Would you marry a materialistic person?
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140119)
Philippines
44 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Dec 12
hi vandy I had the kind of materialistic people in my dad and we never got along
as he f elt that any wrong could just be mended by giving the other person plenty of money.He was a sour bitter old man even when I was a little girl and my mom was just the opposite. they fought every day when I was growing up yet refused to divorce as they felt that was a no no.He gave my mom stuff and money but
I do not think he gave her what she really wanted: himself.so when I grew up'I waited to marry as I did not want a man like my father and when I did meet the right one he was so un materialistic it was refreshing. we did not ever have a lot of m ey more money but we had love, trust and respect f or each other
and we were best friends too. I have been widowed for a long time but I still love him and miss him.
@vandana7 (100609)
• India
22 Dec 12
I really know what you mean.
Young girls grow up idolizing their fathers, provided the fathers are normal in all respects. They seek somebody who looks like their father did, talks like their father, behaves like their father and dotes on them like their father.
The problem arises when we dont idolize our fathers. We just have no clue as to what to look for, except what we know we dont want. :)
Money does not matter, nor does age or looks. Trust and respect, and ability to forgive and understand, and a logical thinking goes a long way to build a relationship. Often love just grows easily with such good manure.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
21 Dec 12
Hi,
We all are materialistic to some extent. No one in this world is 100% pure. When I finalize the the girl she has to fulfill too many things and i am not only seeing materialistic thing. I want a good girl who would understand me and ofcourse I can not expect her to not want the things in the shop or in market . Life has to be balanced and if my partner understand what I can afford and what I can not afford then ofcourse i would marry her even if she is so called materialistic one
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Dec 12
agrin this is a modern age and most women now work too so a marriage now should have two persons who work both to provide the necessities of life. the old idea that all women just stay at home is really pretty obsolete at least in the US where I come from. WE work and help our husbands to provide our needs and we still raise famiies too. We both w ant good mates now ands thats as it should e.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
21 Dec 12
Well everywhere it is more or less same but it also differs from person to person. There are lots of girls who are home makers be it India or USA. I fail to understand Hatley how can u say your heart dont lodge for anything in shop. You might be working girl but I might want a house wife. It is really up to individual family to decide what is best for them.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
No. I don't even like surrounding myself with people who only care about material things. I darn sure could never marry someone like that!
My husband cares much more about the things I care about, our love and our family. Material things come and go...
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
21 Dec 12
I would try my best not marry this kind of person. I'm not rich and have nothing to spend for her being materialistic. Aside from this, I don't like people who are very interested in so many unnecessary things. So...
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@sanchita90 (22)
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21 Dec 12
No, I am not marrige any materialistic person.This Persons Have no romances no softness and also no loves.So settled with a person who dont have any feelings to me I dont marry this materialistic person.
@bunnystarr (160)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
it depends i think on what level his/her materialism is. for instance, i am materialistic in a sense that i give all materials in this world worth. i think having these things have some value in them. but if he/she is materialistic in a sense that the material has more value over the person, i think you should probably look for a better person.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
21 Dec 12
There are people who are materialistic, and I don't think that people should be, but I know that there are many people who are, and many who are not. People should be giving, especially in these tough times.
This year, I have been giving a lot because I know that there are people out there who do not have what I have, and by giving, I might be giving to someone who really needed that extra something right now because they don't have anything.
Also, sometimes, you have to teach them or show them what it means to be giving. You have to be the example.
Thing about me though is that I would never marry someone without truly knowing their personality, and if they cannot be giving and help out those who need it, then I would have to tell them that our relationship will be difficult if they don't learn how to be open-minded about what they have and what others don't have.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
21 Dec 12
Hmm this can happen people may become blind in love. They cannot see the other side of the person for sometime.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
21 Dec 12
Honestly I don't really know how to answer that since I am not that into position though I could still imagine how hard it is if I am going to marry a materialistic person to the extent that he is going to spend much instead of we are saving a lot of amount of money in order for us to survive. Honestly I am a bit materialistic but then I can still lower it down because at some point of course I really want saving budget.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
21 Dec 12
No never I will not, who wants to or likes to spend the life with such person? I am sure no body in this world will like to marry such person. Married life should be such that there should be understanding from both the partner and not the person who always thinks about them self and never consider their partner for anything that matters to relationship
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
21 Dec 12
I would want to know the persons character, just because someone is materialistic doesn't mean they don't have other good qualities, and materialism is something that changes over time. It's like comparing them to the scrooge, whom I wouldn't want to marry either.
I would also want to know how they are in the other areas of their lives. I wouldn't make a judgment on just that one fact.
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@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
21 Dec 12
it may depend on how bad their materialistic habits are,some people are that way but are content with what they can afford within their own means the worst are those who are ready to do any thing even bad to get something or the type who will push you and sulk those i will avoid at all costs.
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@kunu111185 (211)
• India
21 Dec 12
I would prefere to stay single rather than a materialistic life partner.It is better not to have somebody who values replaceable objects or money higher than they actually deserve and often put that value over actual people/relationship.Money does't always bring happiness infact ,some real emotion or feeling are far more important than material.Person who prioritize money are less likely to be satisfied in marriage life also.Materialistic people love their money and luxuries too much and often ignore their partners feeling easily because they always think about their money first instead of considering about their lovers.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
21 Dec 12
I wouldn't even be attracted to someone whom is materialistic. Someone who chooses things to make them happy instead of other things.I don't think I could be a good friend even to someone whom was even materialistic. I'm what you might call a country bumpkin.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
31 Jan 13
Well, I wouldn't date a materialistic person in the first place, so marrying someone like that would not be an issue. When I was young people would tell me I was too selective, but now that I am older I know that it is important to have standards and to look for someone with good character above all else.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I were single, I would never choose a person who is with that character. I want a person who can live in a very simple life and has simple needs and wants.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
hi,
for me there is no problem to marry a materialistic person,because we can change that person from materialistic to not materialistic,and i have a known person who been liked that but she changed from materialistic to not materialistic.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
21 Dec 12
I am simple person and like simple life so i like the person to be simple i don't like materialistic people . I don't say its wrong . But every one has their comfortable level.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Of course not,. Being a materialistic is next to greediness and envious. I think those person who are materialistic, always wants to be in trends , it may be in fashion or in gadgets. It is a burden if he cannot provide the money and he will ask from me.lol.