Why can't men ask for help when they need it?

G-d commands 'dominant beings' to 'hold dominion,' and "asking for help" means admitting that you can't hold all dominion & is thus sort of "letting go" of that dominion. and each 'letting go' slides the man one step back from the 'dominant' to the 'submissive.' Less-comfortable, for one not so-accustomed.

Hi, I don't think your observation about men applies to me. I always ask for help or assistance if ever I need it. Whenever I drive going to a place not familiar to me, I always consult a map, ask friend for more information and when I found out I'm lost I readily ask a policeman or other drivers for directions. I think it's stupid just go on circling around and not asking for assistance. This applies to all my activities. Have a nice evening. Ciao!

I think that pride has a lot to do with it. But they are not to blame for all of it. They were brought up in thinking that men don`t cry (don`t ask for support even at hard times). If they cannot accept cuddling when something difficult happens, they will not seek help either when they need a direction. It sounds dumb though

A pleasant day 41CombedaleRoad, With regard to your topic, well, generally because of pride and the masculine image are the reasons why man does not accept any help and assistance from others. They tend to show that they are strong even though they are weak.

You are correct men do not like to asked for help in the situation you have explain and this is nothing but what is called "PRIDE" comes in their ways.

Hello, I can really answer this question :) Asking for help to man is shame, they doesn't want to admire they can't handle something, they want to fix/do it themselves.Yes, It is PRIDE. They want to be independent from everyone. Happy myLotting!

It seems to me that it is their natural leaning to want to fix or solve all things all by themselves. Some can get past that sense of pride and can be practical and find out what they need to know by asking, but others seem to believe it would be faster to just keep trying until it is done. I am not a man, but I have some of those same tendencies that I should be able to know everything automatically. I do think in a way it is a fear of failure.

When it comes to directions, I have often asked for directions and find that many I have asked had no idea and some sent me the wrong way. So I wasted even more time then trying to figure it out myself. If I have no idea at all then I ask a few people and if they all send me the same way then I take a chance. I really prefer to look at a map and try to figure it out myself.

Because they think that they're the stronger gender, they are kind of chauvinistic, and they think that their masculinity depends on whether they can do everything without asking for help... and asking for help hurts their ego...

Even not asking for a direction may be is because of self centricism being in which people dont want to bother or being bothered. People does not want to take any risk of being declined or disrespected as well.

i think it's because there is a sense of accomplishment afterwards when you've figured out something on your own, even if it took a long time to do so, or the output isn't perfect. you also retain the information and experience longer because you went through the process yourself.

not all men, 41combledaleroad. i ask for directions whenever i think i am going to get lost. when i started out, what makes me reluctant sometimes is the fear of speaking to a complete stranger who might turn out to have given you wrong and misleading directions. i have outgrown that fear and ask all the time when lost.

because they are stupid. they could ask for directions even if they knew them just to pick up a girl but nooo... Now seriously and honestly, I haven't noticed that. I've always thought it's just a stereotype. If they are really afraid of asking for help for me it means they are just shy or immature. I used to be shy about asking directions also but it was when I was really young. I worked it out.

I've always thought it was a pride issue. I'm not sure why they do that either. There is absolutely no harm in asking for help. Especially when you're lost, have used a half a tank of gas, and have been driving around aimlessly for about an hour. I have no problem asking for help or directions when I need it.

It's certainly a dilemma and I bet every woman has been in a situation with a guy when he would not ask for directions. I've known guys who will get themselves horribly lost because they just keep going further and further without stopping to try and figure things out. It would be interesting to know what makes them do this.

I have a few observations of my own here: 1. Asking for directions when driving. I think it is just being streetwise when we can never tell if the stranger whom we ask can really give us the right direction. It is a fact that pedestrians cannot see the road the same way as a driver unless he is a driver himself. Yet, no one is a walking navigation system where considerations like traffic direction, traffic lights, flow of traffic and traffic congestion areas. Then there is the existence of group syndicates who target branded cars or wealthy car owners and asking directions from such individuals will just endanger everyone at the end of the day. For such bandits, do not have the word "Bandits" written on their foreheads, so we simply cannot be too easy with strangers. Just read the papers and I am sure you can relate some articles to what I have mentioned here. After all, driving in circles will probably cost a few dollars of petrol but I am sure it is worth every cent compared to risking your car or life. 2. Asking directions in the mall. Sometimes we take peace and low crime rate for granted. Malls and crowded venues are the best hunting ground for petty thefts and child or human traffickers. You may take this as exaggerating but a lot of times targets are being targeted at such places where it being visited by most well to do individuals. Sometimes, I could not help shudder when parents could leave their young children to wander on their own in the malls or supermarkets. When we ask for directions from a stranger, there will always be the likely danger of exposing ourselves unnecessarily to these criminals. So, don't take our surroundings for granted. 3. Asking for help I believe every man has a certain level of pride to accomplish simple tasks like assembling a furniture, fix a leaking tap or change a light bulb. It is in them that simply wants to challenge themselves like we, women challenging ourselves with knitting, cross stitch and jigsaw puzzles where we wouldn't ask another unless "really" necessary. I say, let them be a child with their toys because there's really not much they can get fascinated and baffled with age catching up. Or, the western expression: "men and their toys", let them have their day. I believe that like us, they will ask for help when it is needed but there are legitimate reasons for not doing it especially when circumstances doesn't permit an asking.

It's not 'manly' to appear to need help with anything. Some of these guys have been raised to believe that the man is supposed to be able to take charge and do anything. Having to ask for help isn't within their definition of 'manly'.

If that's a man refusing a woman's offer to help, that's normal. You know, we, men, preserve our pride and shame. It would be shameful for use to let a woman exert an effort or involve in hard situation. A woman is someone we have to care for so as an answer, we just care for women.

I grew up in a culture where 'machismo' was very predominant. It was the old way, and I think it still manifested in my way of thinking as I grew up. That's why I hate asking for directions, and I hate asking for help. I think it's the same for most guys. Although I think it's slowly changing.

Oh man...don't get me started! Lol! It's that pride thing in men. They can't, or won't, admit when they are wrong or if they don't know something. It is so infuriating at times! I would much rather ask someone for help than take 3 times longer doing/going or whatever! Men...jeez!!!!