Do you hate yourself because you are not Perfect?

I think that we all go through phases in our lives where we worry about certain appearances. I understand your concern but I think there is someone out there that is going to like you just the way you are. I get a little frustrated when I see a super skinny image promoted. We are all not made to be that way and most of the time when people are..they look sick. Now as far as the gaining over normal eating..it may be something that a doctor can help you with. I know that people with thyroid issues gain no matter what they do.

My problem is hard to gain weight. So i'm very skinny. I'm not hate myself even i'm very skinny because i can do any any activity without any problem. But my problem is i not strong enough to carry something is heavy.

No, never give up and don't hate yourself. You need time to lose weight and it's not an overnight drama to make changes especially when it comes to losing weight. I am also trying my best to lose some weight and it's been a year but till now I haven't reached my desired weight. It's because I am doing on and off with my diet and exercise. But I tell you dear...recently I made a pledge to myself that I must lose weight in a week and I made it. Yes, all you need is discipline. Get rid of carbohydrates and dairy products and I promise you, you will surely lose weight in a just a week. Eat proper foods, more on fruits and vegetables - no carbohydrates if possible, depends on how you endure the cravings. I lost 3 kilos in just a week...now I need to lose 7 kilos more to achieve my desired body shape.

I think 'hate' is a strong word for this situation. Everyone despairs a little when diets don't work or goals are missed. It is human nature. You need more of a goal than getting a husband, that should not be your first priority. If you hate yourself you are going to pass on those vibes to a potential boyfriend. You want him to think more of you than you think yourself. So stop looking in the mirror, start looking at yourself, add up some of the pluses you have, ask some friends to help if you are feeling negative. Instead of trying to lose weight try and gain self appreciation. Confidence in a woman is very attractive. Men like this because they think that a confident woman will add value to their lives, and will not be a drain on them or their resources.

i don't hate my self for being not a perfect , i love the way i lived. it is our destiny that no one can dictate what will happen now or next, it is our life that only your self can manipulate what do you want to do. when i and my husband get married i'm happy, even if i had a problem with my voice. you know why i'm a person that, not all the people can understand what i'm saying. its just a destiny that if its your time to a true love it will comes, the person that accepting all your weaknesses, accepting what you are, and who you are, you don't need to hate your self by being fat, some other guy doesn't love a very thin, because not all the people lived is have the-same description about a girl

Nobody in the world is perfect and we should not hate ourselves because of some physical appearance.One more thing is why you are thinking that you can not get married.I am a guy and I don't have any special preference for slim and skinny woman.If you are thinking bad because of your physical appearance think about physically handicapped person without a limb or sometimes both.You are lucky enough that god has made you perfect in that aspect.

It's not a matter of being perfect, we are who we are. And if you genuinely think you should lose weight then you really should. Let the passion to be perfect burn, which already resides inside of you. I know how you're feeling. I too used to hate myself because I wasn't what I wanted to be. What I did is I thought over and over on how to bring myself to perfection. Today I don't care if I'm perfect or not, but I'm satisfied with myself and I don't hate myself anymore. You can really get through this, trust me. And about choosing a partner, well I think you should marry a person who really loves you and not a person who's buying a gadget and checking out what feature it has got.

I never thought about hating myself no matter how much mess my life has been in the past. We didn't ask to be what we are. But if there are flaws, I think it is our responsibility to step up and do something to make ourselves better, not for others, but for ourselves. Do not push yourself too hard on losing a lot of weight in a short time. Coz by doing that, it is more likely that you'd gain back those weight twice as much. Take it slow. Exercise is no good if not accompanied with proper diet. And also, having a positive attitude in life will also help you a lot.

I know that I'm not perfect but I don't really hate myself. Instead, at sometime, I really cry out. Thinking to myself, why I'm born like this, why can't I be like that someone else? Yes, I know that kind of feeling when we see ourselves like not like other people. But, if we look clearly at ourselves, we are not that bad after all. We have our strong point too. So, let's cheer up for what we are!

I don't hate myself for not being perfect. If we are all perfect then there is no excitement to learn from our mistakes in life. It is best to be imperfect than no one will noticed you anymore.

First things first, Do not hate yourself because of something like that. I understand that it's a big issue to your family and to you, but this actually the thing that prevents you from gettin merry. If you hate yourself and don't go out it means that you can't meet your potentional husbend.. Belive me as a guy you should just go out meet new people talk to them and do it with confidence and self esteem but not too much of course. And before you do that just try to like yourself a liitle bit more, it'll be a big help for you in everything in life. And for your question - I don't hate myself because I have flus. I just accept them and live with them.. that's the best way.

Nobody is really perfect. Sometimes people just don't accept who they are. If they are fat they want to get thin. If they are skinny, they want to get fat. I think one should just accept who he is. In that way, you will really know those people who love you for who you are and accept you not because you are skinny or fat but because of the real you.

Don't be depressed at all!. Don't do what is best for the boys in your country. Do what is best for yourself. They don't need skinny females, don't listen to that rubbish. Females with a few extra pounds are just as great, if not better. 80% of men have said that chubby females, are better lovers. They try harder to please in and, out of the bedroom. I looked at your picture, you don't look anywhere close to fat. You are a pretty young woman. Who cares what your family thinks, you are an adult. You do what you want! No one is perfect inside or out.

Well when you think this way you are putting yourself down. I also hate myself sometime wising that why didn't god gave me more beauty and have a nice shape but it is not that way so all i do is i love and accept my self for who i am. because when you hide form things they still don't go away. sometimes i wish i was perfect as well but it is not so i just accept that...

I couldn't help reading what you have posted and respond to your perceptions. I think you need to remember that a perfect relationship is never by birthright; it is always forged through understanding, compromising and maturity by imperfect partners ourselves. Only by breaking down the emotional barriers we have put in place for love and love with wisdom, would our higher consciousness attract the best possible mate in the same wavelength and make that into reality for us. I am a firm believer that before one can begin to fully understand the above, one must be able to understand and most of all, love oneself. You need to see your physical attributes from another angle and on your own terms. For a start, you are watching your weight because you want to be healthy, so that you will not be the next 3H candidate (High blood pressure, Hypertension and Heart attack) and not for some suitor then husband. I hate to say this but your attitude sucks and it is not helping you one bit. Negativity simply attracts negativity and trust me when I say that you are or will be attracting bad aura if you do not get up of your chair and get out of the house. I don't see why you cannot find a good husband eventually when David Bowie could come out of his recluse and produce an album. But, I can (again) assure you that you will not meet that man of your life if you do not get out of the house and attend social gatherings or go for a date.

During the last summer I was at 140 and the charts said someone at my height should be 130 at the most. My sister had started on a low calorie diet and I kind of followed that along with climbing up and down their stairs until my legs couldn't stand anymore. It took me the nearly the entire vacation to lose which goes to show its not necessarily going to happen in one day. You have to have some patience.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this. Why are you hate your self for being weight? Physical appearance is not a factor, you have the ability to reduce your weight, do proper exercise and take care of your diet, avoid oily and fat related foods, it will help you to reduce your weight. Don't hate your self for this silly reason. Be confident