there's nothing wrong w/ givng advise

Stay with that friend Letran. You know it is hard to find someone who will mind of taking care of you. Be thankful for that. Just tell him/her what you feel. If you're choked with his advices, tell him. That's what makes your friendship grow by letting both of you know how each think about a misunderstanding.

You really can't choose how your friends act. I can't remember having a friend who always pushes me to do things that I don't want to do. Maybe because they know that I am really a hard headed person. I always do what I want to do and that nobody could dictate me. Let's just be careful next time in choosing our friends because it's hard when you already have the connection and would suddenly leave you because you don't know how to listen.

I agree, I think friends should be there for as long as they can accept you as who you really are and not there to change you if you do not want to change at all. One should respect one another difference. That is the true essence of friendship.

There will really be persons in our lives that would want to change us especially when they think we are not going anywhere.. my parents used to be that way too and i was also that stubborn to believe them and which later on how i wish i did listened more.. i guess it all depends on what advise they were telling us... and it still all depends if you are happy with it or not because i believe that before you decide you must think about it more than twice..

Oh, real friends will stick with us thru thick and thin. If they become so pushy, I guess you have your own decision. You have to decide for yourself and not them. You're right. There's nothing wrong in giving adviced however, we can not just do whatever they say because we also have to consider a lot of things before doing an action. We can't just apply them if we don't really mean doing them. I hope they'll understand our sides, too. They cause us more stress instead of helping us. Happy mylotting.

hi LK

That's what I did to one of I so called closed friend. I keep pushing on him to make change specially on his attitude. I did that because of him, he said he want to change his lifestyle. If he didn't told me about his plan maybe I am hesitate to do it for him. You can reached your goal without sacrifices. So if he remains the same, he will never step to the next level. I am a picky in terms of looking friends but after I change it, now I can mingle to any people and we become friends after we know each other specially if we have the same goals in life. I don't like to accompany people who are always negative.

There are two kinds of friends in our lives- the good and the bad influence. If you think your friend's advice won't hurt or harm you, then what's wrong with listening to it. There are friends or people who are not good when it comes to convincing others what to do or what to avoid- therefore, they sounds irritating to you because you don't like what he/she is saying (it is because the person is not good enough to express what he/she wants) Sometimes you feel that friend or person is interfering too much with your personal life- it's what you assume, maybe due to your pride or maybe because you just don't want to listen or you never consider the bright side. Sometimes a direct or frank words helps, sometimes don't (it always depends on the listener how he/she take the advice) I am the kind of person who doesn't like giving unsolicited advice because I do not want to be blame after. but if I think I really need to give a piece of suggestion- it is because I really care for that person. Whether he/she will listen or follow my advice won't matter to me, as long as I know I have done part. Advice is good whether you follow it or not- at the end of the day you may find yourself sitting alone, thinking all the advice that you receive and you can tell yourself how dumb you are.

You can be surrounded by a lot of friends but really, only a few will remain to be good friends to you. And those that remain are those who loves you and understands you no matter what.

Yeah we really don't have to have pushy friends in our life. It's not a good thing to be that way. Like you mentioned there is nothing wrong with giving advice. We just don't want to try and push our thoughts,feelings, and viewpoints onto others. After all we don't know what the outcome will be if they listen to us. Things could go wrong. So it's best not to do that.

LK, we can give our suggestion to our friends and following them is their own wish, we don't have the rights to force any one to follow our words, each and every one have their own wish and interest. Friends have the rights to scold you, but every thing is having a certain limitations. Good to know that your friends know about you and give importance to your words

Unsolicited advise will almost always put us into trouble. No matter how much we care for a person, we don't have the right to impose them what we believe to be better for them. And being pushy will definitely results into irritation thus making the person avoiding us at all cost.