Long distance relationship
@wfhchristiner (352)
Canada
October 9, 2012 6:58am CST
I have a long distance relationship because of work. He only comes visit twice a year. If I think about it, I actually love it, I dont have to share every single thing with him, I still can do what ever I want, whenever I want. And when he comes visit, its just like a date all the time, so always good thing, never fight.. If he visited long enough, say for a month, then we start fighting.. so is long distance relationship good or bad? I kind of like it.
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@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
9 Oct 12
I'm in a long distance relationship too. I'm in Poland and she's in America. I don't like it, I don't want the freedom of being able to do what I want. I'd much rather sacrifice that for being able to be with her everyday. We've so far seen each other every summer for 3 years but now it looks like we won't be able to do that. All I can think about is finding a way that would allow us to live together, I wish I could move to America but right now that's not financially possible.
But I understand that it depends on the person. Some couples want to be able to have their own space whereas others only want to be close all the time. So whether a long distance relationship is good or not all just depends on what you prefer, its your opinion and depends on whether it makes you happy.
@wfhchristiner (352)
• Canada
10 Oct 12
Wow.. I don't know man can be so romantic.. I thought they just think about work and jobs..
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
It's actually for people who don't want commitments or aren't ready for one. I have been in a long distance relationship for the last 7years. We've gone through a lot and yeah, it's fun because you don't have to dress-up all the time and there's nobody to be there to criticize your every move.
However, these days that we are older, we kinda miss being with each other. We do meet up every couple of months but I guess it's not enough anymore. We'd like to just talk face-to-face instead of online. We'd like to just hang-out more and just be together. I guess people's priorities change over time. Perhaps when one becomes a little less selfish and wouldn't mind having a partner - that's the time when you feel that long distance relationship is painful. Most especially if you just need a hug and the person you want it from cannot.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@wfhchristiner (352)
• Canada
14 Oct 12
I guess there is always a pro and con in everything. The pro is the freedom, I can still have my freedom, going anywhere I want, buy what ever I want, and do stuff without always letting your partner knows every little step you take. I have sister in law, and she always have to let my brother know where she goes either grocery, hair salon, every where. In a sense, I feel sorry for her that she gets my brother who is a control freak. The cons is that the bonding, and memories that passes by without him being by your side. In the time of fun, he is not there with you to experience it together. In the time of sorrow, he is not there to support you. He supports from long distance way. With the current technology, skype, video chat, we chat all the time. But of course it will not be the same as when he is physically there.
In my case, I feel ok at this time. We will see how it goes in the future years. He actually feel the same thing, he is ok with the long distance. He looks at other couple, where the wife is always nagging. So compare to ours, he feels also so lucky not to have to follow orders from the wife. Since both of us feels the positive sides of it more than the negative sides, we feel ok. But I dont know for how long.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 12
Hi!
What is the life if a couple or partners do not fight once in a while.
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Little bit arguments etc. are necessary for a healthy relationship.
When two persons stay together then only they could come to know the 'real' persons and could learn how to adjust with each other. However, if one of the partners is visiting occasionally, then the bonding may not be so strong.
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Little bit arguments etc. are necessary for a healthy relationship.
When two persons stay together then only they could come to know the 'real' persons and could learn how to adjust with each other. However, if one of the partners is visiting occasionally, then the bonding may not be so strong.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
9 Oct 12
A long distance relationship is fine for a while but eventually you will want more. If you fight after a month together then this is not going to become a long term relationship, but I suspect you know that already.
You do need some closer relationships and some good friends around if you are going to keep a happy balance in your life, but perhaps if your priority is to please yourself then a long distance relationship like this may suit you.
@xuy2xfreak88 (182)
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9 Oct 12
One thing you should have when having a long distance relationship is TRUST because if you can't trust him... well, its better to move on. I've been there... long distance relationship without trust is impossible.. even if you love him.. it won't work... trust me...
@Bingocheese (3)
•
9 Oct 12
Oh . Man
I really hate it a lot .
I've got a long distance relationship too .
