Is life really fair?
By chentunacao
@chentunacao (309)
Philippines
September 3, 2012 11:10pm CST
Those who enjoyed life might say that. But how about those who suffered from birth to death?
Some enjoyed much and suffer a little.
Some suffered much and enjoyed a little.
Some suffer hardships while others live so rich.
Some had a happy family and some have can't even trust their own family.
Some have plenty or have big houses that is too much for themselves while others have no place to sleep.
Some were always criticize while others have always been appreciated.
Some were treated nicely while some treated bad especially when you are poor.
Can you still say that life is fair?
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22 responses
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
4 Sep 12
I agree with you, but why do not you say that sometimes it is the Grand Palace,may be tight on those who live in it because they do not love each other, and on the contrary may be the large number of people living in a confined space does not afford, but they feel comfortable in it because there love between each other. Contentment and satisfaction of what God has granted to us be happiness
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
19 Sep 12
My heart with you, but I ask you a question, did not find some of the happiness in just your care for this child.
The day will come that you be a private family, and're breeding and care of your children.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Hi taheraa,
Thank you for reminding me of that. " Contentment and satisfaction" are the best way to be happy in whatever life's situation gave you. But when you are in a situation like mine being enslaved to be the nanny of my aunt's baby and the household chores. Can't work to earn a living, I am single but a big responsibility in taking care of a baby everyday without rest day was placed in my shoulder without a single cent in return. Good thing I have given a privilege to use the computer.
Can you still be satisfied and contented when you can't work decently being entangled with a baby who is not yours?
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
yes their is joy in my heart taking care of this child. Because I love children. But if taking care of a child hinders me from earning a leaving is another story. It affects my ability to earn for my personal needs . I need to buy soap,shampoo, and everything that a person need (they didn't provide me with that) who else will if I can't work?I need to support my father financially. I have my own goals in my life. The reason that I didn't marry at an early age because I want to fulfill those dreams and goals I have in life.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Sep 12
I saw since I was a child that life is unfair. But we can blame also why people experience like what they have. It's not a matter of one generation only. To those people who are rich today might be their forefather work hard so that they become rich. Those who are lazy they become poor.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Your are also might right at that point julyteen. But how about those who are really born born and can't really afford to go to school to improve their financial stability?
@lampar (7584)
• United States
4 Sep 12
No, i can not say that after read your words. Life is not really fair under this condition you just described. But what the heck, i am still alive and capable of making my life better after all these events with my brain, the important part is that i am healthy and fit, i just have to work harder and strive for the best in life even though it is not fair, i refuse to whine about it anymore.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 12
hi lampar why do p eople kee p bringing this up as life was nev er meant to be fair. we can enjoy what we hav e and smile'and
make a happy life even pooror we can be sour and bitter and hate every one and make our life a living hell even if we might be wealthy=.LIFE IS WHAT WE MAKE IT FOLKS.so lets make it cheerful'and appreciative of allk we do have and helpful and kind to all we meet.
So heres to life and being alive and kicking and being happy
@lampar (7584)
• United States
5 Sep 12
Tell you the truth, my friend, i don't know the reason behind it. But what i can tell you is that "i had learned it from many of my passed years living in this world that it is always better for me to work a lot harder and make full use of what i have now to strive for the best for good thing to happen in my life than wasting my time sitting around blaming my parent or the world for this unfair life." The saying of a sage in paraphrase.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Definitely right toyota, this world is not our real home. It made me realize that instead of thinking about the 2 sides of life. Why not spend our time on how to delight ourselves in the Lord to glorify his name alone.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
4 Sep 12
There are times when I'd feel that life is unfair. But I learn through faith that everything happens for a reason and to be grateful for everything that you have...
After all, I believe the best judgement will come. All the unfairness in this life will be reconciled and everything will be in the state of justice here after.
It's probably impossible to say life is fair; but this life is short...
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi sishy,
Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts. The best thing to think about is to be thankful for what we have and not counting those we not.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Life is fair ? I would like to say , it depends on how life treats you. If life is sailing smoothly, less problems and i can smile occasionally then that i can say life is fair. But if life gives very heavy loads , so hard blocks and very rocky and muddy road then i will say life is so very unfair. Life actually have 2 sides , fairness and being unfair..it depends on the individual as to how she deals with the situation.
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@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Hi angelpink,
it made me smile reading your response. You got exactly what I am thinking about life's 2 sides, faintness and being unfair.
I would like to say that life is fair because that how it really should be. But most of the time when life gets tough, my heart tells me "life is not really fair. Silly isn't it? you know what is the right word for it but it's not what you always feel.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
We couldn't really explain much about how our life is the way it is. I guess, whether it is fair or not, we just have to live with it and make the most out of it.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Hi jenny,
I really want to think that life is fair because that's how it should be. But what my mind always want to say is that: "Life is not fair and it never will be". I know God will never be happy with how I feel but I just want to express it because of all that I've been through in life. But I'm still hoping that one day I can shout to the world and whisper to myself that life is really fair.
