We broke up, he said he don't love me but he keeps communicating with me
By hlfbldmom
@hlfbldmom (743)
Philippines
December 13, 2012 2:28am CST
It's almost a month since me and my boyfriend broke up, he knows I still love him just that there's so many things we can't work out. We still talk after we broke up but then I decided to stop communicating with him. Until one day, he emailed me explaining things why it happened to us, so we argued and he got pissed off and he told me he never loved me and so I accepted since we already broke up doesn't matter if he loved me or not. I stop communicating with him again so we can both move on with our own lives. But, lately he emailed me again asking so many things so I replied and answered about the things he asked. And he started telling me again that he never loved me and so I am pissed off and I said harsh words to him and ask him to leave me alone. But he don't leave me alone until now and so I just ignore his emails. I am pregnant, and he told me that he don't want responsibilities and commitment so I accepted it without any words for him. I don't want him back anymore but why he keeps communicating with me and keeps pestering me. I don't want to be friends with him and he keeps insisting friendships which I don't want. So, today he emailed me again and so I am being nice to him I said I am sorry I can't be friends with you. Just leave me for a moment. Because every time I am being bad to him he is bothered and he keeps sending emails explaining things which I am sick of it.
What you think guys?
What you think guys?16 responses
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
13 Dec 12
I may not be the right with words, but i think you shouldn't have replied him about the things he asked at first if you decided to move on.Maybe he loves you but can't express it or he just used you.Good that you made your decision and stay firm on it.Take care
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
13 Dec 12
I didn't mean to hurt you. Thanks for sharing your pain with all of us. I wish you a blessed life ahead with happiness.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
You don't hurt me. and I am not in pain right now I am too busy being happy. Just that I am confused on his acts. Thank you.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I replied to the things he asked me because it concerns with the family and I am the only one knows it. Just that, other emails I just ignore. Thank you!
@benchao (43)
• China
14 Dec 12
I read what you wrote,I actually understand why did you guys break up,but I think there must be something that happened to you one another.you are pregant,that's very bad to you,you broke up is right,but if you want the baby,you keep.if you don't want,you can make a abortion,then you are single and choose you love!
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 12
wew..
ABORTION?
sorry guys..
The human are human, and the animal are animal,
human has a heart and mind..
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 12
ya, you are right.
i mean that some of animals species always wants to kill each other.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
I am 4 months pregnant already and I am a big NO NO to abortion. It's not a solution for breaking up. Besides I am longing to get pregnant.
Blogandme animals got a heart and mind too just that not like ours.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
In my opinion my friend, your ex-boyfriend is guilty that he impregnated you, yet he didn't commit to be with you.
I hope he will realize one day his responsibility to your baby.
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 12
you can says..
"yes, i already have a new boyfriend, and would you like to know? His name is blogandme."
hope you has a litle smiling..
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I don't think he is guilty. He just like pestering me and keep asking me if I already have a new boyfriend haha. I don't even ask him to support my baby, I just told him that if he wants to be a father he needs to contact me before my due and I will let him signed on our child BC. I am just being nice still.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Yeah, i think you should conspire with a man so you can show him to your ex boyfriend as your new one. 
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Is he the father of the child?
Well, I think you did the right thing. If you want nothing to do with him and you only argue, then don't pretend to be friends. Let time pass before communicating if only to have a proper closure between you or don't communicate at all if you think he won't be reasonable.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I see. Maybe he felt like checking up on you because he wants to know about the child to? He might be overwhelmed also by what is happening and can't think very clearly. He must be thinking about a lot of things.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
Yes he is the father of my child.
I told him to wait for the baby to come out and then we will talk about the baby and everything in a legal way. So he will stop sending emails.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
13 Dec 12
I think you don't deserve that kind of guy. He is an irresponsible one. i think ou did the right thing in saying you ca't be friends with him. What is the use of still making friends with him if he don't act like a friend.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
I don't really know why he wanted to be friends with me. I don't want to be friends with him and I already said sorry because I can't.
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@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
13 Dec 12
hi there,
Dear I honestly feel sad for you as your pregnant and you are being harrased by ur ex. My advice to you is first that if you are keepin the baby, you should start takin care of your health, second..if ur ex is still bothering you, ignore his Email..and if possible mark it as spam so that you won't be getting his mails..
Im sry but ur making things worse for urself, when you repond to someone, they have an impression that even you would like to talk to that person, and such freaks wont stop harrasing you..the better way is to ignore and stop replying to his Emails..even if you see the mails in inbox..del it without even opening it..
And ur not at all being rude of bad to him..so don't blame it on urself..
take care
raj
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Thank you for your concern. He is not harassing me though it's just that he keeps explaining. I already ignore his emails today. And I don't blame myself I am just being nice to everyone even to someone who hurts me. Thanks!
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
As I've said I am not hurt because he leave me . This is the painless break up I had. I can't be bother to think about it. I am so happy to have a baby and that's what matters most to me. And I am not with him anymore. Just that sometimes he asked too important matter which I have to replied. Thank you again!.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
13 Dec 12
Thats your heart which says not to hurt anyone even if you get hurt..but does it really helps..coz at the end of the day ur the one who suffers..you keep on thinking about it..and you get depressed..instead..just leave it or throw it out of your life..he will realize your value when ur not in his life..