Just broke up with him about a week ago .
I fould it's really upset when he's away . Because I will miss him .
A lot a lot . We used to live together for couple months .
I really could not stay at home anymore .
That will recall the memory we spend times together .
When I was sick ... just wish he's nearby
But in fact , it's me alone in the house ...
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
9 Oct 12
good luck is all I can say I had a long distance relationship an it worked out for me til he got sick an then he thought it would be best if we went our own ways he caught aids though a blood transfusion because he had a brain bleed an just ignored me he knew I wanted the family thing kids an all but I tried to tell him it didnt matter I would grow old with him but he stayed away he passed away years ago an I still think of him an yes I am married with kids an grand kids an I know he is smiling down saying see I knew you would rock as a granny just good luck
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I guess some people handle their relationships well. Long distance is quite hard for some couples. Some get along with each other even if they are separated from each other. They still love, respect and trust each other so there's no problem. For some, they find other boyfriends and girlfriends so that's a problem. I guess we just have to be loyal to our partners if we are away. If we can't, then it's better to break up with them. We should be mature enough to handle a relationship. Happy mylotting.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I personally don't like being in a long distant relationship. My bf has been in another country for the last 2 years and we haven't seen each other then personally, just online 
. I know the feeling of being able to do whatever you wish to do and not have any doubts on going somewhere because you know you won't have to think of your bf to tag along especially when you hang out with friends. Also, you don't get to dress up every time and feel pretty every day because you know he won't be there. But, there is really no excitement when you don't get to enjoy every single day with your partner. Talking online is not enough to fill up those times lost of being with each other. there are no memories to cherish if you are on two different worlds everyday.
. I know the feeling of being able to do whatever you wish to do and not have any doubts on going somewhere because you know you won't have to think of your bf to tag along especially when you hang out with friends. Also, you don't get to dress up every time and feel pretty every day because you know he won't be there. But, there is really no excitement when you don't get to enjoy every single day with your partner. Talking online is not enough to fill up those times lost of being with each other. there are no memories to cherish if you are on two different worlds everyday. 
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Long distance relationships isn't for everyone. Some people can't stand the distance, while others, like in your case, can stand it and make it work. I used to be in a long distance relationship, and actually, occasionally I am because of my husband's work. At first I don't think it would work, but I found out later on that it's all up to the couple on how they can make anything work. Theres a lot of ways and means to talk what with today's technology. Airfares can also be availed in budget rates if booked the right time, so it is no longer impossible to sustain relationships even if you're miles apart.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Wow. Keep the fire burning. I hope the long distance relationship will last forever if you are sure that he's really the one. :) I haven't experienced it yet but I will surely experience it. Soon my boyfriend will work abroad as a nurse. And I have to deal with it.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I am in long distance relationship too. At first, I really love to be distant with him for the reason that I do not want to be guarded like you have said you can do whatever you want to do if he is very distant. But as years gone by, I felt I am always longing to be with him. I felt like I always want him to be by my side.I do not know maybe because I always want his presence. When we were together we were very happy so the time that we need to separate, its too hard for me to accept already.
@nancyfancy (61)
• China
9 Oct 12
Many people says that distance is the biggest problem between love.Actually,around me there are many long distance people,some of them has already broke up and some of them quarrel for the distance while some of them cherish the time they stay together.You two are quite special from those for that you never fight.Maybe the long distance is good for keeping your relationship,but closer can make you know each other better,isn't it?
@sam14feb77 (1)
• India
9 Oct 12
Actually it matters what you people are expecting from each other. Up to which limit you both ready for this relationship and what shape you want to give this relationship in future.
@GemmaR (8517)
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9 Oct 12
It can be very hard when you don't get to see your partner all that much because of the fact that you are not able to get that kind of physical intimacy that you can get with somebody who you live with. But at the same time, there is a chance that it might be good for your relationship in the long term because of the fact that you can learn to appreciate each other more due to not seeing each other as much. You would also have more to talk to each other about when you were in touch, and that could be a good thing.
