Can You Live With Someone You Cannot Trust?

Depend on person if the person is family members or partner then I cant live with them because may be not trust but after all are family members.

No. They say, you can love someone without trust but you can not trust someone without love. That's a bit odd. I can live with someone who has secrets I can live with them because i don't mind if the person is keeping a secret from me, that's how he/she lives her/his life. However I can not live with someone who can not keep secrets. I mean all the private things in the house will surely go out. That's just too disgusting.

Depends on the situation. Based on your responses I see that this pertains to house guests, in which case I say it is perfectly fine for your house guests to expect a certain level of privacy. This is the problem when you combine two households, different people are used to things a certain way. Perhaps your house guests are used to a little more freedom and privacy. Perhaps you are being a little over-sensitive in assuming they're keeping secrets. Maybe them lying and keeping secrets is just their way of keeping their lives private even though they're sharing your home. Maybe you should just talk to them and see what's going on instead of assuming something is wrong with them.

I definitely cannot live with anyone whom I cannot trust. I cannot trust liars too. If I cannot them I don't believe them. I try to distance myself from. I trust my wife and my son completely. This is because I truly know them well. That is why I fell in love with my wife who is sincere and trustworthy. She knows how to bring up my son and gives him good teachings. God Bless.

I would be feeling uncomfortable myself. Coz if a person seem to be hiding all about his true self, who knows what he might think about you while you are sleeping, right? I wouldn't be feeling safe around that person.

Nope, I wouldn't trust them. I would be leary of leaving things out such as money, gift cards, or so on. I went to college with a girl she use to lie about everything. I mean once she lied about being raped, and getting pregnent over it. She came to my place, and little things, she lied about. Once she threw her recipe in the sink, where my roomate had a dish soaking, I asked her who threw the paper in, meanwhile I stood watching her. I caught her going through my roomates laundry once, and I thought what the h*ll is she doing. I never invited her back after a feww times of catching her doing odd things (I never caught her stealing par say), and asked my roomates to lock everything up. Remmeber what they had and if it were missing. I couldn't trust her, and her lies constantly.

It depends on what they're lying about. I know that I haven't fully disclosed everything to my boyfriend about my past, but that's because I know that he can't handle it. He won't talk about a lot of his past either; some of it I've gotten from his brother but he's denied it all. I don't think he lies to me all the time, but if you're going to deliberately omit large chunks of your past, don't expect me to come clean either.

Ok, this is family that is living with you? Why in the world would they HAVE to lie to you, would be my question. You only lie when you have something to hide and that's a problem. I saw in one of your comments that they hide the phone and computer? Do you mean YOUR computer and phone or theirs? This is a bit confusing to me...haha, what else is new. You know me, I have a thousand questions already that I'm curious about. Is this the cousin you mentioned?

I cannot think of one good reason to continue to live with a liar and a cheat.

I could not live with someone I did not trust. I would also be nervous to live with them and it would make me crazy to always wonder what is really going on. I have a husband, two kids and two roommates and I trust each of them deeply. It would be crazy to have someone live in my home that I can't know what they are really thinking or really up to. I have never tolerated lying and I tend to call people out quickly when I discover they are not being truthful to me, that does not seem like it would be a very good environment for anyone!

I hope you are not talking about your cousin, as I had a thing for her and I hoped she had a soft spot for me. P.S. Just so's you know - I only lie about 8 hours a day. The rest of the time I am mostly sitting, with the occasional standing up and moving around.

I don't think I could live with anyone that I don't trust and that lies to me about everything. I would rather live with someone that I trust and know they won't always keep things from me.

No I have low tolerance for bulls... I had a roomate in the past that never had rent when it came time to pay. This person would also act as if they didn't know rent was due on the 1st of each month. I let this act continue for about a month or two to see if things would iron out. When I saw this becoming a routine I kinldly exited out of the lease agreement and moved out.

I think I have discussed before that I am nothing but a liar, I lie to the Neighbours I lie to the kids and I lie to the good lady. However I don't think that one should lie all the time, I see nothing wrong with telling the truth now and again. Secrets? Are they really so bad? Do you really want to find out everything about someone in the first few dates? Surely better to reveal things gradually and keep things interesting over the course of a hopefully long relationship. I have been with my other half for over 20 years and there are still things that I don't know about her and there are still things she doesn't know about me... Between you and me, I still haven't told her that I was once a woman or I won the lottery Honestly though, every couple is different and everyone has different levels of acceptance. As long as your partner does not have secret kids or arrest warrants, then everything should be fine.... I think

No way. I can not live with or love someone that I can not trust. If I can not trust someone, they are not worth my time, energy, or affection. Likewise, if I am untrustworthy, I am not worth the time, energy, or affection of those around me. That is why I aim to be trustworthy.

When it comes to trust in a relationship, I could not stay in a relationship until there is truth. I can forgive a white lie easily enough, but constant lies is something that I don't feel would help the relationship to grow. If I say something or promise something, I will carry out that promise unless I was physically prevented from doing so by illness or injury. My wife is the same and we both feel very secure with each other. At first there was a little uncertainty because we had both come from previous relationships in which lies were told. It is worth every to both of us to feel that there is trust in our relationship. _Derek

No. I don't want to live with someone who keeps lying at me. That person is a negative energy. If it is a negative energy, it would make me became very miserable. It would not make me healthy at all, but I can find a way to resolve it.

I can't live with someone I can't trust. Maybe I'll look like I have a mental disorder then because of being paranoid all the time. I don't know what he/she is thinking and I can't predict what he/she's gonna do next. Even the person you can trust can betray you, what more with the person who constantly lie to you.

How can one imagine to live with a person of this kind, a person like this can't be blessed even allowed to enter into our life, he/she will destroy our relation that we offered him, so I would like to stay away from this kind of people.

Oh my God. I can't live those people. I feel uncomfortable with that. Because the more you live with those people, the more gain of problems you may have.. Believe me..