Teenage wedding

Philippines
August 27, 2012 8:06am CST
Hi what can you say about teenage wedding? Do you approve or give consent to your son/ daughter who wanted to get married at age of 15 to 18 year old? I understand that teenager today were so fast tract, they do things not suited to their age. they think that they were old enough to have their own and that we should not mind their own business. they just listen to their heart not to their mind. they wanted that what their whims and wishes will materialize and do everything even you object. now at this stage they wanted to have their own to marry a person whom they think they love much. what can you say about this mylotters?
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22 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
28 Aug 12
I just can't understand why any 15 year old even being in a position to ask if they could have anyones consent to marry.. How did they get to that point at 15...someone (the parents) did not do their job....thats all I can say...
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• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Amen. If your little snotty 16 year old is asking for permission to get married then you might have to invest a little more time on your parenting. There are a lot of crazy but normal things teens do and this isn't one of them... that's all I can say too.
@freedang (320)
• China
27 Aug 12
to be honest i dont agree with it,just coz i think that the teenagers cannt learn the true meaning of love and they always swayed by their feelings and act rashly.it is too young.marrage is one of the most important thing in our life and we should think it over
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
28 Aug 12
You are very right dear Freedang! During this age they are just under the influence of newly secreted body hormones and they really don't know what a true love means. As you said they are not matured enough to have a fixed thinking at this time and they can get strayed in their life because of immaturity. Marrying at this age after producing kids with make their life hell. They should be explained what exactly is love and what is a marriage! Their role as a married persons in the Society ! Thanks!
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
I am absolutely against any teenage marriage. They are still not mature enough to make any decisions. I think, if ever a teenage girl becomes pregnant, she should not be allowed to marry. They should let her reach at least the age of 21 until such time that she is able to decide what is really good for her and her child. Teenage marriage are always bound to breaking up in a couple of years.
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@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
First of all, in my country, marrying below the age of 18 even with parents legal consent is null and void. Secondly, I won't give my consent to my son if he decides to marry at the age of 18. Without my consent, that marriage would be null and void too and I as a parent could even file an annulment for that if they pushes through with the marriage. That is a very tender age to marry and I don't think that teens at that age are mentally and physically inept to a marriage. I just hope I don't have to worry for that when my son reaches the age of 18. At the moment he had verbally made it known to us he wouldn't get married but would like to have a child someday. When we asked him why, his response was he didn't want to get a headache from the wife.
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
28 Aug 12
Dear Toni! I understand your point and I agree that since your country laws says that the parents consent is a must to get their children's marriage, there is nothing these kids they can do. I am happy to know that your son listens to you. But here the point raised in the discussion is something very different one. Here in this discusion it has been highlighted about the teenage girls as young as 13 years who are becoming mother and to cover up that status of single mother they are planning to get into wedlock! The point here is if they are physically,mentally and financially grown enough to take the responsibility of married life and can they take the responsibility of raising the child in a responsible manner! Thanks !
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
I think this is the time wherein parents should have an active part on their children's choices, decision making and several affairs. I believe guidance and constant communication would pay a big part on this stage that they are still young to commit on to someone. Let them experience the good and bad things of having a wife or a husband in their age. Diversionary techniques is important in here. Make him or her busy, enroll her in several courses, expose him or her to the real world as it is. Thanks
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• India
27 Aug 12
I never support teen marriages, since teen age is the period which should be handled with care. We don't know what is good and what is bad in our teen age and every thing seems to be right at that time. Mostly teen age persons don't give importance to their parents and give their full support to their friends and follow their words and suggestions. The parents of the teen age kids must consider their son/daughter as their friend and make a good friendship with them to guide them in a good way. Mostly teenagers will fall in love easily, it may be a crush or infatuation, but the teen persons consider it as a real love and interested in getting marriage. Even some persons married their beloved person in their teen age and spoil their life due to this kind of unwanted activities. Teen age is the time of expressing the emotions, we must control our feelings and emotions at that time to achieve a lot in our life, otherwise we will go in the wrong path and our life with be spoiled with this kind of unwanted activities. Teen age is not the proper age for marriage, we must be matured and have the ability to face responsibilities before getting marriage and avoid the marriage ideas in our teen age which is good for our life. Teen marriages must be banned.
