How judgemental person are you?

I am a rather judgemental person. A first impression stays with me and is very hard to change. I also think that we have to look at our selves first. If we are over judgemental then we need to see why and work on it. Having unfair opinions about another person is not good. We really need to look at the entire picture.

I'm not a judgemental person because i myself don't enjoy being judged. I always like giving the person the benefit of the doubt.. jumping to conclusions to easily often lead to misunderstandings espceially when situations are not well thought of.

If someone you knew came over to your home, and after they left, you found the money in your money clip, was missing, and they were sitting right next to it.... Would you judge them? Even if they later returned the money to you... Would you judge them? I think a lot of people confuse judging actions, with judging the unknown. A guy you don't know, walks into the house next door when the husband is away at work. "She's cheating on him!"... well you don't know that. Maybe she is, maybe he's fixing a leaky water pipe. You don't know. That's judgmentalism. That's wrong. But if you see them in the backyard kissing and holding together, and then he leaves, and husband comes home. Well them she's an adultery, and she's cheating on him. That's judging simply what is. But back to your buddy that stole from you. I for one, would not allow him back in my home. Is that wrong? Am I judging? Yes I am judging, and there's no due process. But it's not wrong. Your buddy stole money from you, so he's a thief. I don't hang out with thieves. It's called being wise. My experience has been that the people who scream the most about how horrible it is to judge... are those who are doing bad things, and don't want to pay a price for bad behavior. I was sleeping with a person I'm not married to, and all this bad stuff happened! Well... you brought this on yourself by committing fornication. YOU ARE JUDGING ME! No... you did this. You judged yourself, and now you are paying the price.

I am openminded and I sense characters. So, I am sure I know what I am talking about when I state my opinion.

I have read that those people who easily judges his fellow man are the ones who got so many deficiencies and loopholes in their life. They are the most insecure ones who sees nothing but the negative of other people. This is such a bad manner ,it just tell you what moral you have and how weak is your personality. These are the people who are so self centered and thinks of himself as superior over the other.

Hello, Yes, you are right my friend. We should see or learn first what's behind the two angles of that particular situation.For us not to offend someone, we should judge someone or something with fair and square.We should take both side so that the result would be balanced.

Hi Shavkat, A lot of us say we are not judgemental and most of us try not to judge. The fact is though, sometimes we all do it without realizing it. It is human nature and we may not mean to do it. We are all unique individuals and as such have a right to our own decisions. We do not know the reason for another's actions and therefore should not judge. Blessings.

Its hard not to be judgmental, its easy to look at people who are different than you and say something bad about them just to make yourself look or feel better. I will admit when I look at a person who had a ton of tats or face jewelry I tend to only focus on what they look like, I do my best to get past it because I know they are a person just like me and I need to look past their art and find out what's in their heart.

Quiet judgemental but i used to think their strength before i judge their weakness so i can leave my self with a postiv opinion about someone

You hit the nail on the head, my friend. You mustn't judge something from one angle only. Many times, we are siding to someone we know. We give preference to him or her because they are friend. Their mistakes seem ignored, right?

I am not, because I don't want to be judged as well. Maybe there are cases that unknowingly, I've thought of something bad towards a person depending on the situation. Let's say- seeing a stranger circling a house in the middle of the night (well, this is another case aint?) But, if seeing someone I knew, a friend, a relative to be specific a married person and I saw he/she is with other person eating together or having a talk, well, I don't easily jump into conclusion. Moreover with gossips- I don't listen to gossips nor believed in hearsays

I try to be a good person so my kids would emulate my actions. But sometimes, even though how good I can be, some things just lead me to judging a person, BUT ONLY, if that person does something wrong to me.

I use to be very judgemental. but I actually prayed to GOd to help me with that because I have no righ judgeing others based on whatever... So far i am doing pretty good, I find myself catchng my thoughts and remind myself what i am doing....

I think I'm a psycho person. I dont really judge people and jump to conclusions easily. But I have theories to what they say, act and feel.

I judge a person by how he acts and there were times I waited to see what would happen too later. There are times when judgement is necessary as when a person is about to steal or do something immoral and they will usual lumpy tell you that you have no right to judge them, that is to stop them and you must persevere because they are going to harm others. When the person is perhaps dressed a little too shabby or wears the wrong kind of shoes, picks up the chopsticks or forks wrong, you cannot judge the person as rude or evil because he might be too poor or new to the customs. So it depends on what is being judged.

If I notice something from a certain person, it's hard not to at least have an opinion, no necessarily a conclusion.

I wholly agree with you that we should try our best to listen to all angles of what is being judged before we give our opinion. It`s not as easy at it sounds though. All of us have cultural differences, prejudices and even listen to body languages that cast an influence in our thoughts. I try my best: that`s all I can say. Learning about other people, opening our small world to understand others can help us to understand individuals too.

I try to be balanced but I am not without faults.

I agree with you. I am judgemental in my head but try to listen to all the facts before I act. I learned this as a kid. I used to pay attention to others and saw how people prejudged people. It made me sick. I remember mostly when I was in college. I was at the Cleveland bus station waiting for a bus. This guy was staring at me from a distance. It was beginning to upset me. I was ready to fight. But I stayed cool and a few minutes later, he reached for his cane. He was blind. This reinforced my beliefs not to judge everything by first sight.

hi, i could say that i am a judgmental person sometimes and we can not remove or avoid that kind of attitude in a person,because i also encountered people who judge me easily without knowing me so much about me,maybe people can be like that because people judge them too.