no nanny again!
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
September 10, 2012 8:11pm CST
Yes, i have no nanny again. sometimes you just cannot understand people. I am quite a very good person i believe.. i do not abuse and i even treat them like my own sister!
Last Saturday night, we even went to a birthday party of my friend's son.. and we all went, the nanny, with my 3 kids in tow. We had a blast! then she asked me if she could go home that night as it is her birthday the following day. Hubby even gave her her salary in advance plus some extra tip.
So she went home and told me she will be back 1pm Sunday. then the following day, she did not came back! I called her at 1 and asked her where she is and she told me she is still with her cousin and will be back. Then around 5pm i called her again and it was another lady that answered that my nanny is with her mother and they are still spending time together! then i asked her to relay information if what time she will be home and if she can't she must be back my early monday morning as i have work.
Then nothing else happened, she did not text me nor call me!! I was really pissed off big time! i then called and it was another lady - her cousin she said, that my nanny is not yet with her and she said my nanny left her phone with her. Then she said that she might not go back to work with me! I was appalled by this as it is not the right time to do this nor i could not look for someone immediately!!! i have work!
then yesterday monday, she still did not call me back or even just text me. So i have no choice but to be absent from work - i called in sick. and look after my 2 year old.
I had to call people to ask if they know someone who could look after my son, as i could not be absent always and i have seminar this week too. it is frustrating that the nanny could do such a thing! Then around 3 in the afternoon the nanny texted me and apologized as she said her mom did not let her come back and i said out of my anger, i told her that she should have inform me right away if she planned on doing this and she should have informed her mother that she has obligations still with me and just could not leave! but well what can i do? but look for another replacement! 
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14 responses
@coolimrose (539)
• New Zealand
12 Sep 12
This is tough with you working and the nanny dissappearing without notice.Well there are two things i think i would have done.I would call on a family member to look after the kids but thats is very seldom possible and i understand that.Second why dont u put ur kids in childcare.They will be cared for there and also learn a whole of things.thats the best option.try keeping your finances separately got this it may just work .Because relying on some one this is going to happen most times.Always keep another option like a home sitter on call which can drop in during such times.Try your best to keep someone handy always.And yes,remember your nanny also has a family.Your kids are first and foremost your resposibility and then someones else.Cheers
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
12 Sep 12
oh how i wish we do have childcare centers here.. sad to say we do not have my friend... yep no child care centers here in our country..so usually our option would be to have a family member look after our kids, but since i also do not have those family members available as most are also working and are employed... as for the nanny, we usually employ nanny here full time but sad to say i got unlucky with this one..
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
11 Sep 12
It seems like jobs must be plentiful if she can just leave you with no notice and not worry. I hope you find a reliable replacement soon. I know it can be very hard.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
no no...jobs are hard to find here. i guess she just does not care at all.. 
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
11 Sep 12
I can't believe that she would do this to you without even telling you or giving you time to find a replacement. It's so hard to find good childcare nowadays, and it's not good for your family to have people suddenly coming in and out of your children's lives, too.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
11 Sep 12
In plain English, she could have called you one way or the other. I do not blame you one bit if you go and look for a replacement. You really need someone who is reliable and this girl just sounds like she is not.
There was no good reason that she couldn't at least let you know what was happening. I would be furious and she would be fired immediately.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
yes till now i am irritated as i was not able to look for replacement yet and i am frantic..
Okay, on the discussion - it was unfair and an irresponsible behavior of the nanny not to inform you... but that has been said by almost all above me
let me think of something new and good
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Sep 12
Okay!
How about adopting me and importing me and appointing me as the caretaker of your kids? Ah! but then, males arent good "Nannys"... how sad, we even dont have the male version of the Nanny on the dictionary
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Another better idea - send your kids off to me... I can take good care of them here, as I am all alone and almost have nothing to do...(hmmm... this sounds good and better to me than the above response from me)...
ps: dont please tell me that it is impossible as I know I am impossible so please find something fresh from the fridge for me... I am hungry
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Another better idea - send your kids off to me... I can take good care of them here, as I am all alone and almost have nothing to do...(hmmm... this sounds good and better to me than the above response from me)...
ps: dont please tell me that it is impossible as I know I am impossible so please find something fresh from the fridge for me... I am hungry
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
Some people could just be insensitive, right? We have experienced the same before and I just hate being lied about when and if the nanny or helper would come back. This has been a real problem in my household. That is the main reason why opted to just be with my kids and not look for anybody to help me in taking care of them.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
11 Sep 12
Sorry to read this, because I know nannies can be very helpful to worker women. We grew up with a lovely one.
