My bestfriend has cancer

@ddaguno (3107)
Philippines
January 19, 2013 1:26am CST
We found out yesterday that my best friend has leukemia. We haven't told her what her true condition is because we know she has been thinking a lot and it might make her feel more sick. We don't know how long she's had it, she still needs to undergo more tests. I'm trying to keep a positive spirit but sometimes I can't help but cry when I remember that she's sick. Right now, we try to cheer her up as much as we can and we'll do our best to help her gain as much weight as she can before undergoing chemotherapy. I had an uncle who also had leukemia but his was diagnosed to late. I think, with my best friend, we caught it early. Anybody here has had experiences with cancer or chemo?
9 responses
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
i also have a patient before who has passed away. he had a lung cancer. he undergo chemo trice a year. and daily medication. doctor said he only have 9mos.left. i used to gave him daily routine and trying to keep things that doctor said. coz sometimes our patient cant avoid to eat what doctor's warn of. all you have to do is to follow whats doctor said and cheer her up and of course dont forget to pray coz only god is powerful. have faith in god and of course have faith in yourself and be brave. god bless
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
yes he lived more than nine months. the chemo therepahy help him a lot and the daily medications. thats good to hear that your friend have a very good change . i am glad to hear that. wish she'll be doing good. and remember to have faith in god and trust every Dc. give medication. :) god bless. have a great day!!
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
We haven't told her what her true condition is because we know she has been thinking a lot and it might make her feel more sick. i'm confused about this line. she doesn't know she has leukemia? does her family know? have they tried going to the pcso?
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Yes, she doesn't know that she has leukemia. She suspects it but what her family told her was that the doctors need to do more tests to determine what her real problem is. They think she is too fragile right and she won't be able to handle the truth. I know they have to tell her eventually but when and who should tell her... I'll just let her family decide. No we haven't contacted pcso yet. But we will. I know the treatment is expensive and they only rely on a small store for their source of income
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
The doctor spoke to her relatives first and they requested the doctor not to tell yet. So when the Dr spoke to my friend she told her that they will have to do more tests... luckily my friend didn't ask more questions. She was badgering me yesterday to tell her the diagnosis but I just told her that she should wait for the other tests. I hope she won't get mad
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
some people approach local officials (with the elections coming up, hey, it's a good time to win votes!) or their local government. you mean when they go to the doctor, the doctor never talks to the patient even if she's an adult already? i think all of us eventually feel deep in our hearts when something is really seriously wrong with us, and we can also feel it in the way our loved ones treat us. even kids with terminal diseases can tell or discern by the way people talk and act/behave around them. but of course, it's up to the family to tell her and it's going to be hard for you being in the middle.
@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Well, I hope your best friend will have to re over more on chemotherapy.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
My prayer is that a miracle would happen and she wouldn't have to go through chemo anymore. Last time I saw her she lost a lot of weight and looked so fragile. I'm scared that chemo would make her feel worse
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Jan 13
It's really sad to know if one of your friends or even family members have a cancer or severe sickness. The only thing we can do is to support them financially, cheer them up to relieve their loneliness and some other things that the person might think they are valued by us. Nowadays, we cannot determined quickly if the person have suffered different illness or disease because some sickness will attack the person without giving any sign
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
19 Jan 13
There was really no sign that she was sick. We saw each other before Christmas and she was fine.I don't know what to do if she gets worse. I really pray that she doesnt
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jan 13
Felt pity to her. Only God can heal her so need more prayers from her family and friends. Better you are a good friend of her to support her all the way
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
All of us have nobody else to turn to but to God. I'm sure He'll here our prayers. All of takes is a faith as small as a mustard seed.
• China
20 Jan 13
It is really suffering that somebody get the leukemia,one of my niece had leukemia a few years ago but now she is recovered,and in my opinion I think the positive attitude and strong will are very important to heal this kind of disease. Wish your friend will recover very soon.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Hi skyandgrass! How old was your niece when she got leukemia and how long did she have to undergo treatment? Its great to hear that she is well now. I hope my friend will also recover
@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
I do agree, we just need to look the prognosis of the case. The fact, there is no cure for this kind of blood cancer. I feel so bad whenever I see young souls inflicted with leukemia.
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
My private tutor had been a cancer survivor for eight years before her cancer recurred. Although She has been undergoing a lot of treatments, her countenance says she will get through it.Perhaps,it is because she is surrounded with people who are optimistic. Positivism is contagious,you know.Don't be sad,I know it's hard for some people to conceal their sadness and anxieties but keep your faith.Only God knows. Your friend is in my prayers.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Thanks Belle. A support group is really necessary for my friend right now and knowing that other people who don even know her personally: pray for her would make her feel blessed.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
30 Jan 13
I have not had this experience. You'll get much good advice from other mylotters. You should share with your friend and helping her gain the sick, special about her spirit.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
19 Jan 13
No I haven't known someone close to me who had cancer and I hope no one in the future. I'm sorry about your friend and I hope for her recovery since it's in early stage, more chances for her to recover. I believe upportive friends and family is what she really needs right now to gather some strength emotionally, mentally. May God bless you and your friend.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
19 Jan 13
Thank you. I will make sure that I give her full support. Just like you said I also believe that it's what she needs to help her recover
@vivek19 (218)
• India
19 Jan 13
yeah, one of my friend has been diagnosed of cancer. Now he is absolutely fine and fit. The main thing is the level of psychological thinking of the patient. One must be positive enough that he will definitely get of of this trouble as other problems in life. Also the people around him should keep on encouraging him that he will definitely be fit again. I hope your friend be fit again. I will definitely pray for him.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Your post lifts up my spirit. It's to hear that there are people who overcome cancer. Do you know what kind he had?