Do religion really matter so much?
By sharryCD
@sharryCD (121)
China
August 27, 2012 3:23am CST
I have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend six months ago. Actually they had a wonderful time and led a harmonious relationship. The girl was a Christian, therefore, the boy became interested in this religion and wanted to enjoy more similarities with that girl. However, that boy chose another religion which is thought to be a cult for most people. But he was quite strong-minded and even pursuaded his girlfriend into accepting that. At last, the reltionship was ended. Last month, the girl happended to hear a surpring news. The boy told his family he would not seek a girlfriend in the future as he had no interest in it.
Well, for me, i can not really understand how such a loving pair can be seperated due to this. Can true love conqure anything? Is it necessary for us to find a partner who has the same religion? If you were in the girl's situation, what would you do?
13 responses
@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
It is a very hard question for me. i think it would be better if a couple have the same religion. Because I find it hard if they have different religion. What will happen with their kids? What religion will the kids follow? How can they bring up their kids? It will be hard for the kids to understand and decide which to follow.
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 12
I think there is nothing can stop love happen between 2 person. I have different religion with my boyfriend, and we have discussed about this matter. We both are open minded and can accept the difference. Religions should be something that lead our way away from evil thing, and love is not evil thing to be afraid of. there many couples who last for years in different religions, I know some people can't accept this but this is my personal taste 
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
28 Aug 12
I don't think I would follow another person into something I didn't believe in. My husband and I have slightly different beliefs but we respect each others' differences. I don't think I would stay with someone who was in a cult or whose religion believed certain things. Being in love is not enough to overcome everything.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Aug 12
True love is there but not only for the flesh but for their spiritually . Most people have a relationship with God that is important and It would be nice for your spouse to respect that even if they dont practice your religion .
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 12
One can say religion transcends what our minds can perceive. It is to do with how you see your life and your surroundings and rooted deep in your moral judgment.
When I realize that, I know that healthy and intimate relationship can not ignore that. This is a very hard question and we can't understand the situation by judging religion in blind eye and ignore what they grasp and accept in their religion.
Love is indeed a miraculous thing, but true love can't ignore how the other person perceive about life. Because it can not ignore, love can't rule above all.
@freedang (320)
• China
27 Aug 12
of course love conqure nothing.but religion belife is very special thing,i can understant that young man.just have a look on the history and i think you can have a better idear about that,there were so many people die just coz they sticked to their religion faith
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
27 Aug 12
I dont believe in Love so for me religion is much more important and all it depends on your thoughts that what you prefer in life.
I think love does not exist and we all are developing relations becoz we need each other like a barter trade system so i will never go for some extreme or high level of sacrifice for love and in the same way if some peoples prefer love then they will never go after religious teachings while following their love.
This guys thoughts got changed and he set religion as his preferred thing in life or in other words we can say his love turned from gf to religion and now he is following his love.
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
Hello! There are many couples have just separated because of religion. For me I think religion is important but it depends on the religion. What I mean here if both of you believe in one God but different denominations I think this kind of relationship could be agreed because you have only one God. But if you have in different religion for example Christian, Islam or Buddhism I think you have to think it twice because for me this kind of discrepancy is a serious problem. I in myself me and my husband are not in the same religion but we believe on God only we are in different denomination but we talk about that. So my conclusion on this try to pray for your relationship then decide about it.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
If I were the girl, I'd let the guy go. I won't force myself to someone who is not even willing to learn my religion. I am not saying it is only him who should learn my religion. I am also willing to learn his if he would let me. If I like his religion, I might be changing my religion. In my own opinion, there is no harm with changing your religion. We all have one God and even if we call him with different names, it is all one and the same creator and our father. It's only up to us humans if we learn and adapt any religion.
@Gautam1002 (730)
• India
27 Aug 12
I respect religion and its freedom and limitations. I do not primarily keep it as the only thing to focus upon but I try to pay attention over what my religion is telling and will it be a fault from their perspective. Nothing on this world can be ruled by a single law. Same is the case here. You need to adjust to situations and set your priorities accordingly.
@favouredmost (256)
• Kenya
27 Aug 12
Yes religion is very important especially if you look forward to having kids together and this becomes a topic of conflict later on in life when the challenges of life manifest themselves. One of the issues is which religion the children shall belong to and the way people pray and believe in different things.
@jeffery120 (9)
•
27 Aug 12
You know, a relationship between the boyfriend and the girlfriend should be based on discussing. And when I say that, I keep in mind a quote: "Telling someone your beliefs is nothing more than a thought, but trying to force someone to share the same beliefs as you is FRUSTRATION".
I don't think religion should be something to get stuck at in a relationship, but I consider it more as a test.
I, personally, don't think I would change my opinions about a person if I find out they have different beliefs (I am not religious at all, but I follow Christ), but if I think about someone from my family, or my friends, ...
@giridharkv (6)
• India
27 Aug 12
Relation are based on trust & Maturity of the partners. those who understand each other do not depend upon religion
