Life without opposition or competition

@allknowing (136601)
India
September 20, 2012 10:23pm CST
How would you like if there was no opposition to whatever you did or said. How would you like if you had no competition and that you won every game that you played. I cannot imagine life without opposition. I would be miserable if I won all games I played. In fact sometimes I take it easy so that others get a chance to win. Your views please.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
all banality then.. it would be dull and boring lol sometimes it is nice to argue, to lose.. to be in different situation or else we would not learn something right?
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
Give me a break jazel Do you mean what you say? Would you truly enjoy losing arguments. None of us do, but strangely we will miss them if there were none!
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@ajk111 (2495)
21 Sep 12
The one important lesson i learned from competitive sport was to be a good winner you had to be a good loser. in my younger days i played many sports, football, pool, tennis, squash and snooker to a decent level and the amount of times i smiled and shook an opponents hand when i was seething inside taught me to appreciate winning. my son when he was in his young teens never understood why i always beat him at sports badly. i told him it was because he gloated the first time he won and i was furious with his attitude. He is now 21 and he recently thanked me, it took a while but i am glad he understood. Understanding how to be a good winner makes a difference in how you conduct your everyday life and for that i think you are right in saying opposition is vital.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
There is a lesson in what you have just said. Losing gracefully does help us in dealing with our day to day catastrophes which could be countless in number! I am happy for your son that, thanks to you, he learnt his lesson early in life.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 12
In our house there is a policy of being absolutely 'noninvasive' and we all guard our personal space diligently though a broad discipline is maintained. this is as far as my family[husband,in-laws,children are concerned].As far as the birth place is concerned there is no scope for competition here because each sibling has a life of her /his own and if there is competition here then there is likely to be bad blood and strife. There needs to be only understanding and 'give and take' policies. As regards 'competition' the word is valid in a work environment especially in school , college or the corporate world. Without competition there won't be any industry thriving , there won't be a valid economy and there won't be growth in a field.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 12
I honestly feel like giving a negative vote for asking me not to give a negative vote allknowing. I do not believe in giving negative rating if someone disagrees with me , the same way I do not like being bulldozed into accepting someone else's viewpoint in a subjective issue. Coming to the point, if it were her own son and she kept quiet then it is either a case of having given up or her own lack of conviction.Some people do not realise it is an unhealthy practice nor would they accept it.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
This neither here nor there attitude can be unhealthy in any environment and to be loved for that could deter others from making their point. That is what has been happening in our family. A discussion becomes interesting when there are different view points and I welcome that.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
A noninvasive approach can lead to indifference kala,no doubt making things easy where one does not bother about the other but involvement leads to differing opinions. My sis in law was so much loved by one and all as she kept aloof from everyone. Specially in a 'happening family' where things go out of hand one needs to involve. Her own son married someone within the family (her husband's brother's daughter which is not a healthy alliance from all angles) - a situation warranted some opposition but it never came from her. The younger generation also is noted for this indifference. That is what I have noticed. It is said hatred is better than indifference! Now don't give me a negative vote just because I have not agreed with you!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Life would be utterly dull. And that is why a little bit of friction and some competition is healthy, even among peers. Just imagining it makes me bored.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
But what I have noticed in my family is that those who never oppose are loved more than those who put their foot down!
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Sep 12
Family is not a field where we compete allknowing!That is one point as far as competition goes. But people who are forthright in their views normally get a beating even in families. There seems to be 'presentation skills' needed even within family.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
Don't you play games with your family kala such as rummy, chess, carroms, etc. etc!? I had a bro in law who just could not face defeat and always attributed his defeat to his kids disturbing, etc.! He would not even congratulate those who defeated him!
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@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Life would be very dull without all of these. I mean challenges make us stronger and so are competitions. It is its main purpose.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
But during the time we experience competitions and oppositions are we sincerely hoping that we wished we lost or do we enjoy those oppositions. I bet it is a big no!
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• Greece
21 Sep 12
If there was no opposition to anything I did or said I would assume I was perfect. If I won every game I would stop playing because it wouldn't be a real game. Imagine never being able to check out an opinion with anyone - you'd never find out if you were right or wrong. This is the problem with autocratic governments, so we know where all this leads eventually - huge egos, total power. No it does not bear thinking about but I have enjoyed answering your questions.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
And at the same time each time we enter a competition we hope to win - ironical indeed! And how magnanimous are we when someone opposes us. Do we give in easily - certainly not!
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• United States
21 Sep 12
Hi allknowing, It sure would be nice to have no opposition or competition sometimes, but to have it all the time would make for a very boring and tedious life. The spoiled children of the world that win every opposition with their parents, learn nothing about life and then all of a sudden, get this big jolt and they don't know how to handle it. I feel sorry for them as they will always have so much to learn. Competition is what makes the world go round. There's that old saying that I always remembered and it goes something like this, but don't quote me, haha...."It's better to play a good game and lose, than to play a bad game and win." I wouldn't want to win all my games, and have won very few with my sister in chess. She has much more patience than me and almost always beats me. It actually makes me feel good to lose to her because she gets such a kick out of it. I wish I didn't have any competition in the lottery though, haha..just one time to win would be so helpful.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
Talking about lottery I remember when I had gone on a picnic we were playing housie and there I won every single prize, - early five, top line, middle line, last line, and indeed the full house. I wish it was not so as the aftermath of that game resulted in people looking at me with not so friendly eyes! We all want competitions and occasional arguments but at the time we are experiencing them indeed it is a different feeling. Don't we want to win all the time and do we honestly enjoy anyone opposing us? That is another story!
