"Relationship between brother and sister"

Hai dear friend... Now, I am passing through in such a situation.My brother is in love with a girl.and he is not behaving as the old times with me.I feel that he is avoiding me in every matters.Then I feel very sad.While sitting alone my eyes will get wet by thinking that.I cant control myself.It is a variety feeling.It is easy to say anything on this topic.But after getting an experience that same people will change the opinion.I am sure.I love my brother that much.Before the starting of their love,He had time to speck with me and say some jocks.But now he is very busy.He had caring me at the top level.But now,He have no time to care me.It really hurt me..Thanks..

Hello there! I can't really imagine my brother changing attitude towards me if ever he got married. My brother and I are very close even if we are no longer living together since I got married. But our brother-sister relationship is still there and whenever we are together, I still feel that "bond" that we have ever since... Now, that he already have a girlfriend and I kno sooner or later he will be marrying her, my only wish is that our brother-sister relationship will remain strong and that his wife to be will not come between us. That's why its important for me and our parents that his wife to be will be in good relationship with all of us. I mean we don't have a problem as long as we are respecting each other and that we all know where we stand in each others life and of course we want to be "ONE FAMILY"!

Hi prashu, I am having the same problem with my brother, he is my junior 2 years and many think I shall understand and be the leader in everything, but not anymore, since having girlfriend he no longer speaks to me, calling me sister but always give face for me to see, I got fed up and did not talk to him for many years, now he moved out and I am happy coz I don't see his face anymore, we used to be so close when we are small and teenagers, now with the entering of his foreigner girlfriend, we all including my parents are neglected especially my mom, he is comparing my mom's cooking with her girlfriend's cooking.

there is nothing in this world without any changes,so change is quite common and we face each day ,we must learn to get adapted and experience it in any sort of relationships

Sometimes the new wife feels threatened by any other female. She probably doesn't want any attention taken off herself. In other words she wants her husband at her side always. Many families change after there is a marriage. The husband and wife leave the family ties and make their own families. It's the same with friends. My BFF and I stopped being close after we got married and started having kids. It just happens.

Situations change relationships and that is the reality.First of all,the sister should learn to accept changes in her life and her brother's life. Once a person gets married he/she leaves his/her family and live with his/her partner. Her/his priority becomes his/her family. These is even written in the bible.Perhaps,you might advice your cousin to reach out to her sister-in-law.She should be the one to open up to her sister-in-law and break the walls between them. Also,it could be possible that your cousin is just jealous of her sister-in-law because her brother's attention to drawn to his wife

Hi prashu! I am not sure if you are already married. If you are not married then your questions are relevant. I may mention here that after marriage the boy becomes a separate entity in terms of 'family'. His relations with his sisters, brothers and mother-father go a sea change and it happens in most of the cases. How best he may try, everyone feels that he has 'changed'. His wife expects that as she is the new entrant in the 'family', therefore, she must get all the attention. This is difficult to avoid. The boy faces the problem of balancing the relationship, however, he does not succeed in pleasing everyone related to him, after his marriage. Your cousin (i.e. your cousin sister) should take it on her stride.

Getting married really affects relationship between members in the family. Once a family member marries his/her foremost responsibility is his/her partner and the family only comes next. Lucky for one who has found a partner that fit in with the family very well for no one will not be affected.

I don't have a brother, but then I have friends who are brother and sister but the guy haven't married yet. though, he is strict to presenting girls to his family. He always wants of course to have a partner or a girlfriend who will certainly like his family and vice versa. I know, it would be hard for him to have a partner who will not be close or at least be nice to his family. Your story isn't that nice. so, it is really hard for the guy to have this situation. I think the girl should really get connected in his family. though, i really can't say it is easy to get connected specially to mother. cause most of the time, if it is the only son, the mother really gets jealous with the wife to be.

There are people who are not comfortable being close to their partner's family. So can call it as being selfish. There should never be a problem between siblings when they have their own families. They should still love and help one another just like the way they used to. Maybe her brother is just trying to stay away from fights with his wife that is wife he has lessen his contact with his sister.

