Helping A Friend Who Doesn't Wanna Help Him/Herself

I don't think domestic violence is to be tolerated. At all. If my husband ever lays a hand on me, he is going to either die, or loose me forever. Either way, he will lose me forever. I think you should report to the authorities. It is the best thing for her, because she obviously is not courageous enough for it.

Unfortunately there is no way to help her except what you are already doing, listening when she needs it. I know that is hard to take but that is reality. We tried to help a few people that did not want the help because they would not stay away from the situation. It hurt us but you can only do so much, after that they have to do something for themselves! If she is not willing to leave even though she has places to escape, there is nothing you can do. You cannot force her to leave him and the situation. I am sorry, I wish there was a way for you to do more for her. I will keep her in my prayers!

I haven't been in this situation and I know you are affected because she is your friend. If she doesn't want to leave her husband then stay with her. Keep updated and try to talk and convinced her to report her husband. I know she's still in dilemma -between freedom and love. It is either she loves her husband or she is afraid to leave him. Try to figure out if the husband is threatening her and that is the reason why she cannot leave him. If her husband is not threatening her- then it's love that holding her back. Just stay with her and listens- pray that someday she'll woke up.

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How long can you bear just listening to your friend without her accepting any suggestions, even help in return ? How long can she bear having her face and body bruised, her heart scarred ? How long can you keep silent until you get tired of the unending, useless dance of domestic violence ? Clearly your friend does not want to listen, be help or change. And if she does not, I wonder how long can you bear all this.For me, I would rather shy away from the topic or not be available most of the time as conversations or relationships like this are tiring, eating away one's positive energy even affecting you in return. But then it is still your call. Until your friend get to realize that her marriage is not getting anywhere,or that she had slowly lost her identity every time she gets abused, then blessed be that day. I just hope when that happens, it will not be too late. I hope she will be enlightened any day now .

Dealing with a friend who is in a domestic violent relationship is never easy especially for those who do not want help. It could be that mentally she feels she doesn't deserve to be helped. If she has children you can let her know the children would grow up the same way, being abused or abusing others. If no children, you can show her examples of escalating domestic violent relationships that end tragically, and the outcome of those that the abused was able to walk away. You could call the police, but if she is afraid or does not want to get out of the relationship she would probably just lie to the police and say nothing happened. Maybe as a friend help her to build her self-esteem to a point where she is able to see how her husband has destroyed who she is as a person.

Sometimes people need to understand on their own but some other times true friends need to take matters on their own hands. I suggest you help your friend with the help of her family. This condition calls for drastic measures because her physical and emotional health is at stake.

Hi friend, it is really hard to advice this kind of persons, as they are not interested in following it, they just want us to know about their sufferings and want our cool words to get peace of mind, but don't take our suggestion after become cool from their issues. Better to stop advice this kind of persons and keep distance from them. We don't get any benefits by suggestion our words to this kind of persons

If that is the case just leave her in her way and her share her feelings with you. It is better to talk to her husband I think.

I think she needs help, someone who can enlighten and ease her mind. Your Friend needs you, someone who can talk to, listen and can lean on. Just be patience and try to understand her. Just be there for her no matter what. Tell her to go to church with you, better to talk and ask guidance to God. I think it will work somehow. To have her peace of mind. Good Luck.

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The only thing I can advice is to call in hot line numbers, you may report it as anonymous or a concern citizen. That kind of situation should be stop, violating women's rights had been done. There is no happy marriage if this kind of battering a wife. The children's rights are also violated, it can lead to traumatic experience for them.

For me if she didn't want your help then tell her family, parents what happened to her. If her parents were old and afraid that will hamper their health then go to authorities of to those who protect against the abused women. Or better spank or box her once so that she will realized that she was not a Punching bag. mmmm or teach him that at night when her husband was sleeping cut his .... Hair... Next night cut her shorts..anyway she's used to be a punching bag. The result her husband might not sleep with her again because he might be afraid that what she will cut again . A JOKE BUT IT MIGHT WORK :)