Favoritism in your family...

Hello Tipay26, I agree with you that there favoritism in every family. My biological-mom favors my sister the most (she tolerates me, and despises my brother). I cannot count the number of times she has shunned/disowned my brother and me, but my sister was always "perfect" in her eyes. My dad had custody of my brother and me, and my mom had custody of our younger sister (she was born after my parents divorce). Don't get me wrong, I loved my sister growing up - I would make her something for breakfast and take her to the pool to play in the shallow end, all those great things (and I would take my brother too). Sadly, I don't get along with my sister like that anymore. She has gained some of my mom's more unfavorable personality traits which breaks my heart to see. But it seemed our money was always welcome. My dad and his side of my family were always fair and treated my brother and me equally. Yet they were always a bit reserved (but not rude) in matters concerning my sister. My dad was in the army, and my mom got pregnant with my sister after my parents divorce and was [obviously] born after their divorce as well. My mom even refused to name my dad as my sisters dad, so I can understand their reasons for some of their reservations, sort of (ex.: is my mom trying to use my sister to get money from them? If so, is the money going to my sister, or to supporting my mom?)

hey frnd... . . . well,in my family there is my mom,dad,me nd my younger brother as i m elder than him so i have to do many house hold work i dont think is there any favouritism but as i m elder my mom nd dad give every responsibilty of every type of work like....:)

Luckily im the only child in the family that's why i never experienced favoritism.I remember a saying that we are all different even our figers are not the same so with our siblings.

there is definitely favoritism in my family, i have 3 sons and they do not get the attention from some of my family members as my nephew gets, we call him "golden boy" because he can't do any wrong in their eyes, the thing is he's the one who does wrong all the time but he never gets caught, everyone thinks he's mister perfect but really, if they knew what he gets up to they would be shocked, my sons don't get a look in by some members of my family and they are hard working lads with kids of their own, but everyone favors my nephew more, i am not jealous but one day his secrets will surface and then he will not be called "golden boy" any more. it's just a matter of time before his secrets come out, he's not the person they think he is, don't get me wrong, i love all my family including my nephew but he gets away with so much and everyone praises him for this and that, but i know what he's like and i do not rally around him like the others do because i know who he is and what he does, he knows that i know and he cannot fool me like he does with his mother and the rest of the family.

i do believe there is favoritism in my family and i am not the least favorite but the most but then there's only 4 of us here and i have 2 siblings a brother and a sister but they both hardly ever do any work around the house but me i am helping my dad pay the bills, grocery shopping cooking and cleaning around the house and i am the 2nd oldest son the oldest one lives in alaska and has been locked up for 11 years and got out recently and hopefully moving here next month.. i know once he gets here he's gonna be my fathers most favorite because that's his first son and i know this cause my dad talks proudly of him everyday and even though he got locked up he's still the favorite but favoritism in the family doesn't bother me that much i recently grew out of it and just started helping the family and my dad bought me this computer for all the hard work i have been doing and i say this thing is enough pay off i need from him cause i know i've earned it and know i should have earned more but i am not greedy(:

If we like something, we tend to go back or desire to have it. Being one of person's favorites, it is also associated for having favoritism in the family. They used to show this, even though with the presence of other members. For me, it would be better to treat them equally.

there is... but fortunately not by my parents, but by my grandfather who already passed away long time ago now... he used to dislike me and prefer my brothers as you know traditional chinese people prefer grandsons compare to granddaughters... take care and have a nice day...

I guess it exist in some families like what you have said. You thought that you are the least favorite among family members but you are the one they trust when it comes to household chores. Maybe your parents treated you and your siblings the same but when it comes to household chores you are the one they trust, so you are your parents favorite on that side. I don't mean to offend but sometimes we just thought that our parents don't treat us, their children the same or equally but in their mind they thought they did. In my younger years, I thought too that our oldest brother is my parents favorite giving all what he wants and not helping us in the house Sometimes we don't get the same attention my parents have given to him. But as I grew up, I began to understand why. My parents let our oldest brother to finished his schooling first and when it's our turn they did the same to us.

i have no favoritism in my family.i treat all my kids fairly.i care all the same no favorite.