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• India
29 Aug 12
Ak, you are right, teen age persons must be very careful and avoid this kind of temptations to come out from issues, if they give importance to their silly desires there life will be spoiled.
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@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Aug 12
I think it is too early for the teenagers to get married. Here the minimum legal marriage age may be around 21 years old. Even though, I still prefer to get married later. Since teenagers are still very young and don't have more experience. Teenagers are still students and they shall spend more time on study. They will be mature and change a lot when they grow up. Besides, the finance is important for a family. As you will have baby after that. So I don't agree to get married as a teenager. If it is true love, it deserves to wait. I love China
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
I am not in favor of teenage marriage. Kids do not have enough maturity to decide on things most especially in terms of deciding for a family. All kids have in mind are just fun.
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
28 Aug 12
Nowadays teenagers are cool about what they gonna do. For i think this is due to the fast development of our society. lol,anyway, life is cool,right? At least you are not regret about what you did if you really want that thing.Also good to you.
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@nashria (31)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Good question! Well I definitely disagree this teenage, because at this stage they really still need to study and must learn more about life, actually your right at this generation almost 50% teenage are on early stage of marriage which is not good for them.i strongly disagree my about this matter.
• China
28 Aug 12
i don't support the idea because at the age of 15-18,they are still very young,and have a lot of things to learn.only in this way can they have more to help them with their life and children.
@mikej143 (309)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
absolutely I disagree with teenage wedding, In this generation yes all are high tech and advance but also the mentally of the teenager today are advance in wedding or in any relationship. They can't carry it on to have a family or rather have a big responsibility in their part its not a joke to have a marriage its not just you like or a puppy love etc. or its not just like teenagers want a beautiful girls and if they have they could marry instantly, sooner if they have family at the age 20-26 or either at 30 they could see that their partner are now ugly then instantly they could divorce? naah its not a toy to have to be played.
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@daisy777 (214)
• South Africa
28 Aug 12
I really don't think I would give my 15 year old permission to marry. In any event, they should still be busy with their schooling at that age. I must say, however, that I know someone who got married when she was 19 and her husband was 25. They are still married today, 25 years later.
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• India
28 Aug 12
The teenage is a very delicate period of life, people doesnt have the balance over them, they cant understand what is good and bad for them, they feel friends are their world, and listen to them more than parents, also thats not love its only attraction and infatuation, the internal organs of the children are also not properly developed, moreover they should concentrate more on studies and career during teenage.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
27 Aug 12
In my home country with parental permission a sixteen or seventeen year old would be permitted to get married. I know that young people go through a few relationships before they find the one they wish to marry and they know they are fully compatible. I would be against my seventeen year old's plan to get married if that was the situation. You see I would be afraid that his studies would decline. I would say get engaged and then get married when you are twenty years old. Then he might split up before they reach that age. Divorce is common in my home country and I don't wish to have that for my son. I would feel that same for my disabled son and my daughter once they are teenagers. One of my friends met her man when she was just sixteen years old. They waited until she was twenty two years old before she got married to him. They are still married and have a daughter. Many other teenage romances don't last though.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Aug 12
I understand here in our country, many teenagers already indulge themselves into things that supposedly only married people must do. Some girls get pregnant as young as 14-15 which is very sad. I do not agree with teenage marriage- it's not solution if ever my young daughter get pregnant at young age. I will guide her for a better future and won't make another mistake of getting her into early marriage.
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
27 Aug 12
i have seen it happen to several of my friends and i think its a whole new concept altogether,i think they wont have the maturity to build a family anytime
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
27 Aug 12
They are quite small but sometimes these newlyweds when you meet the love has no boundaries. you know the basics that sometimes love is blind. honestly do not know what to say I'm trying to put myself in your place and I like you but it does not work just do not come to this. There are many negative and positive qualities for such a wedding. when young married they experience love and that love emanates from the heart and soul but also they are not mature enough difficulties in the life of a little old man. interesting discussion. nice day!
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@Shavkat (140118)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
In the eyes of God and in the eyes of people, it is not acceptable to marry at a young age. Even the rules of law doesn't permit to marry below 18, it is not a legit age to get married. I think we need to educate more the teens about the concept of getting at the young age.
27 Aug 12
i'm not approve in teenage wedding they are not mature enough to build a family. how come they get a stable work to feed their family? they should study first before they think to marry.