What Would the Child You Once Were Think of the Adult You Have Become?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
October 30, 2012 9:07am CST
I saw this question in FB a while ago. It made me think.
The child I once were is a very timid child and full of fears and apprehension. I was once full of questions in my head.
I probably think of the adult that I have become as one that had changed a lot, had become braver, had dared a lot and succeeded and failed, and had become more than what I expected as a child I once were.
What about you? What will you tell your the child you once were?
The child I once were is a very timid child and full of fears and apprehension. I was once full of questions in my head.
I probably think of the adult that I have become as one that had changed a lot, had become braver, had dared a lot and succeeded and failed, and had become more than what I expected as a child I once were.
What about you? What will you tell your the child you once were?1 person likes this
9 responses
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Well, the child I was would probably say something like. "You moron, you f'd up, you made the biggest mistake you can make in this life. Look what you did to me. Now I will change all that." Sounds good? I think so. I know that if I could do it all again, I would listen to that inner child and things would be much better for me.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
well, maybe. i know there are some things that we did that did not do us good but i also believe that we had some good things that we have now that we can't be sure we'll get when we do it the other way. there always what we call pros and cons in the decisions that we make.
i know there are some things that we did that did not do us good but i also believe that we had some good things that we have now that we can't be sure we'll get when we do it the other way. there always what we call pros and cons in the decisions that we make.1 person likes this
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
When I was young, I always see myself a successful woman. Busy with the profession that I have chosen. Faithful to God like I have always been when I was still a child. I think the child that I once were would think I am so not the person that I wish to become. It's very different from the adult I have envision of becoming. The child might even think I have become worst than I was when I was a child. Sad, but that's really happening. Nothing I wished for when I was young is happening to me now.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
wonder what this means - 'the child might even think I have become worst than I was when I was a child. am guessing it's all about being insecure, impulsive, stubborn, easy-go-lucky, etc.
success for me is subjective. who knows that you might be tagged 'successful' by others because they see your life differently. the worst critics of ourselves, they say, are ourselves. 
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
30 Oct 12
My child would be disappointed.
-I'm not a famous writer :)
-I became more conformist and a usual person (which I don't mind now, but the 6-year old me imagined the 20-something me as someone really eccentric)
-I'm not going to have a really top-notch job with a high salary (now this one bothers me, because I thought my wit would be enough, but it isn't, I should be an assertive motormouth for that, which I am not)
-I got a boyfriend much later than I expected
-I haven't lost that much weight :)
-I don't have a huge mansion with 100 rooms :P
-I'm not as hopeful and more anxious :(... I think this part of me would my kid be the most sad about.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
the 6-year old me imagined the 20-something me as someone really eccentric - i guess most of us expected so much about ourselves when we were very young.
a huge mansion with 100 rooms?? - the child you once were really know how to dream big! 
i had fun reading your comment.
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
30 Oct 12
The child I once was would be a little disappointed in the adult I have become. I grew up with a twin brother and this turned me into a feminist before the word was invented but I didn't fight for equality, I just grew up accepting the status quo.
I was quite a patriotic child and loved patriotic poetry but when I lived in other countries I realised that other countries also had much to offer and patriotic poetry and songs do not move me any more.
I was not a timid child, I was a confident one with an enquiring mind. I was rather bossy now I come to think of it. I loved animals though, perhaps that was a saving grace.
I would tell the child I was that things are never as simple in life as one supposes as a child. I would advise her learn more history and to understand other countries and respect their culture, not be superior about out own. I would thank her for loving animals and encouraging this love to develop into adulthood.
@MiaFerrari (51)
• Argentina
30 Oct 12
Wow! that is the most interesting introspective question I've read in a long time. I guess the girl I was would be proud of how happy I am right now. I didn't have an easy childhood and that made me an angry teenager with no self-esteem.
I haven't accomplished much regarding money and work (I certainly don't have the convertible I wanted), but I truly am happy with what I have.
Thanks for giving me something to think about!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
hi, Mia! welcome to my space here in MyLot! thanks for appreciating.
this is like a total opposite of most of the responses. am glad you look at what you are now positively. we might not be able to surpass the expectations of that little child, but to be able to do something that seem to be extraordinary and unexpectedly would satisfy that child.
welcome to my space here in MyLot! thanks for appreciating.
this is like a total opposite of most of the responses. am glad you look at what you are now positively. we might not be able to surpass the expectations of that little child, but to be able to do something that seem to be extraordinary and unexpectedly would satisfy that child. @GemmaR (8517)
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30 Oct 12
I don't think that the child who I was would be happy with me if I'm being completely honest. During the course of my lifetime I have had many dreams, but slowly I have had to say goodbye to each one of these dreams as things have changed. Now I am unemployed with hardly any friends and living with my parents; and that is totally not a situation that I would ever have imagined myself to be in. It is a shame, and I can only hope that things will change for me enough so that I can achieve at least some of my dreams.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
hi, GemmaR. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
i am sure that things will change for you. it is a good thing to have acceptance about things that are happening in our lives, especially those that are not classified as 'good'. we can always use these 'bad' things to strive to go on and still try to achieve our dreams.
there is still a chance for that child that was once you before to be happy.
i am sure that things will change for you. it is a good thing to have acceptance about things that are happening in our lives, especially those that are not classified as 'good'. we can always use these 'bad' things to strive to go on and still try to achieve our dreams.
there is still a chance for that child that was once you before to be happy. 
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I'd tell him he was wrong. The child I was back then believed that I'd finish my law studies. Well, I didn't . But I guess that child would be a little disappointed in what I had become since his dreams back then didn't turn into realities. But yet I'm sure he'd be happy for the life I have now.
. But I guess that child would be a little disappointed in what I had become since his dreams back then didn't turn into realities. But yet I'm sure he'd be happy for the life I have now. 
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Oct 12
Dear Ms Bingskee
Well, as a child I am sure, I was never rational. I was always impulsive. I was always scared of cockroaches(I am even today). I was a much simpler person at heart who didnt know anything about diplomacy and public speaking was the last thing I could think to do.
After so many years, when you ask and I look back, it really baffles me that I have been a teacher for so many years. The professionalism forced me to learn diplomacy, handle things with tact. And then the illness - it definitely taught me the patience, the willingness to fight to live and so many other positives.
But yes, the lazy me still managed to survive
Well, as a child I am sure, I was never rational. I was always impulsive. I was always scared of cockroaches(I am even today). I was a much simpler person at heart who didnt know anything about diplomacy and public speaking was the last thing I could think to do.
After so many years, when you ask and I look back, it really baffles me that I have been a teacher for so many years. The professionalism forced me to learn diplomacy, handle things with tact. And then the illness - it definitely taught me the patience, the willingness to fight to live and so many other positives.
But yes, the lazy me still managed to survive