Do we have the right to hate people?
By aubrey
@averygirl72 (37845)
Philippines
November 6, 2012 7:57pm CST
I am quite confuse, here is my question, do we have the obligation to be nice to every single people we meet? what if you think you don't like them or you are scared, example you see an ugly looking beggar on the street?
Do we have the right to hate people just because they are plainly ugly in our sight? Do we have the right to call them names or ridicule them because they are pretty much funny looking?
I guess it's mandatory to love all people but to hate anyone is a sin. Or could it be this way only,I will hate you if you hate me, or if we feel we really don't like the person then better to just move away from that person. No need to love them, no need to hate them. When you hate a person do you just hide it or you do bad things right in front of their face?
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31 responses
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
People has standards on who they like and who they hate.Your standards are different from mine. Also, you have to remember that some people are plain stupid or an inclination to hate others. Sometimes, it's natural or just conditioned. What you described is hate out of instinct.It's like I hate you because you might harm me. It's a response that is primal and not exactly intellectual but happens anyway.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Ooops,this is supposed ot be a comment for response no.2
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Now, that is different. There are people that are just plain stupid or it's like they love to hate a lot even if you are not doing anything bad. Hating is like a primal response and it's normal if some people are life threatening.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
It is bad to hate people just because of what he might look like or just wouldn't want to be seeing such person as those who could be irritating us. But somehow, we do, right? But I think it would be to just avoid them and not be bothered by whatever it is about them.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
That is true! We could not possible like all of the people around us, most especially those who could be really annoying us. We just simply walk away and go on with our lives. We don't have to let the world know how we hate that person, right?
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
In all honesty there are people that we hate inside but we don't know for what reason--it's safe to move away because it may end up in some wars or something.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yes we have to IF the people done us things that might get us to hate them. But as what you have example I think I don't hate them because they are beggars. They are victims and not to be hated I think they don't choose to be a beggar one. I hate persons who done things that I got hurt but not for a long time I'm a type of person who can't keep anger in my heart.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
So it means our hate our is subjective and objective? It depends on how we feel and the object of our hate feelings.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
So it means our hate our is subjective and objective? It depends on how we feel and the object of our hate feelings.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
7 Nov 12
To answer the question itself, Yes one can choose to hate, it is a choice each of us can make. Myself I will not hate. I can dislike what others do, I can dislike how others are treated. Does not mean I have to hate them, but I can choose to. I choose to feel for them, for they don't know how to NOT Hate..
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Yeah, it's a matter of choice, so what is problem with that? We can hate if we feel like to.
@marguicha (222878)
• Chile
7 Nov 12
Love and hate are strong, passional , words. I think that it is not only absurd but difficult to hate someone you hardly know, like a beggar you see at the street. You can distrust him, you can feel disgusted (if he`s too dirty) but hate is too much. The same way occurs with love. You don`t love everyone you meet. I do feel that we have the obligation to respect everyone as human beings. But that does not include loving them or becomings their friends.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
That's right, hate is a strong word- we can just use the word irritate or annoying and distrust but not really hate.
@marguicha (222878)
• Chile
7 Nov 12
I often get annoyed at some people. But it has nothing to do with hate. Annoyment is a passing feeling.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
7 Nov 12
I don't know how old you are, but this post reminds me if a young girl in grade 7 or 8 maybe. Why hate period? Hate is a strong word? Why hate a beggar? Someone less fortunate than you deserves to be hated? What did a beggar do to deserve to be hated? Because someone is not pretty to look at, they deserve to be hated? Why? Why not be compassionate? It could be you in that situation. How would you feel being hated for just being who you are?
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
I just use it as an example from a possible feeling from a different person not me. I don't hate people who I describe that way, I actually feel a lot of mercy with them and definitely not hate them- on first look, naturally you may want to hate them but on the second look you will feel mercy and you will have compassion-that's what I mean.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
By the way, I get the example in the telenovela I watched yesterday- where a little girl who had scars on the face was rejected twice by 2 groups of children because she is quite scary.
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@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
8 Nov 12
Hi Miss.. No, you don't have to be nice to everyone... You can't do that... No one can! We're alll humans, with limitations... I learned it very late, regrettably...
Look, you can't control your feelings, but you can control the expressions... If something or someone annoys you; you don't need to express your annoyance... Just ignore and move on... It works my friend... It's worked for me....
Good Luck!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
9 Nov 12
Thats right... Thats what I'm talking about... You see, even if we don't like someone, we should not hurt them... Just move on... There're people who don't like us either, right? And we may feel hurt too, if we knew that... In the similar manner, we've no right to hurt anyone.. There are many people, whom I meet daily and I don't like them... But I keep it to myself, as much as I can...