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
21 Sep 12
• United States
23 Sep 12
deazil...why are you a ninja? allknowing...Those not so friendly eyes were very jealous of you. I myself probably would of looked at you like this....wondering how the heck you win all those! But it really wouldn't have bothered me because somebody has to win If I win all the time, it would take the fun out of competing. I think you need to lose to make yourself try harder the next time, therefore, it would be competing.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
19 Oct 12
Life is bored without competition because wining and loosing both are necessary in life like happiness and sadness both are must. If life is constant in one manner then feel bored.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
19 Oct 12
Very nicely put. Sweet will not taste sweet if we never know what bitterness is.
@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Life would be useless I think. It's like living an unbalanced life. We always have with us the win and loss, the hungerness and fullness, hot and cold, good and bad, etc. I think it's the way that God planned everything else to be. Do you think, to have a balanced life, every person that is good should also be bad at times?
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
I have a friend. A day never passes until she searches for my shoulder to cry on. Everything is a burden for her. I feel for her in that I wonder why she does not see those situations as challenges and enjoy tackling them.
• United States
21 Sep 12
I think it would be a dream come true. I could have whatever I want, do whatever I want. Hell, I might just move to a deserted island just to experience this kind of a world.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
You really think so? You seem to be tired of opposition and competition in your life that you are longing for a break!! Dont'be so sure that you will get it in a deserted island. There you will have fierce competition from those wild animals
• United States
21 Sep 12
I think my annoyance is with people in general. People are too egocentric most of the time, and I would take my chances with a wild animal any day over a person capable of smiling to me in my face, and then stabbing me in my back.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
You have a point there and this attitude that you see is spreading like wild fire - an epidemic to say the least. But one can overcome these situations by being a bit more vigilant.
• Thailand
21 Sep 12
There will be not excitement on every thing you do,or say because you know for the fact that, there will be no body who will disagree with you. There will be no challenge and striving in life, because you can gt everything easily without hard work. Complex of life is somehow we can consider beautiful. We Fall but we learned to get up, we make mistakes but we know how to correct it. So opposition or even the competition is our teacher why we make and dealt things with accordance.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
21 Sep 12
Handling opposition and competition is an art but there are some who just cannot face it. I see it here too. Without opposition and competition this world would be, as you rightly said, a boring place to be!
• India
23 Sep 12
Hi friend, The world is full of opposition and composition, it is really hard to see a world with out competition, if we have this kind of world, it is really hard to express our real skills and talents. We will become strong while facing the composition and come to know about our skills and talents while expressing our self in this kind of competitions, the world with out it don't help us to prove our self
@allknowing (136601)
• India
24 Sep 12
We all feel that without competition or opposition life will be boring but when the time comes to face it we feel uncomfortable! Human beings are a funny lot indeed!
@blinjk (617)
• United States
21 Sep 12
Life would not be fun and dull without competition but sometimes for me,I always like to have no any opposition to what I say most specially if I am right.In,games it would be definitely boring if you do not have a competition.Competitions makes you motivated to do something better or you will work hard for it just to succeed.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
And yet each time we enter a competition we go there in the hope that we will win! And how well do we face opposition? There would be arguments galore with efforts made to win them! And not all arguments are palatable.
@maorzh (21)
• China
21 Sep 12
Sometimes when life is particularly tough I really wish to live in that kind of world for a change.Life must be much more comfortable there.But in the long run I'm afraid I will get so bored and have nothing to live for.Maybe this is how we human are designed.We have been overcoming difficulties and competing with each other to survive for thousands of years.It's in our DNA now!
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
Setting records in competitions is one indicator that we never want to lose. Right? Although as you rightly pointed out that life would be a big bore if we never argued. There are so many who avoid arguments as they would, any disease! I suppose it takes all kinds to make a world!!!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Sep 12
hi allknowing wow what a dull existence that would turn into and one would feel like you really did not win as it was all too too easy.'we need challenges and losing occasionally and people playing against us. if we have challenges then life is fun and happy again. Heres to lots of opposition.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
I am not sure if all would take defeat sportingly. There are so many I have met who do not. The same applies to having to face opposition. At that point in time it is not a situation one would want to be in and yet you are right - no competition and no arguments what a boring life it would be. Funny really these human beings I say
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I sometimes wish for a little less opposition that what I get, but it is hard to imagine not having any. I would say it would be a bit boring if everything was given to us and we wouldn't appreciate what we do have as much.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
No matter how little the opposition might be but at that point in time one does wish there was none and yet if there was none we admit life would be so boring! Human beings are so odd I tell you
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
i think it's not healthy, too. to have a competition is to live a healthy life. as long as it's clean, it would be fun, and beneficial.
• India
24 Sep 12
Hi friend, there is no thrill in this kind of competition less world, we need opposition and competition to know our real skills and talents. Without competition it is really hard to get progress. I am not interested in living such kind of useless world.
• Egypt
21 Sep 12
competition is very important.that gives our life a test.
@allknowing (136601)
• India
22 Sep 12
Yes competitions are indeed good but one needs to have a sporting spirit to face defeats!