Definitely, their relationship will change because the time and attention of the brother will be focused on his wife and their family. They need that to strengthen their relationship and the foundation of their marriage because they are going to start their own family. And when it happened, I think that the jealousy part will come from the sister/mother and not the wife because the brother/son will no longer have time for them unlike before that whenever they need him, he is just a walk or call away. This conflict can really cause a big problem to married couples especially if the original family will make an issue/drama out of it. They will in fact try to divide the attention of the husband and will make him choose. There are times that they invade the couple's privacy and not really ask first before making a schedule that would require the presence of the husband. As a wife, I would be very offended if my in-laws would do that. They should have asked us first because as a family, we also have our own schedule to follow. It is pretty hard when other people would dictate you when or when not to do this and that. I also don't think it is proper for married couple to let other people to decide for their marriage. And I don't think that there is a wife here who would like to have a part time husband. My husband and I once had a very big fight because of his family. Why? Because her sister and mom would still require my husband to be always available when they need him. They will call him anytime they want without even asking my permission. They will always make an issue about it and would make my husband feel guilty about it. It is kind of stressful since they think of it as a competition. Even had an accident and miscarriage while I was alone in the house. Imagine my disappointment and more so, may parents disappointment that the person they trusted to take care of me is not around during that time.

PRASHU: It is natural for a new bride to consider her sister in law as a competitor for affection of her husband. For the same reason mother in law is considered an enemy because most of the boys are close to their mother. Success lies in both the sister and the new bride understanding their role and take the other as a helpful person. it is easily said but difficult-- one more reason for this is ---nowadays most of the girls have one sibling or no sibling. They have been getting all the affection, importance from their parents and cannot stand coming away from their parent -- it is a compulsion. This is ventilated in the form of dislike towards sister in law. If the boy is stronger he can maintain equal relationship with both.

Ofcourse it changes the relationship. If you get married your partner is on the first place not the rest of the family. If you find that weird/strange you should not get married. Getting married means you build up a life/family with someone else. BTW I don't understand why you are confused if this is about your cousin. I wonder how you would react if you get married to someone and that person shows more interest in his/her siblings as in you. Would you really stay friendly? BTW I also think it's not very polite to talk about the wife the way you do. If you really want to know what her "problem" is you go over there and ask her. If you would talk like that about me I would have a big problem with being friendly to you as well. BTW if my husband puts his family in the first place instead of me it's a good reason for me to kick him out. If he feels closer to his sister as to me he should not marry me but stay with his sister.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, but mostly brother's affection with their sister will reduce in day by day manner after the brother got marriage, it is quite common in most of the family. After getting marriage, the brother got a new family, and he concentrate with his family and reduce his affection with the parents and siblings, after giving birth to the kid, this affection will completely gone and most of the brother's will change as a selfish person and take care about their own family

I think your cousins are lucky to have a good relationship as they do. It's sad and strange that the wife is insecure because naturally she is her husband's love. They should all have a lovely time together. If it were brothers (instead of brother and sister) I wonder if she would still be so resentful and insecure? I'm guessing it is an arranged marriage because for sure, the man would never choose someone who did not like his sister as his new wife. She should realise that her husband's sister is now her sister too and she should endeavour to be friendly. She can only receive good benefits from such an attitude.

My brother told me once that the relationship with the siblings will always be there because of blood, but the relationship might not be good anymore once the other gets married. That's because the brother sleeps with the wife every night and he couldn't afford to lose the wife. And the brother will always know that no matter what he will do with is siblings, they will always be siblings.

When a brother or a sister marries, they now have their own separate lives, unlike before when they were still with their parents. So, a sister should never meddle with her sibling's life anymore, since the partner would likely be affected or would get angry if she/he doesn't like it.

Marriage always changes relationships, because someone else takes first place. It should enhance a family but if it doesn't one just has to be patient. The newly marrieds need time to adjust to their lives together and to the families they marry into. At such times a wise relative takes a few steps back and makes way for the new family member to find their place. A good relationship between siblings does not go bad providing no pressure is put by one on the other.

In my country, marrying in the same bloodline is a BIG NO. It is not acceptable in our religion and the eyes of people.

The wife probably feels threaten by the sister because of how close the siblings are. The Wife probably wishes she was as close to her husband as the sister is a on a personal level. Everyone needs a little time to adjust and things will work themselves out.