May I trust you that I`m tired of serving meals 6 days a week ?

@dainy1313 (2370)
Leon, Mexico
September 3, 2012 4:52pm CST
Hello friends, I have just realized that I`m tired of serving meals 6 days a week, in the last 15 years. My mother worked full day for 25 years. She never cooked. We had a maid-nanny who cooked for my mother, from monday to sunday. I was raised in the best schools of my city. I graduated with honors. Two years later I got married. My parents got divorced a week before. But as I never learnt to cook from my nanny nor my mother, I read a lot of books and magazines. And I cooked. I decided to be a stay at home mom, since I noticed the lack of the mother figure at my home. But today I`m tired of serving meals from monday to saturday! I`m kind of an idiot? Lazy? Do I need vacation? The last, and the first I took since I got married, were on May`011. I have an eshop that works best on Winter time, because I sell leather jackets, and this helps me to attend home and household chores. But I am so bored of cooking serving meals whole week! Today I bought some already cooked food, because I felt bored. I think I feel sad too, because I´d like more help from the children. Today I asked them to wash the dishes, and the three of them agreed. I`m planning to open a grocery store next week, I`m affraid of course, but I think this will bring a change in my daily rutine, and in the family rutine. I`m sad but I have to admit that I do not want to be serving meals the whole week in the next decade. I`d like children to get involved. But they do not get involved at least we had the need. So I think change will be for best. Sometimes I`ll be at the store and two days a week they must come alone from school to home and serve meals themselves. I´m affraid to change, but my mind is asking this change too. Do you feel tired of serving meals the whole week? Have you experienced this feeling of boredom? What did you do?
11 responses
@Tato58 (33)
• Mexico
3 Sep 12
Yeah, sometimes routine can get pretty boring if you have time you could get extra activities which you enjoy also sometime in the week you can buy dinner
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
3 Sep 12
Yes routine is terryfing. Routine can change ones appreciation of reality. That happens also when we have a love relationship, routine may kill it. Isn´t it? Blessings Tato!
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
5 Sep 12
How about making the meals a family affair? Try to put it as a game instead of a chore they must do. Maybe then you could get your children to help you. How old are they? I think teens are perfectly capable of doing the whole meal for the family once a week.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
5 Sep 12
Yes marguicha, you are right. I think I`ve already pampered enough my sons, and I would like to see them as my everlasting babies/kids, but time has come, life is asking us a change, they are almost teens and I don´t want lazy people here at home (yours too). Thanks you for your advice. Blessings marghicha!... dainy
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
8 Sep 12
You can start giving them responsability in small steps, but making sure that they are not doing you a favor or "helping", but that it´s their part of the family work. They should not be paid extra for those chores either.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Sep 12
Routine work daily will get you bored. You need to make some adjustment and changes. Don't always make it yourself. Make a habit to involve your kids specially during weekend. I don't know how to cook but when my wife tired and ask me to cook for our meal. No choice at all. Lately, we decided to make some cook schedule. My 2 sibling who live with us and my father, both of them will cook also for our meal. We really enjoy having our meal.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Sep 12
If you do it to your kids you will help them to manage their future. How I wish I can turn back time when my mom still alive so that she can teach me more recipes. I am tired before to cook with my mother. Because I am already married, no choice I need to know how to cook on my own without any coach. Sometimes, my wife teach me how to cook some of her favorite recipes.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
You are right julyteen, adjustments and changes are needed because routine can kill anybody happiness. You are right. I´ve been pampering my kids, and time has come that I need their help. Thanks you for sharing me about your cooking schedule. If I don´t ask for help to my family, to whom should I? Isn´t it? Blessings julyteen!... dainy
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I think there is more to this than just serving those meals my friend. I could understand you as lately i feel the same way, i feel like i need some variation in my life..something that would create that passion again. With chores at home, office work, kids..tending them, i feel like everything is so routinary and i could not do anything but abide with it as well i am working to have that food in our table and it is hard and i honestly feel like you do..but then what do i do about it? i mean i could not just quit my job and not work or travel or something.. i just try my best to motivate myself.. look at small things that would perk me up... maybe you having that grocery will do you good my friend, i do not want to be the one to say do not be afraid of change as like you i am afraid of change, i am afraid of facing the unknown and what is to come.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
Dear jazel thanks you for your kind and encouraging words, they come to me like a soft vanilla ice cream in a hot day! Yes I should look for that match that will light on my candle again. Blessings jazel!... dainy
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
4 Sep 12
Hi Does your kids if old enough do they know how to cook here a way even for you to change to the way you cook do cook the same kind of every day that get boroing trying cooking dishes from other worlds have your kids try to learn them and make it a contest to see who make the most intresting dish a lot of cooking show on tv and internet today that can give you and idea and here other problem solver since you be running a business all day look up personal chef they come to your home cook 10-20 entree for the week then when you get home all the cooking done just have to reheat and eat dinner it better then going to all the fast food places talk to a persnoal chef in your area.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