I think it is lack of mature. It´s lack of responsibeness. Don´t feel ashame because I´m sure you are a lovely employer. Just look for someone more mature.
Blessings
jazel... dainy
jazel... dainy
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
Oh, nannies are not to be trusted nowadays. You can give them some amount in advance but not their full salary. Some nannies advance two to three months of their salaries and run away. Some even kidnap their employers' kids. It's already their scheme. You have to be careful in getting one. I guess you should ask for valid id's and let them sign something before handling them some money. I gre up with different nannies. It's so difficult to find trustworthy and responsible ones. I hope you'll get one soon.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
Aw, too bad :(
I wish I am near your place then I can babysit your two years old.
Kidding aside, yah why not.
I mean, sometimes friends left their babies with me when same thing happened like what you are facing right now.
I am willing to look after those kids, not because they're my friends babies, but because babysitting is not a hard work.
I even presented myself for a stay-out babysitter, but goodness no one ever believes I need to babysit to earn (duh)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Sep 12
I certainly hope that you are able to find a reliable replacement for this irresponsible nanny soon. For me, the worst situation that I had is that my babysitter told me that I could not bring my daughter back until she was back in diapers all the time. Needless to say, she never went back to that babysitter. I called a friend of mine and she agreed to keep Kathryn part time until I was able to find another reliable babysitter. We were lucky enough to find a great babysitter just a few weeks later that loved both my daughter and later my son as her own relatives. I was never so devastated as when Brenda passed away.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
hi jazel,
This what happened to the house keeper we had she asked for a day off and did not return after two days she contacted my Uncle saying that she will get her things cause she doesn't work anymore what the I don't know what got into her she can tell us properly that she doesn't want to work anymore with us that will be fine. In fact she has the freedom to do whatever she wants cause me and mom are always out of the house and she just need to take care of my dogs do laundry and clean the house cause most of the time I am the one who cook meals
I hate this kind of attitude so I told mom not to get a house keeper anymore specially if it is coming from the province we are just being used .
I hope you find another one
happy mylotting
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I hope you find another one
happy mylotting 
@loveandpeace (470)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 12
It's very rare to meet a good and caring nanny. I have several bad experiences with them, that's why I quit my job and looking for a job as a freelancer so I can take care my kids by my own. I have them come and go, once a nanny was only stay for just 1 night.
@seriousnuts (508)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
How rude of her. I've heard several cases like this where the nanny would just ask a few days of vacation and would never come back. I'm sure that you are a very good employer, it's just that the nanny is too irresponsible to worry about your children's welfare. I've heard some employers hold part of their worker's/nanny's salary to ensure that the he/she would return.
But of course, I bet you wouldn't do that. It's just a matter of responsibility on the nanny's part. Wait a few more months and she will surely beg you to let her come back. I do hope you'll find a better replacement.
I've heard several cases like this where the nanny would just ask a few days of vacation and would never come back. I'm sure that you are a very good employer, it's just that the nanny is too irresponsible to worry about your children's welfare. I've heard some employers hold part of their worker's/nanny's salary to ensure that the he/she would return. But of course, I bet you wouldn't do that. It's just a matter of responsibility on the nanny's part. Wait a few more months and she will surely beg you to let her come back. I do hope you'll find a better replacement. @jellsiguenza (147)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
These days it is hard to find a nanny because they have so many demands. When you happen to get a nanny from the province, it is good because they seldom ask for their off. The problem arises when they ask for a vacation because usually they don't go back anymore. Being away from their family is a hard thing that is why when they go for vacation they tend to stay with their family. Even how good you are in treating them, it is not an assurance that they will get back. Because just like you, their family matters most. Being with their family is their happiness. In my opinion I guess it would be best for you to find a nanny who is related to you or your husband. Furthermore, it is better because you will be sure that they will take care of your kids and not harm them.
