Do we need a training to love

I feel one does not need to learn to love... its in the blood. Maybe ones needs to learn how to use love. But I think love comes natural to us all.

If love has a definite manual like how appliances and other gadgets works and to avoid it from damaging- maybe then, we will know what to avoid and how to make every relationship lasts forever. Since there is no manual on how to keep a relationship last forever, therefore we only rely from our own experiences and basis from others experiences and shares.

I think there are two questions here, can loving be learnt? Yes Can it be taught? I am not sure all the best, urban

A very good and a very thoughtful question.I hope this thought crosses every body mind who are contemplating marriage.I think often people who are in love think they can overcome any obstacle with the strength of their love.Unfortunately this is not so .You overcome issue with the strength of your charter.But yes people who like me have no idea are never taught what to do how to be after marriage should undergo such trainings.The biggest boon will be that they will realize as to weather they are ready for marriage or now.And also to evaluate whether they have the strength to take constant up and down,disappointments.Marriage is and never will be a bed of roses.

Personally speaking, I'm wishy-washy when it comes to love training and classes for love. How can a 'teacher' teach you and your mate to love? Don't you automatically know in your heart? With my sister and her husband, every other day of the week we hear that 'I'm done with him! I'm divorcing her!' Eleven years of marriage and things don't and never will change. I really don't understand it.

Everyone naturally has the ablility to love and to be loved. so i think there is no need for training and learning. what matters is the way he or she behaves or expresses in a love relationship.That is the essential point.To sustain a love relationship, we should just keep improving ourselves throughout the process.

as far as i am concerned, a man who has experience to take care of his girlfriend make me feel better. Love is a inherent ability, or need, however, that is not equal to say everyone has the inherent ability to love in the right way. recalling my puppy love period, I can't not help but restrict my lover's space of freedom, setting up for the strong emotion of love.

IT WOULD not be natural one if we get training in love. IT is sensational and instantaneous

If there is training I don't think it will make any effect because it should come from within a person how to love. I have seen my hubby's brother and wife go for counselling and all to help better their marriage but seems to have no effect because they are fighting still and have no love. and the man has extra marital affair. so it is not gonna work if one is not ready and this love thing comes from within a person and rather no need for training. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead

In my opinion,i don't think it requires training it comes from within the heart.

Yes I suggest counselling too. Many relatioships have lots of problems and an expert or good counselors are needed. In the part of couple, they must be both open to counselling and obey what has been advised. Thanks for this.

I don't think it will be a good idea if we have a training to love. It will lose its mystery. And it will become boring. Most relationship fails because one or both parties become too comfortable about having each other. Knowing that they love each other and did not make a much effort to make it work. Or it started too fast without getting to know each other first if they can compromise most of the things or not. The contentment also is one of the most important factors. We tend to look at other people's relationship and compare to ours. Loving is a matter of choice, a matter of getting ready, sacrifice and belief. I myself have been into failed relationships. It taught me a lot about life that nothing is permanent and there's no assurance even in marriage.

love comes and we cont need any training to be expert for love.love sometimes failed it hurt but we love again and forget the pain

I think, love is as natural as breathing. Bad relationships happen because people involved are not really serious or committed to their promises. Sometimes, it is just a bad love and it is not really not meant to be. Love should be a two way interaction and understanding. It's a give and take. You give and you take. No effort is necessary when it comes to love. It's love, it's like oxygen it's there. We breathe in.. we breathe out.

I think experience is the word to describe it. We learn a lot from those experiences from our past relationships and hope that we can do better for our future partners.

Yes Jaiho there should be a training academy where people will go to learn outlooks and responsibilities about life, love and marriage. Many a times people dont have enough outlooks as to maintaining a sustainable relationship. I think break up is so frequent happens now a days. And its a problem of our modern society. Even our kids becomes the victim of suffering caused by break up. Trainimg is badly necessary.

We trained fro having failure relationships. Eventually you will learn what makes the relationship last forever. That's love, we need to gamble and learn from it.

I have never been married, but it seems to me that the strong marriages I have seen have been the result of two people trying to improve themselves and being committed to making the relationship work. I don't think this is relational training, but I do think that it involves some emotional maturity. People need to work on their own issues, self-esteem, conflict-resolution, etc. to have a better relationship with their partner.