How to Save a Dying Relationship???

I'm not yet married but as to my stand in that situation is to let go. Don't ever hold into a relationship that you're not happy anymore. Happiness is a choice not a destiny.However I hope that if you will going to end up that relationship you're already ready to face the consequences that might going to happen like the effects on it with your children.

Marriage is a difficult job, between the couple. Is there any open book communications? Perhaps, the energy is consumed with a lot of stress. If the partners are open for changes, then there will be dilemma. It can also be a pride thing, they tend to show how strong they are. But deep inside, they are weak. Try to have a marriage counseling, so we can determine the hang ups in your relationship to your hubby.

Why did you say it's dying? You said that he does not want to let you go so I think it's a good sign that both of you can still work it out. Have you tried talking to him about it? Have you gone to a marriage counselor yet? As long as there are kids involved, you should always find time and give extra effort to work it out. I know it's not easy, I've been married for 15 years and several times in the past I almost gave up on my husband too, but now I'm really happy that we're still together.

I know how you feel, dsw313. I also feel the same way, even after being married for 17 years. It is really hard to be in a relationship if you can clearly see the difference between the two of you. Getting out of a relationship may seem to be the solution to some. But you should also think if it would really make you happy. And if you can handle to have a broken marriage. I had my share of bad times with my husband. Although some who knows me would tell that I should make myself free from this marriage, I still chose to stay for my kids' sake. Not everybody could live with this set up. It's just a matter of choice.

Hi dsw313, I agree with you we only discovered many differences in a couples or married people after many years that passed by. Some of them are bad and some are good but since were married we need to accept it for the sake of the relationship and family. There are times we need to be hurt to become a strong person and to test our patient but keep hold on to God and pray for the strength so that you can handle everything that your going through right now. I am hoping and praying that someday you find peace in your heart and mind and the will go away. Have a good day!

Hi there friend. You are just going on a test of your relationship which many couples will go through. I am married for 11 years now and been through the same test and we were able to overcome the situation. It is really difficult to decide for your decision will not only be for yourself but for your family specially the kids. I was able to hold on and just thought of the well wish of my ninang that you just look at your wedding picture to remember your vows to each other that you will be with him in happy or sad times. Not only the vows to remember but the memory that you have loved each other which was the reason you decided to be with each other no matter what. As they say if you love someone, you love his assets and liabilities as well.

if he's hurting you go leave him, if phyiscally or even verbally I think you can approach the government so they can act on it or the police.

You can't save a dying relationship if you're the only one working to save it. Both of you must share in the effort to make your relationship better. But if only one of you is doing the saving, then it's a lost cause. The children will suffer also if they both see you fighting often, it's not good for the kids. If you think that the relationship will go nowhere, I think you don't have to hold on anymore and just let go.

Sometimes it's helpful to treat your husband to some spanking. Let him know that he's crossing the line. He will treat you the way you allow him to. Step up and let him know. Let him know that you love him but there will be things you'll not put up with. If he feels the love, he won't resent you standing up to him. Talk it over. Never raise hell. With confidence and composure, let him know your thoughts and feelings. Who knows, that just might be what he's waiting for from you. :)

It's better if you talk seriously calm with your husband on what is happening on your relationship and what things disturbs the both of you. Remember to always put God as the center of your relationship. You choose for it, you fight for it, and you work for it.