Is sibling rivalry unavoidable?

As I was growing up, I never had any issues with both my brother and sister. Although we would have petty quarrels, it never came to a point that we had to be in tug of war for attention from our parents. I think that sibling rivalry was not evident on our family because our parents brought us up in a way that they have expressed their equal love to the three of us. And that both my parents share the same views in rearing us.

Good luck with that..lol...I have raised three children. Two girls and a boy. I had certain rules in the house that prevented physical altercations, but the arguments and the undermining stuff was something that I constantly struggled with. Even now my middle daughter is..well..funny about the younger daughter. My youngest doesn't share the the feelings but that even seems to make my middle one worse sometimes. The thing is though that if anyone else tries something against the other..they stand together. I think that is ultimately all we can ask for.

Siblings are bound to have a degree of rivalry but as long as it is based on love I think all should be well. It is important to keep a guiding hand on this, particularly when the children are small, so that they learn how to handle their feelings in a good way. If the children are close in age I think it may be more likely to arise because they will be experiencing and exploring the same things at the same time. I have a twin brother and I do tend to compare myself with him, but there is no sense of rivalry between us. I think the only time it reared its head was when he had a paper round and could buy himself a new bike and I had to make do with an old black second hand one!

Sibling rivalry is avoidable. I say this because i think it's not applicable to me i have a large gap with my sister. I think that siblings must really love and respect each other in order to prevent this rivalries. I only heard a few stories about this sibling rivalry and undergoing this type of problem ruins the unity of the family and affects their relationships with others. Siblings must learn to understand each others feelings and humans are not like candies and toys that you can get and share don't have that mindset!. The most easiest way to avoid this is to learn how to humble yourselves.

In my own experienced with my three brothers I didn't feel any rivalry at all. Our parents treated us the same, even though I am the only girl in the family. When one of us made a mistake which was me all the time. All of us got punished. My brothers did not get mad to me at all instead they loved me with their heart. However, in my own kids, rivalry is on. My son is very loving and always listen to us but when my daughter was born, he rejected her right away. His already 6 and my daughter is 2 and my daughter has a few toys while my son got everything. It is a big war if we he can see that she will have a brand new toys. When, we kiss my daughter, he will get mad if we don't kissed him first. He changed really a lot. He became a bully to his own sister.

I grew up with an older brother (4 years age difference). Growing up we fought all the time but then when I was in high school as a freshman when he was a senior something changed and we became friends. Now we might still fight occasionally but I guess all it took was growing up a bit to see we were family and could be friends too. Honestly kids fighting when they're younger is alright. In fact, I think it's sorta healthy. If you grow up free of conflict then you won't know how to address it later in life. I guess my only advice would be to make sure the fights stay healthy and beneficial. Definitely don't allow hitting and also don't leave fights unresolved. Also, don't push their relationship because forcing them to try and be civil might actually end up backfiring.

I dont have sibling rivalry because its just me and my little bother , but we do have it with our cousin lol . My mother and her sister are rivals and both of them have daughter that only one year apart so my cousin and I seems to follow . We weren't like that until , I notice how my cousin been acting of lately . I dont know if their is away to avoid it but its not always a bad thing , it can help to keep you on your toes .

My sister and I had our fair share of rivalry growing up, most of which I believe happened around the time I was an early teen. We got along pretty well as children, though we did have our squabbles, but we played together and had fun. When I was an early teen, I think I was just going through a super surly phase. I hated my sister, my whole family actually, and I was exceptionally mean to all of them. At some point, I realized that the problem was all me and my attitude, and no matter how much I thought I *hated* my sister, she was the only one I had. I had two options, I could continue to be mean to her and continue making us both miserable, or I could start making an attempt to get along and be happy with the sister I was given. Now, my sister is my best friend in the whole world. I can't believe I wasted so much time and energy hating her when making the effort to get along was clearly worth the extra effort. As for whether or not parents can prevent it... I don't know about that one. I think sometimes it depends on the children, and getting along might happen by accident. Or maybe, when they're older and can understand that they have the power to forge a good relationship with their sibling, they can make the decision to work towards that themselves. I think the best things that parents can do to tame it or avoid it is to reiterate to their children that they get no exchanges on siblings, and most of the problems they have with them can be quieted with a change in attitude.

Of course there was sibling rivalry when I was growing up. I was the youngest and I had two older brothers. So yes we fought over things all of the time over silly things and some times we thought things where unfare. I have two children age 22 months and 3 months and yes my older daughter fusses over when me and my husband or pretty much anyone that she likes she doesn't want them holding her brother.

In every family, there are always have rivalry wherever there are siblings. It is actually unavoidable. Just like me and my brother. No matter how nice I treated him, somehow will end up into an argument. I just don't understand, why it is so hard to give and take. In some family, when they grew up, the rivalry will subside. I really hope that the rivalry between me and my brother will be gone. I'm looking forward to that moment.

I'm in a sibling rivalry with an older sister and a brother. My brother, despite him being the only boy, is the apple of my mom's eye. Still is at the age of 37. Can't win them all, I guess.

You can not force your daughters to get along anymore that your mother forcing you to get along with any of your relatives; siblings, aunts, cousins, etc. Let each daughter develop their own personality and their own interests. Don't compare them to each other. And let each child have their own space and time to themselves. I found that when my children had sibling rivalry, I would separate them. Then, when they got lonely, they would sometimes seek out each others' company on their own. Let their relationship as sisters happen naturally. See if there is anything that they have in common, such as an interest in playing a game or doing a craft or both have love dogs or dolls, etc. and build on their common interest to help them bond together.

You cant avoid such things. Let them fight ,thats how they going to learn the value of each other. Well, you need to control if they get out of hand but make sure they do have love in their hearts for one another. I think brother and sisters fight more than sister sister ,brothers fight even more. But at the end i have noticed it does come down to love in the family and their up bringing .