Has becoming a mother changed you as a person?

Yes, being a mother changed me as a person. Like you I always prioritize my husband and our son needs, and mine last. I am more practical now. Before I used to buy the latest gadgets but now it is not appealing to me anymore. My phone is still an old model, as long as I can call and send messages then that is fine. Actually I do not spend much when it comes to my stuff but for my son and husband then it is okay to buy expensive things as long as they really wanted it and it will make them happy. I do not like partying anymore, now whenever I meet (which we rarely do) my friends it is usually a lunch or a dinner date.

I think every woman who have become a mother did make a big change in their lives. Coz they no longer just think of themselves, but always prioritize the needs of their children. Motherly instinct really kicks in as soon as a woman sees her baby.

I had my children early too. Yes, it changed me because I was too young, too naive and too immature. I gained my own life back when my girls grew and left home but I had missed out on growing as a person and I feel I should have waited. You can't go back though.

You are right, I think--having children certainly does force us to grow up quickly! (at least it should but that's for another discussion!) I had my first child when I was 33. I didn't really want children until late 20s and I hadn't found anyone I wanted to settle down with--well, I did at 17 but I think if we hadn't broken up it would have been a disaster! Anyway, when I finally did find who I thought was the right man I had my two children 364 days apart and then we decided to stop..what a major change it made in my attitude towards life, my political views, the way I thought about society--everything! I completely changed and so did my view of the world. It all narrowed down to how I could protect those precious children.

i have a daughter and will a the second child in a monath. i know your grow process very well. for me ,when i had my daughter , everything comes first to my daughter ,then my husband, then my parents and the last one is me. yes, you are right ,once you become a mother ,you grow from girl to woman!

I was over 30 when I had my first child. I was ready to have children but it still changed me. I changed from thinking about myself first to putting my children first. For me, there is a deeper concern for all children that I didn't have before.

Unlike my mother who started having children when she was barely twenty years old and kept on having them with two year intervals until she had five, I was a late starter and had my first child at 40 and the second 18 months later. I had many young nephews and that was what inspired me to have kids too. I married late, worked hard and traveled much, but I would not say I grew up slowly, but that I had a long single period. That period extended until I got married and then had my two children, but I agree with you that one tends to put the others first and then put oneself in last place. I am only now learning to "defend" myself and put myself in a better position, but one must learn to accept and then carry out this new role.

I think being a mum (or dad) is bound to change you, whatever your age, as you are suddenly wholly responsible for another human being which is probably something entirely new.

i think it changes everyone especially when the kids are around. i dated a guy in between marriages once and he told me i was total different when my kids were present? like a different person

I was changed way before I had my two kids. I've always wanted to be a mom way before I was a mom. I had my daughter when I was 22 years old and had my son just shy of my 24th birthday just 17 months after having my daughter.

Because we become more mature. We are still the same self we are. Its just that we had some limitations because we had priorities. But if we take some time-out or a break for our self for a day with no guilt of obligations, you will discover that youre still the same person with wisdom of course.

Yes, I think motherhood changed me a lot. I was 39 yrs old when I became a mother and my son is three year old now. Before I was a single, I was a career oriented person so when I became a mother until now I made a lot adjustments. I also learn to think of my son first before myself. I began to exercise patience, sacrifice, understanding, and love. It really changed me a lot to a better person. I do appreiate my son and I'm happy taking care of him. God Bless

You are such a young mother, how great!I think that a baby can make us a better person, because in the process of taking care of him or her, we learn how to love others with endless patience and love.

You are such a young mother, how great!I think that a baby can make us a better person, because in the process of taking care of him or her, we love how to love others.

I wonder if that applies when you adopt. I read once that when a woman has more than one child that she raises -as opposed to having a child and giving it for adoption, she develops a selfless gene. A woman who has only one has to work hard st it and it does not come naturally. I seem to hold part to that view and part that she sees what others would think of her. I do find thstmanyof mtpy friends who had children naturally and did not adopt, are more mature and serious even though I did the usual caring of babies. So I did grow up more slowly and feel there is a gap that is still missing.

I had my first and only child when I was nineteen also. It did change me alot. It was immediate and it remains today. The cord was wrapped several times around her neck and I think now that she lost oxygen because she had some cognitive problems early on. She is 41 and she and her kids always come first. I am committed to living here with her and her son helping her to raise him. He has ODD and is quite a handful. I think for some whether they have children or not they still grow up slow and think atleast that they are enjoying a 'childhood' through a good portion of their lives.

You could not enjoy longer childhood. But you enjoyed longer motherhood. A woman becomes complete when she becomes mother. So you enjoyed a great experience.

we all know that mtherhood changes a women a LOT!!! Everything changes, from your body, your reactions, your priorities, your sleep cycle - everything! It's wonderful to be a mother and even though it's one of the hardest jobs on earth and not recognized for what this really is, awesome. A friend of mine was jokingly saying that she has a PhD. in raising kids, a package that comes together with everything you learn at a university for an education degree, a psycologist degree and more.

I got pregnant the first time when I was 18 years old but I had a miscarriage. That already changed me as a person. Then I got pregnant again and lost that child. For a while I didn't think I could have children. When I was 20 I finally had a pregnancy that lasted and we had our oldest. By that time I was a much more mature and responsible person. Having miscarriages changed me and then being a mother and a wife changed me even more. But I have to say being a mother does not always change a person. I know a mother who is just as selfish and immature as she was before kids. Having children changes good mothers...

Sure changed me 14 years ago. I was a person you really didnt care about what happened in life. Then my son was born, and all changed. i became much more responsible, a better wife a better person. It was the best thing to happen to me. It still is. Have a great day there. Son.... your mama loves you...