Unwanted pregnancy

I would not force her to marry anyone, in fact I would discourage any marriage under the age of 18. Loving parents should not consider the family's reputation before the well being of their daughter. At such a time she needs love,protection and support from her family. Her pregnancy might be her fault, even her parents if they have left her in ignorance about pregnancy. Whatever the reason she should not have to bear the burden alone,those who love her are the only ones who can restore what she has lost.

force marriage in my opinion will never be a solution with that situation, it is better for the two young parents to be separated temporarily, in this way both of them will have time to realized the problem they made, then when the time comes that they a both ready to marry then go for it, but if that time did not come it is better for the both of them to be permanently separated.

I have sons and they are married. What my feeling is that often if the girl does not mar;ry, the fact that she has a child out of wedlock may make it harder for her to find a husband even one she loves very much. And even if she does give up the baby for adoption, the fact that she is no longer a virgin makes it also harder. That used to be that way in Canada in the 1960s and before, and even though they say that things have changed, it may not be in people's hearts. WE can see it on tv when people go before the court on trivial issues, and it is years later, they have a child together, and still not married. So when they said that it is all rilght for a girl to keep a child, they assumed that the boys would now marry them, but they were also conditioned not to marry the gir as she had the right to choose. I would say if they have been going for some time, tell them they have to get married, but if it is for a short time, say no and then start looking for a husband for the daughter because you do not want to have her living at home with the baby and not being able to get a good job.

I don' think marriage is the answer if that will happen. If they are still young, I will suggest to them to wait until they are matured enough to make decisions on their own.

No, I would not force my daughter to marry the father or her child. I would, however, expect the father of the child to do his bit and support the child as much as possible.

Forcing the man to marry their minor daughter who got pregnant should be avoided by parents because it will just add more problems for both parents especially if the minors are irresponsible and they don't know their responsibilities as parents to their coming child. Give them time to mature and equipped themselves in all sorts physically. emotionally, financially, spiritually and make them able to be a responsible parenthood.

Nope, If it is a teenage pregnancy, then I'll never force them to get married. If they really loved each other, then maybe they need to finish their study first and let them decide if they will get married. I don't think the family reputation will become an issue here and I'll swallow all the pride I'll have but never force them to get married. But when they're on the right age then I think that would be possible.

i will have to consider the circumstances that is, is the man a respectable one(which i doubt in this case)? are they both mature enough to realize the responsibilities of a married life and capable enough to sustain it? but foremost is i will consider it's effect on my daughter's life and would be more concerned of her good future than considering the humiliation it will bring to the family.

Many things can happen forcing somebody to marry somebody. Who knows the pregnancy wasn't out of love. We should be reminded that the essentials of a successful marriage is love and not just for the reason of keeping a good reputation.

well,if both of them are minors then i won't agree with the marriage for i believe it would just create more trouble,more problems that would be the root of ending the marriage itself. I'd rather give both of them the chance to grow as responsible parents for their child and when the time comes that they're ready for the couple's commitment then i would be willing to set them in marriage.

Teen age persons easily fall in infatuation with opposite gender person and think it is the real love, due to their curiosity they got pregnancy easily, after that they worry a lot about their mistakes. There is no use in regretting for our mistakes after forming the baby. Lot of teen age persons whoever did this kind of mistakes are ready to abort the unseen baby which is really a great sin. We don't have rights to kill other life even though it is an unborn baby. Teen age persons must control their emotions to avoid this kind of problems, don't give importance to unwanted infatuations and crush and fall as a prey to them to make your life as delicate. Parents of the teen age persons must watch their each and every activities to avoid this kind of issues. If your daughter got this kind of pregnancy, don't try to abort the baby, as well as don't force them for marriage, let her to give birth to the kid and make her to settle down in the life before marriage. Abortion is not a solution for this kind of problems and it will create some unwanted problems in the future. Guide your teen age kids in a good manner to avoid this kind of unwanted problems.

marrying the father of your child to be is not the solution of the mistake that you have done. Some parents forced their children to marry the man who's the father of their child to be, thinking about their reputation without thinking about the sad result of this situation. One mistake is enough, marrying by force is another mistake that would last forever. If ever they don't love each other or they are not ready yet, then why should I force my child to marry that person.

To go for the happiness you are looking for. No one should interfere for the love that binds together.

Sometimes we are so engrossed with "family reputation! That we loose touch with the reality of the moment. I say stick to reality and deal with reality and the reputation will sort itself out for thr is nothing for courageous than facing reality and dealing with it. When it comes to an underage daughter who got pregnant, first we should support her with what she want to decide and perhaps, as fellow parents, guide her as to what she should do. Marrying hef to the guy who got pregnant is just rash and stupid. Whats the guarantee she cant screw her family's.reputation after marriage? What if this forced marriage leads to a divorce? Then again the reputation is threatened.what then? Kill her?

I guess most of the parents will let their daughters to marry the responsible men. Only a few won't let their daughters marry. Some people only think about disgrace. I guess it's not good because they are still young. They just have to finance the child. If they still love each other as they grow up or become mature, then they can marry but not forcing them if they aren't yet prepared. That will just lead to a broken family in the future. Happy mylotting.

I would encourage all parties to share in the responsibility of the pregnancy. i would not force marriage because what kind of relationship can there be if someone is pushed or coerced in to the situation. there are other was of taking responsibilitiies in thes situations.

As a parent first of all I will pray to god such incidence should never be happen in the life of any girl as it will be shame to her family and even she will have to face the consequences in the society. I am sure not a single parent will allow their daughter to get married to such person but there may be the case when both the family agree then it is possible.

hi sunshine, there would be no way I would make my daughter marry anyone for any reason...Why make another error to cover an error..I never felt like you should make you child marry just because she gets pregnant.. I think as a parent there are times when we need to put that "save the daughter/family reputation" aside and do what has to be done...this is one of those times... and thats stand with your daughter and make the best of the situtation. I think I would be more embrassed if mu child was arrested.. There are always worst things that could happen.. Its just one mylotters opinion, and thats my final answer...LOL

for me, i will not think of the reputation of each of the family. what i will consider is the future of the kids. to say, having a family at a very young age would stake anyone at very high risk to have a broken family. youngsters mind were too yet unripe in making decision pertaining to married life. would both parents promised to support the couple till they can get up in their own feet? and even they would be supportive as ever, i am sure, these teenagers have activities in life they do want to do aside from taking care of his husband or wife. and this thing is already a clash. and this one would is surely considered as a problem that might break anyone. so to say, i will not force them to have marriage at early age. leave them for the moment and who knows about the life they could have in the future. admittedly, there are couples who succeed and have a strong bond of their marriage but generally, most of it was a failure. thanks for this

I have some friends, they are going to get married. But, at the last minute, they changed their mind. Thinking that it is not a solution for getting pregnant. Marriage is not the last option. Basically, it will be condemn by some sectors or even in the eyes of people influenced with doctrines. But, we still have the freedom to choose.