How would you feel if the one you love keeps on avoiding you?

I would feel heartbroken and dejected. If my loved one would behave like this to me than it would be very much painful for me. I surely won't be able to bear such behavior from her at all. I would rather like to die than facing it.

How you feel is really understandable. It's really painful. But, you gotta also think that he has his reasons for doing what he's doing. It's better if he be open to you in stead of showing these actions, yes. But, that's not anymore yours to be concerned about because that's totally beyond your control. No matter what you do, he will do as he want. There's really no way that you can easily recover from the sudden changes between the two of you. But, the way you react to it, at least, you have a control over. So, try and not focus on him anymore. Definitely, you'll miss him big time, but just reminisce everything without being sorry or bitter that now he's started treating you in a different way. Just, remind yourself that things happen. Tell yourself this is just like storm. You'll never know when it'll come, but when it hits, you just gotta face it, brave it and not complain about it. Take things as they come without placing any expectations so it's not gonna hurt so much. Don't allow yourself esp your emotions to revolve around his sphere. Now that he has chosen a different path, widen your horizon. Meet more friends and enjoy their company to help you not to feel so sad about what happened. Also, it will help if you'll also see form his viewpoint. He certainly have his reasons. Just don't try to see things only with your own perspective. That way, it won't be just about how you feel but how he feels, too. Am sure, he's also hurting that he has to make a choice, which for him is a better one. Cheers, gal!

OK, so you made a mistake with this guy and he took advantage of you. What a ratbag. Just put it behind you my dear and move on. You will be hurt again because you have a generous loving and giving nature and that is a great way to be but there will always be guys who are attracted to your sweetness but won't fall in love with you. You will be hurt every time you fall in love. It happened to me over and over and so now I am alone and happy at last. I haven't learned anything except that if I get with a guy, I will be hurt. I pick the wrong ones you see. I pick the weak ones, the ones who use women and don't want to commit. If you find a guy who really loves you, you probably won't like him very much. Life can be cruel.

If I may not mistaken you started a topic about this person. In your topic you said that you are the one who start avoiding him because you don't want to expect anything anymore. So, if that is your decision- you must be prepared to be ignored as well. I do not want to add anymore pain- but you must expect this thing from that person since you made the first step of avoiding/ignoring him.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well it is very painful if we are constantly being avoided by the person whom we love very much and for us every second seems like dying within. Life becomes terrible and our mind is flooded with a host of negative thoughts. It hurts very deeply and we feel everything gloomy around us. So in order to avoid such things to happen in our life we should always take the initiative first and sort out the differences first and clear the misunderstandings. What say?

Love is every thing. Love can make anyone be happy and love can make anyone can be hurt. Just talk to him. If you need to see him directly in place that you know he always exist. Ask him directly, Why he do like that to you, and you can see his face and you will know if he hide something

You can't help your feelings, and he can't help his. I would just ignore him, in fact, I would unfriend him if I were you, then I wouldn't have to see him avoid me... Honestly, he's such a jerk, he doesn't deserve you! You need to just kiss him off (basically realize he's a loser) and move on. Find someone who really does deserve a sweet, smart, pretty girl like you!

For me, I would feel sad. But at the same time, I might feel resentment over him. That thing had happened to me before. What I did, I also avoided him. I would show him the feeling is very mutual. I'll give him a taste of his own medicine. It may sound hateful but it's just expressing my feelings towards what that person is doing.

Hi! I have gone that situation. I took the risk of telling my best friend how I feel towards him. I braved to risk the friendship and regret what I did because just like you he avoided me. I never got an answer after that. We never communicate again, until after almost a year of not talking he applied in the same company I am working with. That time, I have accepted that we can never be together and what is important is for the friendship to come back. We talked again fro the very first time and tried to get every back in normal just like the good old days. We never talk about how we feel., until one night when he told me that he loves me. I cried hard because I never knew I will ever hear that from him. Now we are married for 4 years and we have a son already. He said he love me too 10 years ago and I will never forget that day. So you see, everything happens for a reason and just let God work for you. I am not telling you this to give you a false hope. Just pray and believe in the power of God. If you are meant to be, you will find the way back to each other's arms.

