new things. Give special attention,you must always do things like you did when it was new. If you neglect anything it will be suffer and die. Everyday should be like the first day ^^.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
i will try something new in this relationship, i think that will help me in this situation. i want to feel the love again..
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
yes! you should ^^. Don't make any decision when you feel bored or sad. Spend time with her like you did when it was new. I hope you follow my suggestion. so both of you will feel happy.
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
Yes, I have. I have felt losing my love for someone and I have surely reason behind it. I think it's normal, human being. I messaged the most important thing you would never lose hope in your life. Life has been very good to my life. I had ever been once sick and I didn't want to experience the bad memories in my life and I think the answer is love. Love yourself and other and there will be no sickness.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
yes, you are right, but i dont want to lose it. i will love her again, i donr want to lose my lovely girl. there are so many experience that i get with her and it is unforgettable. i will back and find the way for making this relationship become better.
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
You have to find a way how to make your relationship live again. Good Luck
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I commend you for asking help & suggestions on how to retain your relationship. Here comes the advice... Try remember your "firsts" with your partner. Like, - When was your first date? - Where did you go on your first date? - What is the first movie you watched together? - What is the first gift you gave / receive? After remembering these things, try looking out for new things that you can try with your partner. Like, is there a new mall that both of you would want to go to? Or maybe you can try new activities together, I have a few runner friends that got into running because they felt bored with their relationship so they tried a new activity. There are plenty of ways to revive a relationship, you just have to open your eyes to the possibilities. Good luck.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 12
thats good solutions.. i think we must always remeber how we love her or his, when we got problem or always quarrel with him or her. so it can reduce our anger to him/her.. right??
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 11
You do not want to lose your spouse, this indicates that you still have a sense of love. Do something that makes you and your partner feel happy, or felt need each other. Maybe, you just feel, there is something that makes you uncomfortable with your partner. You can talk about, what you feel to your partner. Hopefully, your relationship soon improved, and always happy. I am very pleased, to see people happy with his partner.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 12
thats good...i do hope someday your relationship with man can be better and better indah... still pray for God for asking God helping for your relationship
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Nov 11
Then change. Stop having the same habits every day. Do something new, unexpected. You might be surprise... (just like that song of Ruper Holmes: Do you like pina colada..) You might be surprised about what you don't know about your partner.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
28 Nov 11
yes i will do something like that. i think the main problem is because of our habits. almost everyday we take the same thing to do,we eat together, everyday chatting, always send short message from handphone. maybe i have to make a big change in my life. and try the new way for my relationship also.
27 Nov 11
Yes i have experienced this, and i think that you need to reassess yourself and your feelings for that person. Do you love her because you just enjoy her company? do you just love her because of what she can give you? Ask yourself what is that sole reason why love her in the first place? They key to a good relationship is having that center of balance, for example you became "bored" with her today, it's good that you go back before your relationship years and reminisce on why you fell in love with her. Relationships are always like that, it's like a wheel, that sometimes your up (all excited and giddy with your relationship) and sometimes your down (when you become bored) in those moments of boredom you have to think back and remember the friendship you shared in order to sustain the relationship. That's if of course you're still willing to go on with your love for her. If not then break up with her, there is no use of prolonging the agony for the both you.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
i love her tenderly, however she is, im still loving her, just like what she is. i agree with you, this relationship like a wheel, i have experienced something like this, and i can handle it, but for now, it feel more difficult. i dont know why.
@GemmaR (8517)
27 Nov 11
I think that if you're getting bored in your relationship then you really do need to talk to your partner and see if there is anything that you could do differently in the future to be able to change this. There's no point in keeping it quiet from your partner, because this might mean that you never manage to make things the way that you would like them to be. You might find that there are things that you can do to change things that you don't like, and this means that you'd not need to worry about being bored anymore.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 12
really?? can you ask your partner if she feel the same like you??
27 Nov 11
hi:) I think there is time on every relationship that you fall out of love, so it's very important that when you have a relationship that you became best-friend with them as well so you could easily talk things out and resolve some situation like this. anyway, you can do 2 things, you either leave your partner and move-on or you can stay with your partner and wait for your love to come back because maybe you're just emotionally stressed or there were only problem so you mistaken that feeling for falling out of love.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
maybe, it is because of my acticvities with her that regularly i spend. i make me being in a boring situation and feel that in this relationship,there are no special.
• Turkey
27 Nov 11
I have a realtionship for more than one year and I know he is my soulmate, and even I feel the same thing sometimes. This can happen because we have emotions its quite normal. Sometimes spending too much time together makes us feel bored. When relation becomes a habbit we forget how valuable our lovers are the best way to remember this is to stay away for a couple of days. Go to a holiday or some other place, don't see or talk to her for sometime.. see what happens; if you miss her never leave her but if you feel nothing about her then leave her don't waste your time (and hers of course) :)
@Mashnn (4501)
27 Nov 11
I have not but I know it do happens. You just try to look for those moments that made you both happy and bring them back again. I do hope you still have those common things that you enjoy doing together.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
no, i can't remember a time when i was bored in a relationship. i think it has something to do with us not seeing each other everyday and we talk about many things. we are like best friends so we are completely at ease in each others' company. maybe you can do something new in your dates? like skating, movies, cooking at home, anything new! do something fun! or maybe not see each other for a while, don't break up! each of you hang out with your friends until you miss each other.
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
Well you should to talk your partner and get closer, what about go outside sometimes or dinner date attend with some sports with your love one. talk often try to recover the relationship.
@Nebel23 (46)
• Chile
27 Nov 11
If you are not happy and confused, you should leave her. Maybe just a while, take your time to think, clear your mind and then maybe you can be together again without any insecurity or whatever you feel right now.