Does Your myLot Writing Come From Your Heart?
By Val
@valmnz (17097)
New Zealand
November 8, 2015 2:02pm CST
I've been reading a lot of discussion posts along with responses and comments lately, about the best sort of discussions and the way to attract more attention to what we place on here. This got me thinking, do some people try too hard, worrying about what they should be doing here?
In my experience the best discussions to read and certainly for me, the easiest to write, are the natural ones, the ones that come straight from the heart.
This is a wonderful place for just letting it all out, not having to plan and organise your thoughts, or worry about what others expect of you. That is very refreshing.
So, if anyone is wondering what my advice about writing here is, it's write from your heart. Be natural, be yourself. Forget about formalities and let your thoughts flow. You may be surprised at the result.
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
9 Nov 15
@hereandthere they don't have an easy flow in their writing. It sounds more like school student writing. It doesn't transport you to their world when you read it.
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
9 Nov 15
Sorry to disagree with you that posts that are written from the heart get noticed. Most of my posts come from the heart with hardly any responses. I wrote a poem on school times which came straight from the heart as poems usually come from there and I get 5 responses.
Getting responses has nothing to do whether posts come from the heart or elsewhere but their visibility to the community
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@allknowing (135331)
• India
9 Nov 15
@valmnz Then they must be reaching your profile as I remember your telling me that most of your Bubblews connections are here. And by the way how do you reach my posts?
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
9 Nov 15
@allknowing I am on here when most of the rest of the world is asleep.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
8 Nov 15
I sit down start typing and it comes out...I don't think much about it except for the title. I say what's on my mind which sometimes gets me in trouble.
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
8 Nov 15
Ha, ha, join the club 
but it's the best way to be. I'm like you, sometimes a title comes to me, sometimes the first sentence, but that's all. Sometimes the discussion takes off in such a way as I write I go back and change the title. I'm here to have fun, not to plan. I guess it's more difficult for English second language speakers though.
but it's the best way to be. I'm like you, sometimes a title comes to me, sometimes the first sentence, but that's all. Sometimes the discussion takes off in such a way as I write I go back and change the title. I'm here to have fun, not to plan. I guess it's more difficult for English second language speakers though.4 people like this
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
8 Nov 15
@valmnz I don't know how non English speaking deal with it, maybe one will answer your questions and then you'll know.
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@NeldaHoxie (1381)
• United States
8 Nov 15
But it's so much fun to read and you moderate your discussions well.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
8 Nov 15
i agree with ya, some folks take it way too serious 't places such's these. but, i ne'er know what to dribble 'bout, what folks'd care to read. so, i jest dribble 'n let it land where it lands :)
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
9 Nov 15
That is the way to do it and you are a good example of some entertaining 'dribbling'.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
8 Nov 15
That is good advice to people. But some people write from their heart but still say the same things all the time. I am not sure why but a lot of stuff I do pass up that deals with subjects like naps, food, and other stuff. I did find some really interesting stuff that some have shared. I read a fantastic post about this young girl who learned to makes cakes designs off YouTube. Wow she share one of her cakes and it was amazing. You would of thought she had a real shoe and hand bag on the top of her cake. She is amazing and has a real talent for this. I hope others will see this and encourage her. I was amazed at this.
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@GardenGerty (160488)
• United States
9 Nov 15
I think you have hit on the thing I like the best and why the little lectures and informative posts do not appeal to me. I like the personal stuff.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@gardengerty i like informative posts to be personalized, and personal posts to have some info in them, since we come from around the world.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Nov 15
hi I always write from my heart and on bb a few times snobs have told me Im so naive well so be it Im me take me or leave me, I c annot be someone else so I no longer try M y hubby told me to be myself as that was whom he loved and it sure freed me to not act like I was someone else I just was m yself so comfortable that wa y I m ho nest and thats what counts I think lol.
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@NeldaHoxie (1381)
• United States
8 Nov 15
Most of the people who read your posts adore you. I really wouldn't worry about a few snobs.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Nov 15
I think I do try too hard sometimes. Like this weekend I feel like I have been double thinking myself out of posting several. That is good advice. To write from the heart.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Nov 15
@valmnz ....Spiritually a person loses out too. I need to work on this one.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@vandana7 i think your rants contain both, your heart and brain, and from the guts (stomach) too.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@valmnz i guess that's my problem. i keep asking myself, what is my purpose in sharing this? then under that, can i handle the responses?
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
9 Nov 15
@hereandthere I never have a purpose here, other than self expression as for being able to handle the responses, for me sometimes the answer is no, I can't. I do seem to get myself into deep water at times.
as for being able to handle the responses, for me sometimes the answer is no, I can't. I do seem to get myself into deep water at times.2 people like this
@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
9 Nov 15
@valmnz,I am from India.English is not my mother tongue and I don't have sufficient knowledge of the language.Yet I try my best to make every discussion vivid and lively.Most of my discussions are about my own experiences.I tried my best to express the feelings I had while undergoing those experiences.It's another matter whether I succeeded or not.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
10 Nov 15
@valmnz What I mean is that I can express my heart more clearly and vividly in my mother tongue Hindi.But when it comes to translating my feelings into English or any other language I don't have a good knowledge of,I flounder and often fail.
