Should the guy or the girl decide where to go on a first date?

Really? Okay. Thanks for replying. How about for the schedule of the date?

Of course I have to ask. But what I am saying is that I should then adjust to whatever she says? Does the man have to decide on the date?

Your so funny... LOL. Ofcourse you have to ask the girls free time before you set the date. :D good Luck...Cheers.

Thanks for commenting. How about the schedule? Should she be the one to decide when will be the date?

You want to go out with her so take the plunge and just ask for whatever day you thing would work for you. All she can say if she accepts going out with you is that day isn't good for me but would such and such day be okay with you? Compromise...it is harder today because all people work and have different obligations. It will turn out fine. Be in charge of the first date but don't be possessive or over powering. You will do just fine. Let us know how it turns out! Good luck!

Yeah. It turns out I was the one adjusting to the date. She decided the schedule.

Yeah. Thanks for your opinion. We'll see how the date goes. How about the schedule should she decide?

I think for the schedule it is a norm for the guy to decide it as well, since he is virtually the "organiser" for the date. I reckon the girl's role in the date is just to sit back, relax and be surprised with whatever comes along!

Yeah. That's the truth. I was unable to impress my date. I thought I could have prepared more about the place and the date. I thought the date was compromising. The boy should be in-charge because girls don't like to make decisions. We are paying so we must make the decisions.

i think both of you will decide for the schedule date.. coz it dewpends on the time when you are both free..

Thanks for commenting. We will compromise for the date.

Yeah. Thanks for responding. How about the date of schedule, should she decide?

Well, yeah. That's my mistake. I admit that I didn't prepare well enough to impress her. But she smiled during our date and she was more enthusiastic about meeting me.

Okay. What if the girl does not like what the guy is suggesting?

Well you must try to find out from her indirectly what are the thinks she likes and the places she likes to go out to.

Well, I feel bad. Well, I still don't know much about her because it is a blind date. I have to know what kind of foods she eats. I may not know she may have food allergies. Maybe she is health conscious and only eats salad. It's my job to know her well.

No, need to feel bad. Not knowing her very well is the nature of the beast when it comes to blind dating. I'd just ask her what she wants to do and think of what you'd like to do. That way if she is indecisive you can make an intelligent suggestion. I've been on blind dates before. There's nothing to worry about. I look at it this way. Lol, I'll either have a good time or an interesting story to tell my friends later.

For eating, try to pick a place that has a variety of options. Girls do like to eat junk food occasionally, but not as a first impression and it doesn't always flatter us to be stuck with salty fingers and ketchup! Plus, after eating a lot of grease, I don't tend to feel as attractive, which might make me less confident on a blind date. I think that Mexican or Middle Eastern food has a lot of options for a first date! But maybe I am being biased about my tastes ;)

What happen was that most of the decisions made where by me, the guy. But you said it, women are shy to pick a place and where to eat and what to do. So I was the one who decided. But I did ask her if she had food allergies and she said no. I think my mistake was that I didn't prepare enough for the date and wish we had something more to do like bowling and fun things to do.

Yeah. Well said. Thanks. The problem was that she had no time for other dates because she is busy. So somewhat I could say our date was compromise. I did really enjoy my time with her. She is kind and pretty.

Yeah. Good point there. But I am the type that will enjoy if my partner is also enjoying.

Yeah Thanks for commenting.

Yeah. I think I didn't prepare well enough for my date. It's hard in the first place when you don't know someone that well. It's a blind date. But we did have a good time talking. She was so kind and nice.

Thanks for replying.

Yeah. The usual thing would be a movie date. Do something that there is interaction involved. Watching a movie does not have any interaction involved. I think I should come in prepared.

Okay. I am paying and I am offering to pay so I should decide. But I will still consider what would she like to eat. How about the schedule of the date?

The perfect first date in my opinion is eating something and doing some sort of activity before/after. By activity, I don't mean a movie. The purpose is to get to know each other, and you should have lots of time to talk. However, because it is the first date, there might be some awkward silences and you will find it easier to be DOING something while having a conversation. Bowling, going on a walk in the park, hearing live music (but not too close that you can't hear each other), or playing a game in a coffeeshop are all activities that create a low-stress atmosphere for a first date. Again, I think you should take the initiative, but be flexible with her interests and preferences. Maybe if you decide to go to bowling, but she doesn't want to bowl, have a backup option in mind to OFFER her. She can also choose something else. I say this because it's very annoying when someone wants to hang out/go on a date, but doesn't have any idea in mind and you end up just sitting, thinking of something to do. Check and see what's going on locally too, so you have more options to pick from.

Yeah. Thanks for the reply. Should the girl decide the schedule or the guy?

Thanks for commenting.

Yeah. I got you. Thanks for your help. How about the schedule of the date?

Okay. Girls want to be surprise, I know that. I don't know if she would like the place I guess I have to tell her before hand if she like the place. How about the schedule of the date?

Thanks for replying.

So he should also decide where to go? How about the schedule?

Yeah. But we will have to talk about it honestly. Thanks for suggesting.