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So why didn't she ask you about it when it happened? So silly really and then it has been talked and discussed behind your back and you are now to blame. Let her talk it out and between you both an understanding can hopefully be breached. But she should ask the person who told her the lie why they did it

Aren't relatives fun? I'm glad that none of my relatives live near me, and we don't actually stay in contact. It makes things so much... quieter.

You know, this is the second discussion in as many days where people have hung blame on others when there was no truth at all in the statements. It is a wild world out there. I heard when I got back from vacation that I had turned someone into the state for abuse. . . I was not even here, I was on vacation. It is just real interesting what creative minds will come up with.

And all that happened on FB... why am I not surprised? Today's version of Broken Telephone.

Your family sounds just as dysfunctional as mine! Welcome.... er..... NOT! I feel for you!! I really do!! My husband and I, after all we've done and continued to do which is A LOT, were put in a mess that wasn't our doing and yet we were treated as if we did all the wrong. What it was, my nephew accused my husband of getting in his face over what my nephew had done which was a lie. My brother believes his son because "he's never lied to him before".... oh BS!! Every child has lied to their parents at one point or another! My brother is so naive! Even after our dad had told him that it didn't happen because he was there, my brother still didn't believe us or our dad! Eventually it was swept under the rug.... at least for the time being because our parents health was declining really fast. It never got cleared up but yet my brother wants to talk over the different things that went on and "explain why he did what he did when he did it" but I honestly don't want to hear it because it sounds like he'll just continue to defend his actions which is wrong and I won't stand for it because no matter what, right is right and wrong is wrong and I will not tolerate wrong doing to anybody especially one that's done so much right for so long (my husband) and didn't get the credit he deserves. Yeah, a huge mess but until my nephew and my brother admit their wrong doings, I'm not up to hearing what either have to say about the situations. The pain in my heart will continue to be there. I wish you the best of luck in straightening this mess out. It won't be easy so stay strong!

Send your cousin back an email which states your case, then leave alone. I don't think you can ever win if you get involved in a family argument.

Looks like I Would talk right to her dont say aything to others about it as it does look like they want you to take the blame for the whole thing.JUst settle it between you 2 good luck

It's hard to argue people who are narrow minded. Sometimes, we need to remain silent to keep the things right and to stable the situation.

Good to know that you guys are still in touch with each other. Not like my family who only meet at functions where no one discusses what goes on each other's life but perhaps discuss news. I would rather have someone blame me than have this indifferent attitude.

Family... This can bring you a tough situation. I didn't think it was possible, years ago, but now we are strangers with the sister of my late husband. It's not a big deal for me but my daughter was harmed. If I'm guilty for... anything, why is the former dear niece? Finally I decided to ignore the case. For you it's not so easy, she's your cousin. But you can try to wait and see what will happen. Good luck.

Here, we say even an upright official finds it hard to settle a family quarrel.I reckon the reason why your aunt told you nothing had happened was that "wash her dirty linen at home."

Well that's quite a response. I say you should but tentatively as it seems tempers might flare and finger pointing might start.

Omg! I have to say that in offended she didn't ask me about it and just assume I'm a troublemaker. That just burns me up.

The good news is she did answer you and told you what happened, at least what happened according to her. Now you know more you can think over what to do/say next. Give that some time. Wish you luck.

Dang....family. Sometimes that does happen though....hopefully you'll get is straightened out!

I have three living blood relatives now. Both my very elderly patents and my sister. We get on thank heavens. Must be a nightmare for you. The truth is out now. Let's hope that peace can settle again.

Well at least you got an answer. Right or wrong doesn't matter, you need to fix it now. For whatever reason families can be a great challenge.

I agree send her an email stating your case and telling her what she said to you in hers hurt your feelings. Then leave it alone because being in a family argument is not good.

You are right but life is always compromising when come to relationships its very hard but we will never know until its hurts. think once.

I hate family disputes they always end up bad especially if you the one involved and not the one that get to watch and judge, i really don't like that when you help your family members and you t he one end up to be in the fire of a blame i hate that, you know, you try and try and try and you the one gets burned at the end. well i hope everything turned out great.