talk or listen
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
September 27, 2012 4:50pm CST
how would you classify your personality. Are you more of a talker or more of a listener,
when you talk to you talk about general things or more about yourself than anything else.
when you listen are listening for discussions are do you listen to people who talk about themselves or talk about their problems.
Many people are turned off by people who talk about themselves especially if they are boasting. Other people will not listen to people with problems.
I tend to me right in the middle I talk a lot about things I know, I talk less about things that bother me.
I listen to conversations where I feel I can learn so not all conversations are included, but I always have time for people who have problems.
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15 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I'm both I will listen and if they ask about my opinion I will talk.
I like listening to problems specially when I can relate and can
advice such things that already happened to me. Sometimes it is better
to listen to others for we can pick some good points to remember or
any lesson that we can apply to ours.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
yep we tend to remember only the parts that interested us in conversations long after the conversation was made as well.
@much2say (56363)
• Los Angeles, California
27 Sep 12
I think I'm somewhere in the middle too . . . but I tend to be more on the listening side. Growing up, I wasn't much of a talker - and honestly I'm still not - but I can definitely converse in any situation now better than I ever did. In the past I used to listen to people as if my ears were always wide open . . . but I think in my "older age" I've gotten less tolerant of people who will talk my ears off (I don't have that kind of time anymore).
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@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I agree with you. I lean to the listening side but I can talk a lot too if it's something I'm passionate about or know a lot about of topic. I guess I must have a low voice , because I'll be talking to someone and they'll just talk over me. My husband's family are great talkers, there can be about 5 conversations going on at once and I'm trying to listen to just one. They can still know what all 5 conversations are about and comment on another conversation other than the conversation that they had started.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
I can't really follow with 5 conversations, it is just too much so I tend to pick one or two of the conversations and respond.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Oct 12
well you can get a lot of interesting information when you listen that is for sure.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I am not a talker when I mingle with people that I am not familiar with.
But with my friends, I do both.
I listen when someone is talking and I talk when they need my opinion or someone ask others opinion.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I am more of a person who listens more and speaks up less. I mean it is important in order for someone to gain wisdom that's why I am used to shutting up more and taking some advices even more. In the long run this lessons can help you battle challenges you might face in your journey.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
Yes but sharing what you have learned in a conversation can help others as well.
@GardenGerty (161080)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I think I fit both sides of the coin. I am a good listener, even to people with problems, although sometimes after a while it gets to me and I need a break. I like to learn new things as well and I am very curious, so I listen then.
I do not feel I have a whole lot to brag about, so I do not like to talk about myself, but I can converse on a wide range of subjects. I tend to keep my problems to myself.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
It is great when you can converse on a lot of topics, it makes the situation more interesting for you.
@ElicBxn (63653)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I think I can listen pretty well, but few things annoy me more than talking with someone who is OBVIOUSLY thinking about what they are going to say next than what I am saying. This has been a big issue with the new roommate. In fact, if she gets tired of the conversation - since it OBVIOUSLY isn't about HER, she starts listening to what's going on in her head instead. She'll even start humming with that music! VERY annoying!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
yep those people obviously have problems listening.
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@yoyo1198 (3641)
• United States
28 Sep 12
Unless the topic is something in which I am knowledgeable, I'm more of a listener. You learn more when listening than when talking. But then, it really depends upon the gist of the conversation. I usually wait to be asked my opinion rather than just barging into the subject.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
that is interesting, I love to be part of the conversation so I just speak I don't wait for someone to ask me my opinion.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I'm not much of a talker. I can't talk to people I don't know (verbally) due to my CD which causes me to stutter or have full blown aphasia. I can listen to people but I often don't know what to say anymore. My illness has taken a lot from me.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
Yes I know hon, however when you were much younger and in better health did you talk a lot or found you did more listening?
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I consider myself both..I am a very opinionated person but
I know I am a good listener.I don't have a problem keeping
my mouth closed at any given time...LOL..
I am not one to brag about myself
I try to let my life speak for itself,
But I have been told that I have an Aura thats been seen by many
people whom I had never seen before...and I try to respect others
and and there beliefs...
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@CookingIsMyPassion (653)
• United States
28 Sep 12
I am more of a listener than a talker. I can talk if it is with someone I am close to. But usually I listen and actually hear what the other has to say.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
well you know me and can talk someone's ear off. But that is because I am on the phone, I can't stand silence on the phone and all you hear is heavy breathing lol
@jazzyme (113)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
I am both a talker and listener. I listen to people who need to be heard. I listen to people who suffers because I believe that listening to someone's problem is like helping the person ease his pain. on the contrary I am not a talker if it comes to my personal well-being. I talk to inform and impart something that i know. i don't talk when I can't prove the things i say. I'd rather keep myself in silence than to hurt someone with my words or if i will lie.
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@titomeong (70)
• Philippines
28 Sep 12
For me both, because i often talk and i often listen if someone is talking to me. but sometimes we can't help myself of interrupting if somebody's talking infront of me. and i realize if you are a good listener, you talk less, i don't know the reason why, but that's me...
...good day!...
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
29 Sep 12
Yes I have a bad habit of interrupting as well, I am trying to change that.
@maximo516 (32)
• Netherlands
27 Sep 12
i do both.
When someone speaks to me about a problem i always listen closely. While i,m listening i,m already thinking of solutions and advice.
I,m also a speaker. Sometimes i just wont shut up:P
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