If we truly love someone, we shouldn't expect too much....

Hi joliefille, I am not surprised by the fact that your mom watches Soaps in her pastime because, earlier Soaps were actually specifically created that way. During 1950s, soaps were formulated so that women can enjoy them while not letting their housework hamper. The stories were unrealistic as you mentioned, however, they were repetitive and this ensured that the portion they missed did not matter much and they could easily catch up the story line. They had not to worry about missed point or plot as they did not require 100% attention. I entirely agree about what you said of "Love". True love is eternal and unconditional.

To me, that type of love isn't healthy. And it also seems like the guy has the feelings when the girl really didn't have feelings for him in return. Love should always be kind and caring, without expecting too much. My boyfriend's mom once told me to not expect anything at all and that way you don't get hurt or disappointed and you'll only be happy when something goes well and you didn't expect anything. But I kind of don't like that view. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now and I think it's ok to have reasonable expectations in the relationship. I know both of us expect the other to remain faithful to each other even though he's in the army and got sent to Korea, and we also expect to call and text each other. To me, this doesn't seem like too much to expect from each other. We're not making unreasonable demands to each other and if something minor goes wrong we don't stress about it too much. Nowadays, people say they really love someone but then have all these expectations, which to me, isn't really love at all. Because with love, you don't expect much, you just try to make your relationship work and be happy with one another.

I love my husband with all of my heart and soul and I can only hope that he loves me in the same way. Now I'm not going to ever demand that he love me the same way that I love him because that wouldn't be fair to him. You see, we are two different people and our capacity to love is built in different ways. I do have some expectations for him and I know that he has expectations for me as well. However the expectations that we have for each other are expectations that are completely reasonable.

Soap operas is some unrealistic is because people want it to be real only by using their imagination and create it by using a mass media like television and movies. That is why I don't believe a happy ending when it comes to love story soap operas. There seems perfect even though they are not perfect. Another is we are here on earth and so, all of us have a desire and gratification needs to love us back. All of us want something in return because we are only human and we are also not perfect. Love here on earth is much different to a love in afterlife. Love here on earth is rational and conditional while in afterlife life which is heaven, well, there is true love and unconditional love. God is unconditional love. He does not expect any kind of return that is why he's perfect and he's loving God unlike here on earth, well, we're not that perfect. All of us expect a return from the person we love. We suffered too much, we cry, we hurt, we frustrate and so on. We are being martyrd to the one we love especially if that person does not love us back. All of us feel sad, frustrate, feel depress and stress because we need something in return. We need love from that person. That is what we called a gratification needs and desire when it comes to love because we are attach in the physical world. We are not in heaven and even though we set them free and we don't force them to love us, we still feel sad and hurt. Love here on earth is suffering and frustration and instead we make them as inspiration, we suffered because of love. If there is a person who does not expect a return to the one he loves and even though she does not expect a return from him, she would never get inspired instead she feels empty and lose. We're only human.

We really could not expect that the person that we love could really love as back. But what we can do is to try to make ourselves worthy to be loved. In that way, maybe that person will know that he/she can be able to love us in the long run.

Yeah soap opera's and a lot of movies are unrealistic. We definitely can't force someone to love us the way that we think they should. Soap operas are really unending drama and do we really want our life to be that way. I know I don't.

That depends on the situation I guess. What if the other person is already committed or married- how can he/she loves the other person the same way? True love is loving someone unconditionally, therefore we should not expect the same impact or the same way the other person will show us care and love. True love is loving someone without expecting in return.

hi there joliefille, expecting something in return in not an amiable thing to do as this will really bring frustration. hence, when you loved somebody, just let the loved flow and better not to expect something so you can experienced the real loved. hence, expecting something will just ruined the relationship if it is not the type of loved that you want to get.

Love is a natural feeling. It cannot be forced in any way. It is a feeling that can grow stronger or weaker due to various circumstances, but other than that it depends on the relationship that the two persons have.

That's love, there is no conditions in loving someone. If a partner so much and trying to change you to be someone else, then that is not love. The person should not be ruled by its partner according to his or her preference. For some, they persuade them without limit, but it should not be the case.

Yes it is unrealistic that is why I don't watch it. It is more of exagerration. Hope the script writers would write more of true stories.

We love someone because we felt it. It's something we do voluntarily without anyone asking us to do so. In other words, we must not expect them to do the same for us. Well, there's so many things to learn in love but one thing's for sure, it's not asking for something in return because love is not selfish. When we love someone we let them go and allow them to be happy even if it means we should allow them to be happy with somebody else. Our love is not an assurance that they will be satisfied, because sometimes, we cannot offer what will make them happy.

Every time I happen to glance at a soap opera at someone's house or at a restaurant, it is always about broken love. Or about how the woman is telling the man that he drinks too much. Never seem to see any happy scenes in the soap operas. Always the drama. Love is mutual, otherwise it is infatuation. Love is about loving and being loved back. Love is about caring but also that the other person cares about you. You can't really love someone deeply unless they love you deeply as well. True love is when both people love each other with the same deep love. Love between two people, like in a marriage is a mutual love. Both equally loving the other.

You are right. If we love someone, we cannot expect too much of him or her. If we expect too much of someone, someday we would get broken-hearted or the one we love would feel uncomfortable towards us. Unrequited love is not a love that can mutually benefited each other. I don't like what the soap operas performed in their show.

joliefille I used to watch soap operas but gave up except for one..I watch the Bold and the Beautiful... It's as corny as it can be, with more twists than is realistic. I don't know exactly why I still watch it but I an intrigued with what they could possibly do next...I DVR it so I can zip past the commercials and it doesn't waste much time. My mother used to watch soaps strictly for the fashions..

And that is the reason why I don't watch soap operas anymore. Sometimes I would get so carried away that I would feel disgusted or disappointed with the characters and it ruins everything for me. I know it's silly, but you're right, their views and lines about love, for example, are just so off that it's not true anymore.

soap operas are trash tv.. They sure are here in Mexico. I dont watch them here. I did watch them alittle in usa.

I think sometimes we give ourselves too much credit. Like that guy thought that he loved her way more than she could ever love him. Why do we believe so much about ourselves? I also think that sometimes we say that just so that the other person will say "But I do love you! I love you so much! Blah. Blah. Blah." I think it's that the person wants a confidence booster more than anything. Happens less in real life than in movies.