How do you respond to gossipmongers?
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
July 6, 2012 6:26pm CST
What they say often pierce us. Ruins us. And, worse, it hinders the beginning of our friendship with other people. I don't know why there are people who simply can't contain their mouths. They can't help but advertise their filthy thoughts. I'd often hear friends say that it's much better to not mind them. They're just envious. I don't know what motivates them to do that vicious habit. But, I resolve to not get affected. It's tough but there's no way I can stop them. So, in stead of me sulking over a nasty rumor, I rather just shrug it off and go on with the day. What matters is there are people who believe in me and they are the ones who truly know and care about me. Who else should matter?
3 responses
@sbucu57 (55)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
Sadly there will always be people who enjoy making life miserable for others. These are negative people who are not worth one's time . It would be best to shy away from them and have as very few contact or none at all . Besides this world will still continue to move without them
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
You're right. I, actually, don't know what to think or how I should see them. Sometimes, I just want to bite at the reason that they have miserable life within themselves that's why they want to share their misery with others. Sometimes, I just think that they're just throwing their insecurities at me, which is often the case. Nevertheless, I still don't see any point in doing so. As if it's gonna change their situation or as it it's gonna make them happy. They're only destroying themselves more. *sigh*
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
Depending on the issue at hand, sometimes, it's tempting to engage ourselves in the gossip. There was a time when gossips about my husband having an affair with his colleague reached me from another building. I, being easily affected by issues like that, went on investigating and squeezing for more details. In the end, I was the one who got hurt, only to realize that those were false gossips. It almost tore our marriage apart, but good thing my husband didn't give up on trying to console me. I do hope people won't be too desperate to destruct other people's lives.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
I think there's really no good in allowing yourself engage in any form or in any way of gossip. It will only pollute your mind. And once the mind is polluted, it's hard to purify it again. it's better not to allow even a hint of dirt into your thoughts than allowing it to have even a dirt that becomes mound til it clouds your entire being. I know what you mean that it's inescapable in the sense that it's everywhere. Wherever you go, you'll simply here something no matter how you try to avoid it. But, I guess the thing to do is shrug it off. Let it in one ear then out the in the other. AND, never pass what you hear especially if you don't even have any proof of its truth. In fact, even if there's truth in it, why do you have to pass in the first place. There are things that aren't our business. Thanks for sharing.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
6 Jul 12
making u miserable is what they live for! u should set them streight before it gets worse, and it will. so act now. when i say set it streight i mean go up to them and ask them y they are doing this to u. if they just laught at u tell them that whatever happens next u will not be responsible for. but dont play at their game. u wanna be better than them.
ur are sooo strong to not get affected by them. they are being childish and they think its cute. its not. u know what else i think. they may be doing it for attention.
ppl like that are insecure. mommy and daddy must not pay any attention to them so they get it from elsewhere-u. but keep doing what ur doing!!!!
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
Thank you, verelop29. I know what you mean. I got hurt several times to the point of depression. I felt I was Britney Spears that every move I make is something to discuss about, behind my back. And, it made me ask if they won't ever find anything nice about me. And, yes, I did confront some of them. Only I am not used to their kind of games. Then, it dawned on me...if I keep allowing myself get affected, am the loser. They revel in the idea that they affect me. That they make me miserable. Why should I give them that? So, I let them be. Live and let live. They enjoy in what they're doing to my expense, but I don't really need to suffer from it. It's all a choice.
