Should I Change Myself Just To Be Accepted?

I don't think it's a good idea. Let's say, for the sake of the conversation, you changed to fit in with them. Then what? What kind of change will these people want you to do once they get tired of who you turn to be? People who cannot accept you for you really are will never accept you for who you pretend to be. They will never be satisfied, because they never even see the real you in the first place. And how about you? Will you be happy knowing that you are suppressing your real thoughts, feelings, actions, just so you wouldn't come out of character of whatever kind of person you're impersonating? People will always be different, interests and life experiences will always bring us together but I don't think anybody should change who they are. Maybe what you should do instead is improve yourself for the better. If, let's say, you are extremely shy to strike conversations to new acquaintances; why not try to be the first one to say hi and comment on the weather, for example. Then let it flow from there.

I would not change myself for anyone. I am who I am and I rather change my circle than to change myself. Remember one thing, you are born alone and you do not need anyone who does not like you or appreciate the way you are. The world s full of nice people. Change your circle is my suggestion. Thanks so sharing and have a wonderful day ahead

As far as i can see getting along with other people is not about changing or being someone you are not it is accepting and understanding that not everyone thinks like you or agrees with you. So accept people for what they are and be open minded and I am sure you can learn to jive with them as you state :)

Change is good. It doesn't mean, though that you will completely change who you really are. But look for the flaws that might be hindering from being close to others. If you seem to be an introvert, then try to open up your feelings to a brother or a sister. Make yourself be heard. Socialize.

Be what you are, your true friends will accept you whatever you are. However, just try to change little by little not abrupt because your friends will surprise of the sudden change. Try to meditate and think of what you did previously so that you can correct them and change.

I think if you have that nasty attitude then you should change that. True friends will accept of who really you are. You should mingle with the one who has open arm to accept you as being you. Do not really change, just be yourself and be with some friends who really accepts you whoever you are.

You just need to be yourself, be true. True friends should accept you for who you are and what you are. However in dealing with other people, you should be the neutral one, don't be nasty because the other one is nasy, or good because she is good. This ts what you should learn to control. Don't envy them, rather try to learn from them.

In my mind, I am the only one in this universe, I don't have to change myself if I am really good, I can't please all the people surrounded, I am really good if most of them like to be with me, like to talk to me and play with me. So, if u meet all the above, why r u fretting about?

I was bullied a lot when I was younger, and I actually spent quite a lot of time myself thinking about whether I should be trying to change in order to please other people. The thing that I came to the conclusion of is that I should not have to change, and if people don't like me the way that I am then they're just not worth it in my opinion. You should be who you want to be, and absolutely never even think about accepting any pressure from other people because of it. Life is too short to be pretending to be somebody who you're not.

If you have bad attitude or whatsoever, better change it but you have to change for yourself not for others. There nothing wrong to change something to please everybody as ling as it is for your own betterment. But also think that you are not doing it to please them but for your own good and for yourself.

You shouldn't be! You shouldn't let others change you because you think it's the only way just for you to be accepted by other people. You don't have to please other people just to like you. :)

The answer could be yes or no, depending on what characteristics you feel like you have to change. I really just want to just jump right in here and start giving my opinion on this subject, but I want to do it justice, and for that I'm going to have to make myself some coffee and get back to you. I also need to read the other responses first too. I also need to check out your profile and perhaps that will give me more insight as to what may be going on because you don't give a lot to go off of here.

Well, just like what kokomo reply you with, if you have a nasty or the attitude that makes people hate you, then you should really change. You also said that your attitude is based on the people you are with, so in my personal experience, you should change your attitude so they can accept you but still inside your comfort zone so that you wouldn't be "fake" or artificial every time you are with "some" types of people.

Yes & No. Both are applicable. It depends. As others said, if it is for better, try to change yourself, again it's up to you. Get something you feel a virtue, even from your enimy. Keep smiling.

You don't need to change mainly all your attitude but you need to improve your good qualities to envy people. But if you can change some of your bad habits better to change it to get more friends.

Change for the better not for the sake of others. Do what your heart tells you.

Hi, Absolutely not! Anyone who does not accept you is not your friend. Always be true to yourself.

hi craziest, It's not easy to sink yourself in people's circle specially if you don't like to be sociable no need to change for them slowly you can be sociable if you are going to change because do you think it is the right thing to do and not because you wanted to be accepted by others. happy mylotting

Why?? Than if you change they won't like you more. " Vive la difference" I would say. Why trying to be all alike? So I do believe that trying to be your own self is best, I have noticed that when you are trying to please to much someone else it doesn't always go the way you like.

Only change if you want to change and not because you are trying to fit into a certain circle. Once you're in the circle, something else will happen that will make you feel inferior and then you have to change again. Be who you are, as long as you are not offending and disrespecting anybody.