How to be in a relationship?

Philippines
October 22, 2012 8:42am CST
I have always wondered why up to now I am still single. I wanted to try to be in a relationship and meet my possible wife in the future. What should I do? Where should I go? Where do I find single people who are ready to mingle?
19 responses
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Oct 12
If those who have problem with their posture and body got married, how much more to those who doesn't have. The main reason why people stay single until their late age it's because they want to enjoy life. Aside from that they are more choosy to become their partner. Maybe they are looking for a partner with the same attitude to their mother or their father.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Oct 12
It's not difficult to find those ladies you wanted to be with in the future because we have millions of Chinese people in out country.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. Thanks a lot.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yes. I wanted to enjoy life but with somebody else. I can say that I am a bit choosy with girls. I like chinese girls because I am a chinese. Yeah. I consider the attitude of my partnet to be same as mine or someone who is compatible to me.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
Some may feel apprehensive of not being able to find the perfect partner they want. It is because, in my opinion, you do not have to find her. Let her find you. Love just happens.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I guess, God is still looking for the perfect girl for you. And while you are waiting for her to come, why not focus on making yourself successful and prepare yourself to be worthy for that special girl.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Okay. That's what I am doing so far. My priority is my career as of the moment.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. I believe that also. But it's been a long time since I had a relationship. Why is this happening?
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I'd say never force yourself to find someone to love. when you find a woman attractive, get to know the person and try not to be in a rush. When you rush things, you only mess things up. You are a guy, based on your post and i will suggest all the more to not be in a hurry to be in a relationship. You have got all the time in the world, and enjoy whatever you have got with you. You will find that woman whom you will be attracted to, when you find the person take it slow and just take it easy.
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Okay. Thanks so much. I'd never force anything but you have to still find a way for love.
@celticeagle (166762)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Oct 12
You are probably still single up until now because you weren't interested in being in a relationship. What should you do? You should go places where your possible wife might be. You need to also be sure you know what type of person you need and want to meet. Think about it and be sure that this is clear in your mind. Set up some very strict boundaries and eleviate the women that don't meet your needs. Places you might go are churches and places where people enjoy the same things you do. And reach out to those that are of interest. Eye contact and asking them things as if you are really interested. Be a gentleman and don't run around with other men with bad reputations or who do things you don't want your potential wife to think you also do. Think about her and what she would want from a man. Act like a gentleman with class and ethic. Treat people with respect and show her the kind of person you really are. In other words, don't put up a big front. Be honsest. Be someone a woman worthy of being your wife would want to be around.
@celticeagle (166762)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Oct 12
That sounds reasonable to me. I hope it works out for you.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Very well said. I think I should be more participative in organizations so that I can meet different kinds of people or women. For now, I want to meet women that want to be in a relationship but not yet ready for marriage. I just want companionship so that I can be with women and learn myself more and about her also.
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
30 Oct 12
You could always date online and I think it's easier for men for not being that dangerous for them. But still give time for you to trust the girl, you never know who you are talking to, don't rush into marriage cause you have a long time to that, think about the kids and your future happiness. Married couples are a great way to introduce you to girls they know are single now too.
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Yeah. Married couples are a great way to know who are single and not single. They can introduce and recommend you to your future soulmate.
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 13
I am also being single. But I have many girl friends who I am being friends from 3 organizations. I can being friends with them because I am active in those 3 organizations. Actually there are some of them that are expecting my love. But, i decided being single for now. my suggestion for you, if you want to make a relationship with a girl, let the girl know your identity, and you need to be active in the organization the girl is also being active. Most of good girls are willing to start a relationship with a man that they know. Good luck.
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Yeah. They should know the man their trying to have a relationship with. You are lucky you have friends like that and you are pretty much active in organizations. You don't feel any attraction towards any of the girls?
@xredburn (97)
• Portugal
22 Oct 12
Every relationship is different. What works for a couple might not work for another.
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
It certainly is.
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 12
You don't have to find it just do your daily activity normally Faith sooner or later will give you the path to your wife
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Okay. But I just want to have a girlfriend. I am not thinking for the long term yet.
• Indonesia
23 Oct 12
Just be yourself. Enjoy your day. Chase your dream. Once you enjoy being yourself, enjoying your activity, you become a magnet for a lady. The right one. Why is that? Because you feel secure; you have created security, at least for yourself. That's the magnet. Woman will not feel secure with a man who is unable to create his own security, with a man who is unable to enjoy his daily activity.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. I agree with you. I have also read this from somewhere.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
Just wait for it. It will come in the right place and in the right time. Or you might just overlook it and it's already in front of you. I believe each one of us is destined to love and be loved by a person who will fill our other's half.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I'll believe it's true that you'll just have to wait for it to come. But when you need money, you'll have to work for it right? For love, I think it's also right. You have to do something to find it though.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Maybe you still have not met the girl that you love. I guess she is just there around but just haven't taken any attention to her.
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
Where is she? What can I do to find her?
@Shavkat (139827)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
There are a lot, I am sure you are just picky.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. Maybe. That's one of the reasons. I am a chinese so I would be attracted to a chinese girl. Someone who has cute and chinky eyes. I like someone who is petite and pretty. My built is also petite.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Oct 12
Maybe as a male you should be active for love, as females are always inactive and they hope man can be active. Females are always shy to tell man that they want to have a relation with him. So , just be brave and nice to female, and i believe you can find your partner soon.
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. Well, I just have to make a move though. I feel like I want to find a girlfriend for that I need to know more about myself and also her. When good things happen then she might be my wife.
@Magz1989 (271)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
You know love will just find you...don't find it..it will come...okay...just wait for it...just like me...i meet me unexpectedly...
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Yeah. But you have to expose yourself outside. You cannot find love if you just stay at home and don't do something.
• India
22 Oct 12
Hi friend, a lot of social and dating sites are available in this modern days, most of the youngsters are finding their beloved persons using this sites. Try out them, you can find your beloved person. But don't involve in a serious relationship without having proper understanding
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
What are social and dating sites do you know of?
• Qatar
22 Oct 12
Very difficult to answer why until now, you are still single. There lots of sites on the internet where you can find your partner but it is not a guarantee that you will end up into a good relationship. It is really up to you, your attitude, personality, your well-being. Just keep on trying, don't lose hope and most of all pray for I believe there is somebody reserved for you by God.
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Thanks a lot. I think my problem is how I handle myself to ladies. I sometimes don't know what to do.
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I think your princess is still waiting for you until now. GO get and find her. :) Good luck. I think you should start from the people around you first. :) You can go to a bar to hangout or to a party to meet some new gals.
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Yeah. That's the common thing to do. Go to a bar or party.
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Hi vincent! you can meet a lot of women suitable for a relationship. However, if you want to find the only girl for you, then ask God for her. He has his timetable of our lives so u might need to wait for that. In the meantime, just enjoy ur being unattached for now. It also has a lot of advantages. Being in a relationship, (especially if its not a God given relationship) has its problems too. Its painful most of the time. IF you are not ready to face such emotional dilemmas then I suggest you enjoy ur life. :D
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Thank you. I wanted just to have fun and whatever comes I'll enjoy it.
• Romania
22 Oct 12
I think that this thing comes on his way. You can't do a thing. If you aren't a pig and I'm sure you know what I mean, you will meet your girl. I believe that I'm compatible with a girl who I already knows despite of one meeting and it's done. I wish you to find your dream girl and be happy.
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
Thanks for replying. Where do you find single ladies?