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Absolutely right, because we are humans and we are not angels we cannot afford to be nice to everyone and sad to say we tend to feel more hate than love but then we have the ability to control our feelings- don't have it spill over or we can self-sabotage ourselves.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
7 Nov 12
Do we have the right to hate people ? Yes , I dont see any law against it and love would not exist if it wasn't for hate . We have the right to love and we cant have one without the other .
I would not hate a person because they are ugly , beggar and may homeless . I only hate people that try hurting me . Also not because I am not nice to a person doesn't always mean I hate them , it simple mean I dont want to be their friends are anything .
I would not call anyone name , pretty are ugly . If I hate a person , I make it clear so they dont come around me and I dont go around them because I have a good reason to hate them if I do. I will only tolerate the person if I have to .
We all ate somebody even if we act like a saint
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yes, we can hate-- no law is against it but we should hate with valid reasons. Our reasons can be different from one another. That is right, if you hate somebody you make it clear to them right? It's better to be honest than just pretend so the people can stay far away from us.
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Hate is a strong negative emotion that affects the hater most. Negative emotions creates emotional stress and affects one health and disposition in life. If the subject of this strong emotion is one who don't care about people's opinion about them he will not be affected unless the hater intends to do physical, verbal or emotional abuse on him which is a different matter. And hating someone just because of his unpleasing physical features is almost tantamount to cruelty. We are prone to hate people who have done us injustice but getting out of their way would benefit us more than scheming for means to get even.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
That is so much true. Before it affects the object of your hate, it affects you so much first,you can actually get terribly sick. Great!
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
do we have the obligation to be nice to every single people we meet?
[b]No, but you are a civilized person and the civilized thing to do is to be civil to a complete stranger. You don't have to be nice if your impression of the person is not nice.
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Do we have the right to hate people just because they are plainly ugly in our sight? Do we have the right to call them names or ridicule them because they are pretty much funny looking?
[b]There is no such as right in hate or love. Either you feel it or you don't. You might not have the immediate reason for that feeling but it exist nonetheless. Sometimes, you can't even justify your feelings because they are somewhat instinct to you. Instinct doesn't require thinking.
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I guess it's mandatory to love all people but to hate anyone is a sin. I don't remember any law or mandatory code that encourages to love. It is encouraged (even in religion) but never forced on a person because they have their own feelings. Forcing them to hate or love is a kind of oppression.
No need to love them, no need to hate them. There is no need. When you hate a person do you just hide it or you do bad things right in front of their face? I'm usually an apathetic perosn. If they hate me, fine. But it better for a good reaosn and not a petty one. If I ma angry, i am not child to throw a tantrum. I can keep my anger reigned and let it explode later on.
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@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Okay, hating something can be an personal feeling and instinct -it is perfectly normal to feel it on things or people we honest to goodness we don't like in life. Then, back to religion we tend to be more kind to them on a spiritual level not a human level.
Well, that is right no need to tantrum, or feel sad if being rejected. Just feel fine. I just think that if there are 1000 people in the planet some of it will surely hate you for whatever reason but at least 2 or more will definitely like you for whatever you are.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
7 Nov 12
I'm sure there's a few people I would 'hate' if I had to deal with them personally. This is kind of a hypocrisy of Christianity (if you want to see it that way)---we love Our Father G-d with all our being, leaving ourselves to be little more than 'tools at his service.'
I am a blending, mixing whisk for Our Father. Or--that is--the words I use are a blender-whisk, proving whether the founding beliefs in your mind are firm-solid or loose-liquid.
If your foundation is loose, the words show that your beliefs are more-effective if you mix them in with other beliefs & let the mingled beliefs set into a stronger compound.
Point is, I don't care how attached YOU are to your little beliefs; if I can help you make them strong (like Our Father wants them), I will do-so as I hope you would do for MY beliefs
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
9 Nov 12
(I guess you meant to say you're "NOT talking of religion"?) I choose to set my moral-compass in line with my understanding of my religion, making both stronger.
Sorry I used that '-ianity'-word ... I meant it by the true-sense 'the group that follows the Anointed One and His Anointing,' not what people think Christianity is today---"people tryin` ta` get inta` Heaven on Buddy Jesus' coattails" or whatever.
No, Jesus of Joseph found G-d in the very nature of His humanity and showed us the path to that same understanding. That understanding (with or without the dogmas of religion) is my morality.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Can't really get what you mean? Kind of hypocrisy? I mean I'm talking of religion, I'm talking of moral rights?
@CookingIsMyPassion (653)
• United States
7 Nov 12
Hate is a word that should be erased. It is not a healthy feeling to have at all. People get along with each other or they don't. You may not like someone or what they say or do but hating them isn't right.