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@maggs224 (2320)
• Alicante, Spain
10 Nov 15
@else34 Judging from your comments you have a very good command of the English language and you don't appear to flounder at all. Many English speakers cannot express themselves as well as you do. Take it from a native English speaker, you express yourself clearly and vividly in English and have nothing to worry about when it comes to communicating in English :D
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@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
8 Nov 15
I write from the heart..., but, am sometimes intimidated (in my head only..) because I think there are professional writers on here...like yourself... and if not professional..then gifted writers...., and my stuff is not as good... but I write from my heart and post it anyway.... 
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@valmz i thought you were a paid online writer also. maybe writing come easier for teachers because it's part of their job?
@sueznewz2 (10409)
• Alicante, Spain
8 Nov 15
@valmnz ... that's true, about needing editors.... I thought you were a professional...., if not then you are very gifted....
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
8 Nov 15
@xFiacre well, as you well know, what is true differs for each of us. But if we write a sentence that is true to ourselves, nobody can ask for more than that. btw, just to change the subject, I watched an episode of Slow Train Through Africa on Saturday night - thru Zambia and Zimbabwe
btw, just to change the subject, I watched an episode of Slow Train Through Africa on Saturday night - thru Zambia and Zimbabwe
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
9 Nov 15
I guess it depends on what I feel when I start a discussion, sometimes I feel the need to write about something other than what I feel, just sharing information.But at times you want to write about what you feel and about your day or what is happening in your life ..
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
9 Nov 15
@vandana7 You are absolutely right ! There was a discussion I had started a few u years ago here about left over food and cooking food in large quantities just to save time and fuel. Some were against it ....Now it has been revealed that eating refrigerated rice ( after warming it up) cuts down calories by almost 30%...Similarly, when we know that we can make life easier for ourselves why resist it and make things more difficult ? I know of many relatives who find it difficult to stir out of their homes because their men insist on hot freshly cooked meal all the time ...Honestly, there is a limit to pampering 
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@vandana7 (100127)
• India
9 Nov 15
@kiran8 ..No that is not pampering..that is arrogance. Men should prove for once in a month each year that they can do what women can do, then they will stop making such demands. Agreed some tasks have become easier than in the past. But why have national waste? If the woman is educated, her education is subsidized. There are many who do not have access to education. Utilize the education instead of confining it to kitchen. That way she will earn and employ the poor and the money will find a way to percolate. Really our men need some repairing with screw drivers and hammers.
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@vandana7 (100127)
• India
9 Nov 15
Yes..that is so true. Yesterday we visited this elderly couple. The lady cooks twice in the day (lunch and dinner) apart from breakfast and evening tea of course. And they don't eat leftovers. They are childless, and now the lady is sickly too. I wonder why such habits should be cultivated at all that will not be fulfilled at other places. If they go to old age home, they will have to adjust to whatever is served, right? Those were my feelings yesterday.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
8 Nov 15
Whenever I start a discussion, I have to think long and hard of what to say, unless it a discussion that pertains to what is going on in my life, and then there is no thinking at all, as i just start typing. I guess you could say, that mine come from the heart all the way. If i can't think of a topic, then I just don't start one, which I don't a lot of anyway.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
9 Nov 15
Eh, discussions on here go in waves, just wait there will be wave on egg nog, or pie, or turkeys, or video games go past soon
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
9 Nov 15
@Jessicalynnt subjects that I try to avoid
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
9 Nov 15
@valmnz todays seems to be birthdays, and why mylot is better than bubbs
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@rakski (120600)
• Philippines
8 Nov 15
I agree with you there @valmnz in writing here, I become more spontaneous. I write what truly happens and what I think would others be interested to. Although others make a really nice piece of post here spontaneous or not probably the real writers. But I think we can write anything here as long as it is good and original and comes from our heart. 
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@NeldaHoxie (1381)
• United States
8 Nov 15
I'm really here to have a good time with some people that I enjoy. Honestly I just share what's going on in my life or something I'm thinking about. I really don't try to game the system.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
@Neldahoxie @valmnz would it be gaming the system if we submit numerous short posts every day?
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@valmnz (17097)
• New Zealand
9 Nov 15
@hereandthere I have no idea. You'd have to ask admin that one.
@tuttiharris (1338)
• Chattanooga, Tennessee
9 Nov 15
@valmnz (4319), all of my writing is from my heart. In the mornings I usually write a post about my plans for the day,my nigh, or just what is happening at the momment. I always say, what you read is what is going through my mind at the moment I write. Sometimes something happens I want to share with you, like I am just fixing to go and post about in a few minutes, but it is always from my heart, boring or interesting to others? I never know, but I always home interesting. Love to you my friend.
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