I know how you feel. And just teaching your heart to stop loving a person right there and then is next to impossible. But save your dignity. If he keeps on avoiding you, then just don't bother having him in your life. It would be more painful if you let yourself continue to know how he is everyday. If I were you, I'd delete him from my friends' list so that I would no longer see him online. Start warding away little by little. And before you know it, even bumping on him at a mall will never be problem to you anymore.

Well, he must be surprised to know about your feelings for him. I will also do the same if it is really unexpected. The best thing to do is give each other time and space. He is definitely confused as of the moment and do not want to make wrong moves that would complicate things more. I have an experience about this but not exactly the same situation. I have a very close friend and we fell in love with each other. The problem is we're both in a relationship. I came to a point that I really wanted to pursue our relationship, but he stepped back. He said he can't hurt his girlfriend and so he tried avoiding me for months. I was hurt and did the same. That was definitely painful but since I've been through many heartaches before, I knew that the pain will soon passed away. I was doing fine and have already accepted the fact that we've lost our friendship. But we work in the same office and so could not really avoid to deal with each other totally. We still talk about work and other things. And soon, we became at ease with each other again. The feelings is still there but I don't feel the pain anymore. I am perfectly fine with the relationship we had that time. But then later on, he told me that he loves me and now ready to face the consequences for loving me. But the thing is, he was too late and I can no longer do something about it.

Well I know how painful it is. No words to explain :(

I would feel hurt and unwanted. I have been in the same situation you are in and it was not at all easy. But time heals all. All you can do is just learn to accept his way of dealing with this issue. Try to ignore him as well and just move on Dear. You will get over it eventually. :)

If in the pursuit,she blindly away,I will choose to leave,do not want to give up the whole forest for a tree.

Friendships are funny that way. If you had risked it though you wouldn't know. Perhaps avoiding you is the only he can exist. Is he embarrassed? Sounds like he is rather immature and can't handle the situation. Having you done something to embarrass him? Or was just 'the talk' enough? Maybe given some time things will change.

Don't be upset. You said that you have already accepted that you are not destined for each other so you have to be prepared for whatever happens. I know how you feel, it really hurts. Just think that it's good that you have known that you have no place in his heart. You can overcome all this and in the future, you will just laugh it out.

I think your reaction is pretty much understandable because things didn't happen the way you want or expect them to be. From my own point of view, it is better that he knew about how you feel about him and be ignored now, than for you to let this thing go on for quite some time while you silently hope and pray for some chance that he might feel the same way. Why? Because you will never know when will it happen or if it will ever happen at all. Would you like to be stuck in that situation, in those feelings while he continues to live his life and you're still waiting silently on the sideline? This thing happened to you for a reason, it's got it's consequences but then every choices in our life has one. There is nothing in this world that you can be 100 percent sure of especially when emotions are involved. I think it's okay for you to feel sad for a while, "mourn" the loss of the friendship if you want. But remember that this mourning doesn't go on forever. You have to know that you have to get up, brush yourself off and be ready once more to meet other people. He's not the only guy on the planet. You might be thinking easy for me to say, yes, it is, but definitely not impossible to do.

If you love someone, you really want to see that person more often, even 24/7 maybe. But if that person is avoiding you it hurts of course. I feel what you feel because before, we used to chat it facebook. Then later I noticed, little by little that I am being avoided. I just told myself to accept things as they are for sometimes, we want things to happen the way we want it to be but fate has it's way on how things ought to be.

I think it's the natural thing that you're feeling. I'm getting the same treatment from a girl. She doesn't give me the time of day and it's as if she just doesn't want me in her life at all, as a boyfriend, as just a friend or anything. It makes me feel unwanted and rejected, also insulted in some ways. The worst part of it for me is that I still don't know if she wants me or not because she won't tell me. It's very painful, confusing in my case and cruel of the other person. It's like they're just treating us as strangers that are stalking them and want to get away from us. I really do feel your pain. If you ever want to talk more about it, just message me. I don't know about you but I have no one to talk to about my troubles.

The one I love never answers my questions. Not on FB not when I txt. And then -once in 4 or 5 weeks- I get those messages "Ilove you soooo much and I miss you" I don't reply anymore. Over and done with it. I got the pictures off the wall and they're in a box in the closet now. Because I want to go on with my life.