Body language
By 41Combedale
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
Greece
September 30, 2012 2:50pm CST
As I am unable to speak the language in my adopted country I have become quite an expert on body language. It is amazing how much I can learn by looking at mannerisms. For instance, folded arms tells me that a discussion is not going to get very far because the person who has folded their arms has already closed his mind. Feet often show tension, maybe the speaker is smiling but if the feet are tapping or swaying backwards and forwards then that smile is not genuine. When the eyes start looking around the room then attention has been lost. Have you noticed any of these non verbal tell tale signs?
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@GardenGerty (160624)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Oh, absolutely. And even when you can speak the language, there is a world of information available in body language as well. An attentive or intuitive person will catch on rather quickly to things being good or bad in a discussion by looking at the whole person.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
1 Oct 12
It is also easier to observe body language if one is not speaking. Sometimes I am pleased that I can watch, especially if the voices are raised and arms start waving around. Being a watcher is a restraint that is quite welcome and probably avoids things going from bad to worse.
@celticeagle (166762)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 12
Yes, I sure have. Breathing can tell you the person is getting tired of it. Eye contact is very important. Shifting from one foot to another is another tell tale sign. I hope you learning some basic phrases and such in this adopted country. I would hate to not be able to converse with people.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
1 Oct 12
I'm doing my best to learn the language but it is going to take a long while. Greek grammar is more complexd than English. The body language here is very fast, very easily understood and universal. Even if I learn the language I think I will stick to body language if arguements develop, it is a much quieter response.
@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
My personal favorite is when a person is confronted with the truth and vehemently denies it but the cheeks turn red, eye contact fails, and there's that sense of urgency to just leave the room for some air. :) That's my favorite. Hahaha it happens all the time and it still makes me laugh. :D
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@naster (13)
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1 Oct 12
a couple of years ago i read one book about this theme of body language.the writer analysed the body language from its origin to the effort in our daily life.as is known to all that body cannot cheat easily while words often describe the emotion which may not be true.from the book i also pick up that :the look on one's face can not be true compared with the gesture of the arms and hands,as the some time the foots are always the most reliable.there are too much to learn if you want be expert in this area and the keys to success must be curiosity ,i think
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@bugaboo1951 (5)
• South Africa
1 Oct 12
First of all congratulations to you for thinking of going to a country where you cannot speak the language. I think you are extremely brave and I wish you lots of success.
Body language really is the best way to find out what the other person is really thinking and I agree with what you have said. I am also interested in the different personalities that we all have and its been an amazing process to first of all find out my personality and then be able to respond to other people without hurting their feelings or being able to confront them if they are rude.
You are living in a beautiful part of the world so however long you are there for enjoy your time.
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@kratusPT (3)
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1 Oct 12
It's interesting this discussion. In fact our body says much more than our mouth...
People tend to be polite and don't show their feelings however our body does...
For example, if someone doesn't know something or is lying , the eyes tend to look above...
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep 12
Interpreting body language is quite a talent to have and I truly wished I had it, yes you can tell if someone is not giving you eye contact is that they are passive, nervous or have something to hide, but there are other signs that I would love to understand, and certainly what body language I was giving off to others. They say you can tell a lot by a person's body language even before they speak! An art in itself.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Oct 12
absolutely. my kids do that. if im talking to them and they are glancing all around and just nodding, i know they are not really interested in what im saying and just wish id get done and move on im actually talking grown kids here. when they was little they would just fidget and say, i know ok i know
@cableman67 (872)
• United States
14 Oct 12
Yes, body language has been a universal way to read certain things about people no matter what spoken language was involved. It is especially an early warning signal for trouble if you keep a good watch out.
It is sad we have to use this for violence and telling when someone is lying but some people just don't know how to act otherwise.
This could be a much greater earth if people would work together without violence or prejudice because with the internet now allowing us to reach all countries instantly, it is breaking down the language barrier and helping our technology move ahead faster than I ever thought possible. A lot of young people don't remember back before we had cell phones. If you went fishing or out for a drive then they were just out of luck to get in touch with you for a while. I still remember those days but now this generation of people are getting to where they seem to demand what they want at once and instead of working for it they will try to take what they want. It is very sad but they seem to really believe that the world owes them something. I remember the days when it seemed that there was a little more respect than now but not all is bad these days. My sister has two wonderful daughters and when I see how well they act then I still have hope.
You started a good topic. I have always been the type of person to study body language around me. People can always say whatever they want to but if you know how to read body language then you know that those signs are much harder to disguise.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
1 Oct 12
Yes. Non verbal language or body language communicates more than verbal communication.Anger can be shown by the frown look. happiness can be shown by a smile or laughter. disinterest can be shown by turning to the other side of the table. I have seen and experienced it many times in meetings and classes.
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@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
30 Sep 12
I was a salesman for years, I have seen them and used them. You can tell a lot about a situation by body language.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
1 Oct 12
You said it yourself. As a salesman I new when someone was just asking or really wanted to buy. I can even tell when someone is stealing or has stolen already.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
30 Sep 12
Well yes it is a very difficult situation when u do not understand the language of the common people for put u into the trouble of not understanding their intentions and whatever they address u. in some cases its always better to have a study on their general ettiqetes, mannerisms and behavior. This would at least help us to know about the fundamental behind what they are trying to tell u. Good that u have mastered this art and i am sure u will learn their language as well.
What say?
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@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
1 Oct 12
Body language can tell a lot of hidden things about a person. I've finding that since I'm hard of hearing I have to rely on reading lips and people's body language. Facial expressions, you can learn a lot about a person too.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
1 Oct 12
I have given you best response Jodee, you are definitely the expert here. Thank you for sharing how you have learned to cope. Reading lips is a special ability, you could open a discussion on that one yourself at some time.
@aliahnicole69 (231)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
It is very important for us to read what's on their mind through body language. I have a book entitled "Body Language" and i've learned a lot of things from it, so in any situation specially when im out of my country and been around with different people - i simply understand them by the way they move and the way they look.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
Yes, there is a whole course on body languages, that people in the law enforcement and in the mental health professions take as well.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 12
It is amazing we can understand body language without speaking. I love body language more than verbally language.
@effinmuffin (191)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
i do most of the time when i just want to observe. :) they said action speaks louder than voice and i might say, i do agree. a simple gesture would have a huge impact/meaning globally. you can easily sometimes guess human's manner or emotions through their actions.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi,
Your observation is very nice. We can learn many things from body language of a person. We can know the feelings of happiness, sadness, opposition, love, hate and so on. Restless person always moves legs or bite nails. When I am upset I always keep quiet and keep my eyes closed. The persons who have hearing problem can understand body language more easily.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
1 Oct 12
I am just like in your situation and I have come across the same. There are people who do speak english here and those who know are very good at it. But there are some of my neighbors who don't know any english so i have to actually talk with them in action .. and just 2 days back I was sitting with hubby's friends and we were talking about this body language. a friend was explaining the meanings of the body language. you are so true on each of it. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@Amandaputri1133 (140)
• Indonesia
2 Oct 12
Hi.. yes, I read on book or internet about body language. It's good for people work in communications field. Also for people in Humas Resources Dept. I think policemen and diplomats also should learn about this to enhance negotiation skills. After read your discussion, I recalled and found that what you mentioned above are happen very often and obviously :)