If you don't get along don't associated yourself with them. Holding grudges or doing things to offend them more isn't nice at all. Unless you consider yourself a bad person and can't help it.
Be nice to all and if that doesn't work then find someone else to befriend. Hating, causing confrontation and being downright mean is a waste of energy and shows others you are no better than the one that has a bad nature to them.
Be yourself and don't let the actions of others change who you are. If you don't like the way they are why try and be like them. Be yourself and move on to others who you can enjoy good times with.
Better to turn a cold shoulder than become something you're not.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
It's a negative feeling. It's downright mean and waste of energy to hate those people who is not doing you any harm but we should hate those who are harming us to protect ourselves right?
@CookingIsMyPassion (653)
• United States
9 Nov 12
True Christians feel there is no room for hate. You may not like someone and choose not to be with them. On the other hand protecting yourself is your right. It is better to feel sorry for someone who harms others instead of hating them. There is a reason why they turned bad and need help. No God condones hate for any reason.
@Shavkat (139827)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
It is normal for a person to hate someone, but not to the extent he or she feels grudges against them. We need to be open-minded for the possibilities. In time, the hate manifested in you will be lessen as the days go by.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
It's normal to hate, not bad at all but to hold it for too long that's a problem.
@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yup, that's the Bible said is right, but we also need to be wise, be gentle as a dove but be wise as a serpent. I know this is better said than done. Oh, you don't hate a beggar, they're supposed to be treated well because they don't have good jobs to support them. They may look able to work but their mind is just lost.
I believe in the saying that "you reap what you sow". SO if we hate people just because we don't like how they looked, just imagine yourself on their shoes, would you like to be hated as well because you look like that? We don't have even the slightest right to look down on people. It is said that we should look at others better than ourselves.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yes, the Bible said that but it did not say that we become fools or love a person even if a person is a serpent that can bite us any time.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
8 Nov 12
Yes, you have the right to hate anyone you wish. Noone can stop you. No matter what they try. But the thing is, whether you like someone or not. You need to show respect towards them. Plus, they should show respect towards you. I think it is proper and show manners. I have many family gathers where I do not like someone spouse or new partner for the moment. I do not show hostility towards them. That would be rude to start something with someone I don't like at someone else'es place. The more hate this world sees. The more violent it will get. I believe many people in this world have been raised better than that.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Yes, I agree I am free to hate all i want and no one will really stop me and yeah it's mandatory to respect at least all people. It's a matter of good manners to so we don't have to hate without good reasons.
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
7 Nov 12
I have never truly hated anyone. I dislike people.
I try not to judge by how they look, sometimes the way someone looks has nothing to do with a personality or character.
I dislike people that give me a reason to dislike them, although some more than others.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
I also dislike people who gives me a reason to dislike them. Some people can be hate at first but as time goes by you learn to love them too.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
7 Nov 12
Sure, and they have the right to hate us back. Hating somebody doesn't do anything to them, if they don't care, it just makes you madder. If they do care then that shows that you have a problem with yourself, not them. Hate is a wide gateway to violence, when you hate you cause more problems than there are solutions. Besides, we should never hate somebody because it only takes away our right to love in the end. You should own your anger, let it pass, forgive, and move on.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
Sure, I agree it so natural emotion to hate- it's a natural emotion. Actually the hate cannot affect the person unless you demonstrate it. Wide getway to violence so never entertain.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
7 Nov 12
Hey gitfiddleplayer,
I have some friends who has certain bad characters or doing. As they are my good friends I cannot leave them completely. I am bit tensed about how to deal with them. They are having the habit of drinking as well smoking, which I feel it as the worst doing.
So I had just decided to leave up with them other wise I will also get inside with it. In some situations breaking up is quite important other wise it will break us.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
8 Nov 12
The bible tells us that God is not a discriminator of persons. That fact was referring to the Jews and Gentiles, which the Jews hated. Jesus gave an example of discrimination. He said that when a poor man with dirty clothes came into the assembly, he wo old be told to sit on the floor, but when a rich man came in with fine clothes and gold rings, he would be shown to the highest seat. Jesus indicated that this was wrong; all men are equal in the sight of God.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hmm, it's about discrimination and yes at times we hate because we discriminate but we also learn to separate ourselves to protect ourselves from danger or being corrupted.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
No right to hate but to love, but it's hard to always love, but to always hate is not something normal.
@kimberlyamores (11)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Nov 12
As human being, we can't prevent our feeling of hatred to a certain individual however, our attitude towards it is all that matters. Honesty is always good as long as we take it in a very good manner and see to it that we do not humiliate people just because of how we feel towards them.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Attitude matters right. It's important not to humiliate others but hate is legally right to feel.