Unsolicited Advice
By Fuxymaxy
@Fuxymaxy (10)
Romania
September 3, 2012 3:21pm CST
I was raised not to give unsolicited advices. No matter if you know things better, or care about them. Unsolicited advices are almost never welcome. Because people are proud, even in a hard situation. And an unwelcome advice may be disregarded forever. It may be true, it may be a diamond,but most of the time you get quarter of the desired effect of aid than in a situation when you are "provoked" to say it.
Of course, there are sublime situations where its natural to give the comforting ideas, words, thoughts, but there are also the ones when you make a preacher of yourself, rather than a helper.
And because I value what I want to say in desperate situations, I won't ruin it by bursting it into every common peoples face. Like know:D
2 responses
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
9 Sep 12
I think we need to be a good observer before we can offer advice. Body language usually tells us quite plainly whether someone is just sounding off or if they want some advice. If we feel compelled by the circumstances (which might be desperate ones) then we should say something but keep it really short. If that person went off and did something stupid after sharing their problems with us we would feel really guilty about our silence, whatever our motive was.
