I got something in my eyes. d:(
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140102)
Philippines
September 30, 2012 7:32am CST
Tear drops from our eyes tend to connote if we feel blue, frustrated or disappointed. In girl's population, it is visible to shed tears for being emotional. How about for the boys population? When it comes for being sentimental, boys will be on denial on this. Why? They will claim on top of their lungs, "boys don't cry!" Is that difficult for a man to cry out loud? To illustrate my point, boys don't express their deep emotions in public by nature. Unless, they asked their guys to talk over a bottle of rum or any other hard liquors available. For some countries, man needs to be strong and hold back their tears into something; culture influenced them not to cry his eyes out. With an exception of those who diagnosed to have "bell's palsy", manifesting "crocodile tears". In a nutshell, they do cry when people are not around. Come to think of it, it looks not manly for a guy having boo hoo moment in public.
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16 responses
@prasanta (1948)
• India
30 Sep 12
I feel both men and women cry. However, generally because of different kinds of hormonal influence, the level of emotion caused by an external stimulator in them varies.
Thus, reacting on the same incident, females burst into tears faster, louder and longer than males. The nature has created the species in that way.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
That was indeed giving a scientific backing for the statement. I have found that women would laugh even at petty jokes which man might find intolerable. Same is the case of despair, women would just open up the flood gates. Many a time, you would even find harder to manage.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
1 Oct 12
Shavkat i think more men cry than you think they do. Our politicians have been shown to get emotional and shed a tear or two when they talk about their mothers that have passed on. My grandson gets tears in his eyes when we have to part for a long time. I have seen men get teary at sad movies too. Only some one with a hard heart doesn't shed a couple of tears. I don't believe it is a bad thing for men to shed a tear or two. In fact it shows they are more feeling than a man that doesn't shed a few tears.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
Hello deebomb, do you really think politicians really cry out of their hearts. i think they are just faking tears. In an effort to woo their voters or get more votes and public support, they do this. May be at times they might be true, but all other times, its just a showoff. In the filed of politics the people that are so true would find hard to survive.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 12
When boys are young they are more apt to cry or whine. As they grow older they are less apt to cry and show themselves in public. But I would think they would cry in private. I think that men have more of a ego and do not want to show themselves as weak in public.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
Infact this is something that has always fascinated me. At infants stages men do cry like women. Even at lower grade schools, they might behave in a similar way. But as they grow up. men tend to say bye bye to tears but women just continue. It always wondered me how this change takes place. I do wonder if it has anything to do with grooming up or friends circles.
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Well I think there are men who feel that "men don't cry"
statement...But I believe it human for men to cry because
after all they are humans also..That may have been the way
men were precieved but there are men who realize they are
human and have no problem tearing when necessary...
I am not saying they should be cry babies but hey they
are human....
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
I think this was just the point I talked about a bit earlier. I mean its nice to find someone who is a aligned with my thought process too. As you mention since men are not robots, they also have the very right to cry or laugh as they feel. You have the very right t o express your emotions if it doesnt hurt anyone.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
You are very much right about the point you put here. Men are considered brave and crying is assumed to be all about too much tenderness and fragility. i dont entirely agree with this concept. I always believed that crying is the way be which you can feel relieved in case of extreme distress.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
It's maybe because men would think it's a "minus points" to their "macho image" when somebody see them cry in public and they feel ashame of it. Because that's how the society think about it. That men should be strong and show to the world that they're still strong though they're falling apart. Because if man can be seen crying often times they will be marked as "gay" and that's what they don't want to happen.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
I am a male and that never means I dont cry. i am an emotional person and so I tend to shed tears. Its not that I do it in a pompous manner. But there have been movies and real life scenarios that have made me shed tears. I am never ashamed of that and not my friends too. Infact they do admire my tenderness at heart and my caring nature. I feel if you are true to ourself, people would admire you for that.
@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Many people choose to keep their personal feelings private, even women. I try to not be seen crying. I guess we do equate tears with weakness, even if that is not necessarily true.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
That indeed is a general perception people have. I have heard many people who mention those as weak who cry a lot. Infact there is something called crocodile tears where people fake crying. This is especially in the case of women where they do this in need for sympathy. Its not that every woman does that, but few of them really do that.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
30 Sep 12
I cry, it doesn't make me weak at all. Why do I have tears if I'm not supposed to cry? Society will tell you that a guy should be tough and manly 24/7 but that's false. I have a heart and feelings and when they get hurt I'll cry. Macho guys cry, you just don't see them because they have a reputation to uphold. If they were more sensitive to their mates then women probably wouldn't be so hard on them when they do cry.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
You have indeed hit hard at the hypocrites of this society with your words. I do appreciate how you have validated your points. I do have tear glands. What is it supposed to do if I am not going to cry. Not that no man cries. I have heard that it indeed requires a man to cry. Pretending is not bravery. be true to the heart and do what it says.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
hi,
actually boys never do this kind of emotion expression because of the pride for being a man,or maybe they are not showy as woman's do,but i have seen many guys who cried because of there mother,like my father he cried because he asked for the forgiveness of my grandmother.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
1 Oct 12
wow that really must hurt,you ought to rub it carefully and make sure that it does not pain and have a great eyes by maintaining carefully for sure
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 12
I quess it depends in what family/society you live? I don't know girls, also never met them who are emotional or shedding tears. I only know men like that although I must say my only son doesn't. I think the reason for that is partly because he is raised in between many women who all don't and are all handy-men. We also don't accept the little pains men love to share (thinking they will die within 10 min if no woman helps them out). I like to hear the respond of men..shedding tears or not.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
I think you should come over to India. here people are ver emotional, loving and caring. even the daily soaps that is aired in the tv channels here are too dramatic. In such tv serials, you only see a woman made to suffer a lot and cry like anything. People watch them and start crying like babies. this especially include women.
@effinmuffin (191)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
man's manliness is not defined through how they control their emotions. sometimes a real man is the one who teared his eyes out in the public. it depends on the situation why he cried that makes him a man. the society expect the man NOT TO CRY coz they are the strong gender, that's why man struggle to show their emotions that triggers them to do something that is not right.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
It's ok for a man to cry :/ Whether if it's in front of a the public, in front of a woman or what.. Crying doesn't mean you're less manly even if it's in the public.. I have seen my father cried,my brothers and other guy friends and I know for sure they are 100% man. But when they cry, it's when they admit their weakness too, they admit they get hurt too.. Not robot you know :/
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
1 Oct 12
I would say you are indeed possessing a free mind. In a society where men are fearless and tears is the department of women, a woman rarely can accept many crying. that trend is now changing. we should realise that men are also human beings, not any machines.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
It is indeed, unusual to see a man cry like a woman does, but if ever we see one, I think it is just okay to let go of the pain by crying. A man is supposed to be strong and firm. He often does not verbalize his feelings. But I think, being that way is unhealthy, coz suppressing the pain can lead you to some health problems.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I dont see any problem with a guy sheding tears. I shed tears when I'm so down but that doesn't mean I'm weak, I cry to move on and be able to face tomorrow with a smile. It's not a sign of being weak, whenver I feel like giving up I just cry and I become okay afterwards.