@violann (436)
• United States
4 Sep 12
As far as I know it's never been said that life is fair. Doesn't matter whether it's fair or not. I don't think that should be the question, I think we should ask ourselves, what are we going to do with what's been dealt us, whether good or bad. I think it's up to us to make the best of what we have whether a lot or a little.
I lost everything however I am fortunate enough not to be on the streets, when my son found out what happened he brought me to his home till I can get back on my feet. It's something that happened in my life and now I have a story to write. It's an experience the way I look at neither good nor bad, just an experience.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Hi violan,
Thank you for your wonderful thought. I like the line "make the best of what we have whether a lot or a little. I already have that in mind but everything life gets tough I really forget those and think of the negative one's.
I'm happy to hear you recovered from what happened to you in the past and good thing you have a tenderhearted son who helped you stand again. In my situation right now, I know it's not as bad as what you've been through but what really makes me feel bad when I have no one to run to when life gets tough. Even my own family can't help me. It's so sad to feel alone in rough times of your life.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
4 Sep 12
Life is really not fair for everybody. But i can say that god gives every people chances to make them success of what they love doing. After you really prepared and you can make it but it is normal to suffer before you taste success,what we can do is to make you feel that you are not regret for your life.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
4 Sep 12
Well being poor or rich is not in our hands. It was in our destiny due to which we have to undergo this type of lifestyle. All we have to do is stay content, satisfied and cheerful in our life barring the challenges and impediments we face daily. It is a part of life and we have to live with it. if we start blaming life then we are the real losers. We should be happy with whatever we have been given with.
What say?
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@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi subhojit,
Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts. I like idea of being contented and satisfied with life.
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@jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Sometimes I also ask that question. When we have problems we sometimes feel that life isn't fair. But instead of feeling sorry about our shortcomings we should think of better things. First we are blessed because we are still living. We have the power to change or improve our lives. We must always trust God. The sufferings and pains we sometimes encounter were just trials in order for us to be stronger. Though we sometimes think that rich people are more blessed than we are, let's look at it as an inspiration to strive harder to reach our dreams. Even rich people have problems too. Let us be glad that we are alive and kicking. Have a nice day!
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
4 Sep 12
No, I have never thought life is fair. Life can be very cruel to people. I think life is never fair because each person has their own experiences with different standards that almost can never be met. For instance, sometimes we feel as though life has robbed us of opportunities when things go bad. But, unfortunately, that is life. There are bad people where good things happen to them; there are also good people where bad things happen to them. Life does not always make sense. While there are some experiences we may see to be fair, I think we have more experiences that we believe to be unfair. While everyone might differ on the types and level of severity of problems they face, the truth is we all face problems.
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@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
Hi Otanetix,
Thank you for sharing your brilliant mind. We might be standing on the same shoes. The best thing that I can say for this is just to be thankful for what we have and not counting those we have not.
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@hayate13 (37)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 12
we have own destiny,our Gods created with the advantages and disadvantages of each of us. Sometimes people are created rich but he can not enjoy the wealth due to illness, those ho are poor but all his limbs still intact dan still healthy. if we always see people who are successful or higher rank then us,then we will always feel less.therefore, should we look around our living conditions is lower than ours.we always should give thanks to God for all what given to us and always make the most of every gift to help others.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
4 Sep 12
Life is never fair because if it was, then you wouldn't be having any fun or learning anything. We all have to go through hardships for a reason and that is because it makes us stronger people. I have been to Hell and back, and I truly believe that I am a stronger person for it.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
What you have mentioned are the harsh realities of life, and no one is to blame. It just happens and you have to accept them as they are and somehow learn to cope up with whatever you have and experience life itself. Your existence depends on who you are and what you are made of to enjoy life or to suffer from life, either which way if you choose to have a life.
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@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
4 Sep 12
Maybe your problem is that you think fair means same for all. Kind of like life is its own Communist regime that is supposed to just doil out just enough to everyone as they need it.
Life is not like that. We are born with different talents and abilities and personalities and circumstances and in different times, and those can be used to gain advantages, disadvantages, hard knocks and big gains.
Don't blame me; I didn't design life.
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@minisaturday (6)
• China
4 Sep 12
People are not the same, some hard, some people are lazy. Thus they were poor and the rich.
Rich industrious mind and hands to create wealth, their motto is, how can I have everything I want. Poor, lazy, and just always want the rich to promote his things, their motto is hey. This is fate
@surajp (29)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 12
Yes life is fair. For whatever crap anyone goes through or what ever reward anyone has been bestowed i can say life is fair. We as grown ups should take responsibility for whatever comes to us good or bad. We should always share the blame on whatever we experience in this life and be thankful for it xould have been worse. To say that life is not fair is to blame your surrounding for the bad that is happening to you. Instead of blaming life and calling life unfair it would be wise to contemplate as to why such situation can occur and look within you to find where you did wrong and fix it. Your life is no one else but yours. So if it is unfair you should be blamed because it is your life.