Hello eagletrek my eldest kid is a girl who is 14, then in the middle I have a kid of almost 12 (we can talk about two young teens, though!) and the smallest one is almost 10. The smallest one is the most encouraging to help making meals. I think the olders have been pampered and they avoid being at the kitchen. This sunday the smallest one, without request offered himself to make a delicious breakfast. While the other two just sitted to eat. But on sunday my husband cooks, so he asked help to the eldest. You gave me a great idea! I can sit them watch youtube videos with easy cooking recipes!! You`re right! This will change routine, they will feel motivated, and I must help supplying them. I`d eat even just a good sandwich prepared with love! Thanks you for your advice. Blessings eagletrek!... dainy
@VGDesigns (102)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Whenever I experience this I go out to eat or bring home dinner. Always works for me.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
8 Sep 12
I see, I think I´m becoming miser. Since we are 5 persons. You gave me an idea! So close from here they sell chinese food, it isn´t so expensive, and everybody loves chinese food! Thanks you for your advice. Blessings vgdesigns.... dainy
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
Sometimes I get bored with finding good things to make, but since my husband does more than half of the cooking (I usually just end up doing breakfasts and lunches), it's not too bad. When I was a teenager, some nights it was my turn to cook, even though my mom didn't work outside the home. I usually made spaghetti or something simple like that.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
You are right cutepenguin! I think that I pamper my kids. But time has arrived to ask them some help, and to make them learn. I´m on time. What a nice husband you have! God bless you both. Mine helps me on sunday. Yummy! Blessings cutepenguin!...dainy
@GardenGerty (160908)
• United States
4 Sep 12
It does get tiresome. Do you eat out on the Sundays then? I did not have my children cook alone, but we did cook together. I think that was a mistake. They should have been responsible for one day a week each to plan and make a list and cook a meal. When I visit my daughter often she is not the one cooking, Her husband likes to cook as well. The last time I visited she was very pregnant, and I cooked. My son, in his first marriage, had a wife who did not cook. He did the best he could, but no one was happy. I even prepared a meal and took to them one day a week, but no one was ever happy then, either. You will be doing yourself and your children a favor by having them learn to plan a meal, make a shopping list and prepare the food.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
Hello gardengerty, eating out of home is too expensive and we cannot afford it, so my husband cooks on sunday. I buy him some easy things to cook, and I do not hesitate to eat whatever he wants to cook . It´s a good idea to cook with kids together, in this way they will know how to cook when they get older, and they won´t be like me when I got married. I´ll try to begin with dinners, some easy things. The smallest one made a delicious egg with sausage souffle this sunday for breakfast. But the eldest ones do not cook. I think that this change is a chance to develope ourselves. Yeah I´ll make rolls for cooking, and make the list so they can cook a meal. Cooking men are so delightful! God bless them. My father just cooked if he was starving. And he was selfish because he just cooked for himself. God bless your pregnant daughter and may the Lord deliver the little angel she carries with love. When my mother cooks I feel pampered, even when I know she doesn´t love the kitchen. I appreciate it so much. As she got divorced I invite her three times a week to eat with us. Sometimes she brings something with her, some salad, or she brings some fried chicken. Blessings gardengerty!... dainy
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I agree with posters suggesting you teach your children to cook. Try easy dishes, so they won't give up and you just might find one of them enjoys cooking. My daughter loves to bake and likes to try cooking new dishes for her boyfriend. Make cooking time fun by letting them pick foods to cook at the grocery store. If you have room put in a garden, as when my daughter picks the vegetables, then she is happier to cook and eat them.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
You are right fishmomma, I have to think in easy dishes. And my husband and I have to learn to be patient with them. I`m happy to know about your girl. She is motivated!! Here at my country is so common to say to a young lady who cooks fine: you are ready for marriage! (kind of joke) My mommy had some veggies growing in some or her pots, she lives a block from here. And my youngest kid loves to gather seeds to grow. Thanks you for your advice. Blessings fishmomma!... dainy
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
4 Sep 12
I have learned to categorize meals so as not to get tired of doing it everyday. There are the meals that you cook from scratch. There are quick-meals that come off the freezer and into the oven. And there are days when we just order in a pizza or even some fast food. It isn't the healthiest, but it serves days when I too am 'too lazy' to move. Goodluck with your grocery!
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
Dear bounce I see, it´s better to be wiser than brave.I think that I feel ashamed that I´m not a supermom, that never asks for help and that´s always courageous, and self efficient. I´ll have to be wiser then! Blessings bounce...dainy
@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
I think my mom was so lucky. When we grew up, she trained us to be independent and raised us with sense of sensitivity and a responsible person. We help her even if she doesn't talk, we know the routine. Tasks had been designated for us to accomplish within the day. Try to be assertive to your children, I am sure they are open for that changes.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
4 Sep 12
Yes you are right shavkat, as I grew up with a nanny I had never helped her with household chores as it wasn´t my task, my task was just to study and have the perfect A. But now that I decided to live in a different way that my parents did, I had to find the way to raise my children cooperative. Thanks you for your advice. Blessings shavkat!... dainy