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Wow, he is so strange. You are better off not to have him in your life. He is very irresponsible and mentally unstable. I know you are not asking my opinion but I believed it would be nice if you will delete his email without reading it so there will be no more discussions, argument etc in that way, you can focus on moving on and on welcoming your little one without any stress. You deserve someone better, good luck on your pregnancy, I am jealous...lol! we are trying to have a baby:)
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Thanks Che!. I appreciate your advise. I am not affected by his email just that I want him to leave me alone. I wish you will have yours soon. I am so happy and excited even though the father ran away...
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
11 Mar 13
I want to be friends with you so he can still have the benefit of sleeping with you that's the move he is trying to pull on you . He want to have the freedom to do whatever he wants with other girls without explaining but he is insisting on friendship because he still want to have you like a back up .
You can mark is email as spammed that way you wont have to deal with them and you can move on without him if you really want to . He dont sound like a good guy , because your pregnant you should not be stressing and he dont want to be responsibly for his action .
I hope things either work out between the both of you are you get to move on with someone else .
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
13 Dec 12
I am sorry, wow that is not easy. Breaking up sucks even if we don't love that person cause we get used to them and miss them for sure. Are you sure continuing to talk is good for you cause you must do what is the best for you and never what he wants, I couldn't be friends if the guy broke up with me, specially if I loved him.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
As I've said I already stop talking to him but he keeps sending emails. Honestly this is the painless break up for me. I didn't feel any pain maybe because I am so much excited to have a baby. And I can't be bothered to think of our break up. I am so happy that I will be having a baby.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Maybe he just wants to keep your friendship, that's why he still keeps on sending you messages. He is telling you that he does not love you because he might be not that ready to be committed. And he is afraid that if he allows himself to be too involved with you then it would be hard for him to do things that he would like to do.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Ever since we are together I let him do his things, I trust him so much and I know that he wouldn't do things that will hurt me like cheating. Yeah, maybe you are right. He is honest though telling me he is not ready for commitment and responsibility and have a family. I already accepted it and I said I understand. No hurt feelings though just that I want him to leave me alone for a moment coz he is pissing me off of his explanation which I didn't ask him to explain.
@gilenie (190)
•
13 Dec 12
my what a terrible guy to have! Hey sis don't waste your time to such a stupid man..ignore him, i know it is hard but he cant just make so many annoying things to you you are not a toy to play with you are human....You deserve a better man... If he is in a good state of mind since he will already be soon a daddy he should treat you well, responsible enough to face the responsibility but he is not....he is such a coward. Sorry for my word but i think every gal should be treated well.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
Sis Chillax!..
Take a deep breath and inhale exhale 
I am busy being happy so no time to waste my time for him. And you are right he is coward and selfish!. He admit it though. I know you will react like that but not meant to be I am happy that I will be having a baby even though he ran away from his responsibilities. I am fine!. Thank you sis!
Take a deep breath and inhale exhale I am busy being happy so no time to waste my time for him. And you are right he is coward and selfish!. He admit it though. I know you will react like that but not meant to be I am happy that I will be having a baby even though he ran away from his responsibilities. I am fine!. Thank you sis! @emavs9 (63)
• United States
14 Dec 12
I think it's good that you let him know how you really feel. My boyfriend and I broke up and weren't good with each other for about 3 months but now we are honestly best friends again. The person you're dating is your best friend so sometimes after breakups people in relationships want to keep such close friendships but if it's hard for you to do that or you don't want to then that's ok too. Just be honest with yourself and with him. Also keep in mind that things blow over with time. Your breakup is still pretty fresh even after a month so give it time and things will settle down. Maybe just explain to him that you need some space and would really appreciate if he gave it to you.
good luck!
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Thank you emavs!.
I already explain to him why I don't want to make friends with him. And I asked him to leave me alone for the moment while I am not hurt. Because I know that every time he's pestering me I am sure I will get hurt. I told them that I accept all his reasons and I am not mad at him at all. I think he is bothered because he thinks that I am mad but I am not. I just need some time for myself maybe to heal my broken heart, I am not hurt I didn't feel pain I am too busy being happy knowing that I will have a baby but I guess deep inside me I am hurt I just don't feel it right now.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Do you think I am just kidding??? Of course I am sure that I am pregnant and I am sure that he is the father...
Of course I am sure that I am pregnant and I am sure that he is the father...
@mariagloria (14)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
Hahaha! Get rid of that person, he was only playing your emotion. Next time set your standard so high. Show him that he don't deserve you anyway. I've been there and done that.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
Thank you mariagloria!. I already get rid of him. But once in a while he keeps pestering me.
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 12
i know that you are the strong girl.
but, girl is girl, she will cry on her sadness..
and you absolutly wants a big hug from your friends.
i guess that your baby will be a strongest than hes dad..
@misjoseph (162)
•
28 Dec 12
Well i think this guy still love you but he don't wanna prove it out so all he keep on saying is that i don't love you or never love you... anyway if i were you i will still not be his friend again. Why be so ashamed just to say i love you... maybe because he is afraid of you making he ashamed... but anyway you show continue your life and don't turn back look towards the future....
