I am beyond ready for marriage.

just tell him that its 2012 and it might be the end of the world? i dont know or you can just wait it out. its hard to find love like that and i know this cause now im having a hard time just gettign a new girl myself i let to many loved ones go and broke there hearts so jsut wait longer then if he doesn't just leave?

Just because you've been together for 3 years doesn't mean that he will be your husband. My mom had a boyfriend prior to my dad, They've been in a relationship for four years but their relationship didn't end as a Married couple, My mom and my dad knew each other just for 3 months and they get married. What I knew about marriage is that it is a commitment and a responsibility. Your boyfriend had already told you that he's not ready yet, and you're tired of waiting for him. I think it is already evident that he's not yet ready. Try to read some inspiring stories about Marriage it may help you.

If he isn't ready now, then he probably won't be. You can't make someone ready. Move out. That's all you can do.

jazzyrae ...Many men have commitment issues...How old is he and what are the reasons he gives you for not wanting to get married? What do you think he would do if you gave him an ultimatum?? I know several women who had to use that drastic measure...

I think you should give him more time, if you love each other does it really matter if your not married?. Your man will come around eventually

don't get frustrated doing continuous unresulted efforts .sometimes the last key of the bunch open the lock.. just remember ..easily achieved things don't stay longer and things which stay for long are not easily achieved...so if u have trust in your relationship so never give up... very few peoples who get true love in her /HIS relationship so try ...!!!

maybe you need to have a long talk. marriage isn't as easy as buying a candy from a store. there are a lot of responsibilities to look into. maybe you need to weigh out the pros and cons and then arrive at a common ground as to when he thinks he's ready to marry you :)

Try to ask him what is his reason. Maybe he is afraid of greater responsibilities like "fatherhood" Then you can talk about "not having kids" until he is ready. or,maybe he has another reason- just try to make him open up his mind.

if he is not ready after all these years there is nothing you can do to change his mind. The only thing you can do is keep living together or leave and find someone who does want to marry you.

well i think it is right time to take decision and you are that you can not live your whole life for waiting him to be ready for marriage.and i would suggest you that you to tell him very seriously that if he is interested in marriage with you or not and if he says yes then ask him right time for marriage and he says no then you know what to do.

you cant make him be ready if he docent want to get married then you need to be willing to live together with out bugging him about it or you need to move out. why did you move in if he had not asked you to get married and you have the no living to gather thing unless you are engaged

give him another 2 years,max. By this time, he cannot have the reason of "I am not ready". If he is still not ready,then he do not see himself growing old with you. You are only for the present. What is important for now is you are together, it's a piece of paper and in the long run, you have to spend money to get it void, maybe. I am not against it, but 4 years are not enough and who knows on the 5th year, one of you fall out of love. Just savor the time you have now, marriage can wait, you don't have any children I guess, so what's the rush?

He's 19, how old are you? Men mature slower than women. Some people are ready at that age for marriage and live a long and happy life together, but others who get married at such a young age these days are destined for failure. I'm not saying you're destined for failure, but I'm saying to give it time. You guys are still young, enjoy your relationship for what it is, enjoy your life, do what it is you want to do with your life before you go making a commitment like that. At this stage of your lives, you're still learning about yourselves and each other and you're still growing as people and a couple. My man and I have been together for 4 and a half years now and living together for 4. Sure, I want to get married, but it has taken me up until about 6 months ago to talk him round to the idea. I am now waiting for a proposal, but until we have a house of our own, we don't plan to get married as there are things in life that have priority, such as a stable roof over our heads. A year of living together is nothing, if you're still living together happily in a year or two and you still feel very strongly about the matter, then perhaps approach the subject again. Don't pressure him into it, but make your feelings on the matter clear. Personally I think he's making the right choice for him not to get married at 19, there's all the time in the world left.

well, I say give him a chance. he might later on decide that he wants to get married. Do not rush into anything and tkae your time, god will prevail whether or not this man is the right person for you. Sometimes people are afraid of committement and he might just need a little bit longer. Make the right decision and don't harass him in any way that could run him off. Talk about the situation.

Hi Jazzrae! I know someone in a similar situation. Without naming any names, this woman has been living with this man for over 10 years waiting for him to propose to her. He finally proposed to her Christmas day of 2010 but they never set a date. Fast forward 14 or months later, they are still not married and during a discussion he said they are not ready to be married. Based on that one statement, she decided to move out and get her own place and gave the engagement ring back to him. When she told him, he thought she was bluffing. He believes her now because she showed him the lease she signed for her own place she's moving in to next month. I guess he had time think about it and realize what he's going to miss because a week ago, he proposed to her and was ready to set a date. Although everyone knows she wants to get married, she told him she is not ready and if they were to get back together, she would not move back into his place. She said if he's serious, he will have to sell his home. For now, they are dating. She took a week off work to "get away" for a while and reflect. She says she let him get away with a lot of stuff and kept many of her feelings about certain things to herself so as not to upset him. She now says that she is going to be herself from now on and he has to decide if he can live with the new her (the real her). I don't know how this is going to turn out Jazzyrae, but if it's your desire to be married one day (while you're young) and your boyfriend doesn't have the same desire, I think you should discuss it very soon. I know you can't always control who you fall in love with but if you guys aren't on the same path, you both may be wasting each others time. Cheers, Stan

He may never be ready. but unlike me, I tell guys I will never marry on the first date, he thinks if he just lives with you , the marriage bug you have may pass. If you Have to marry , then he is the wrong guy. You shouldn't Have to beg or force a guy to marry you. He Should Want to marry just as much as you do. If you see spending time with this guy as wasting your time Just because he isn't ready to marry, then it is time to leave. Leave before the love you have turns into resentment. I hope you find a guy who Wants to marry.Good Luck!

"After that Issac brought her (Rebekah) into the tent of Sarah his mother. Thus he took her and she became his wife; and he fell in love with her, and Issac found comfort after the loss of his mother." Gen.24:67. Ive read similar scriptures in the old testament. All they did was take up living together and being intimate. That was the marriage. The certificates of birth and marriage didnt begin till when Mary was pregnant with Jesus. It was a decree given by a earthly king. Why? Probably so they can tax and charge people. Thats why Jesus was born ina manager. His Mother and Joseph was traveling to have their marriage on paper. What i dont undrestand is why so many find that paper so important. Many you can explain that to me. Certainly not for a garentee that it will be for life. Too many divorces to support that idea. All ya got to do is start using his last name. Marriage is of the heart.

I think that it is great that you feel as though you're ready for marriage, and I envy you in a sense. I love my partner, and think that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, however there is just something that is stopping me from taking that last step and saying that I will marry him. I kind of feel as though I would be a little bit trapped if I was married, as a lot of people who I know who have got married are not able to have the same amounts of fun as I am used to. I am only 21, and think that I have a lot more fun to have before I choose to marry my partner.

Try to talk with him and ask the reason why he is refuse to get married? It maybe because he is afraid of many things like the responsibility being a husband. Maybe he is doubt that he perform well being a husband or a father

you can must love is happy forever