What Happened to the Friendly Community Here on MyLot?
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15123)
French Polynesia
December 25, 2015 4:27pm CST
I joined MyLot about two and a half months ago. When I first joined this was one very cheerful community and so fun to be on. But, however, today I see people fighting, pointing fingers, and attacking others for what they have done. Furthermore, too openly claim that you’ve blocked hundreds of people here on this site is totally depressing to read.
What happened to the fun loving community that I first joined? I always thought each and everyone was here on this site to have fun, share, and interact openly with others. Today I’ve seen a new side to this.
Come on guys we’re all adults here on this site. We are not entering school for the first time and fighting to be the most popular kid in class. We have all left those days behind and have all grown up.
So put your differences aside and stop the fighting. Hasn’t anyone learned their lessons by now? History repeats itself and it seems nobody has learned from past mistakes. I’m not sure if it is because of the categories here on the site Hot and Top Rated that makes people fight like this. Who cares if you’re number one? We should be more concerned to write discussions that make people laugh, inform, and help others.
Today I have the day off and came to the site to relax, laugh, and enjoy the day with my friends here. I have had a lot of good laughs today from some comments left on a discussion I did. I wanted to go and greet people and spread a little cheer around .Then I run into one discussion that has nothing but fighting on it and I feel at a loss. No matter what anyone says or does this will never change.
So guys let us try and be a little friendlier to each other please. I think this site was designed to have fun, meet people from around the world, and share our different cultures and stories with each other. I personally don’t think the owners of this site intended for us to fight between ourselves here.
So now it is up to you. You are the only one who can change all this. I for one will avoid all negative posts, pointing fingers, and sour comments. If I do answer on a discussion and my comment seems to attract nothing but negative comments I will delete my comment. I can do without the few cents this comment will make me. I would rather come here to have fun and enjoy all of you.
Now what do you think? Stop fighting, have fun, or go on like this forever? It is all up to you now.
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39 responses
@crystalvisions (440)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 15
I think the danger of some of the posts on here by other members are designed to antagonise or show ignorance. As an adult you either move on or put a comment that is respective of the post. This is where other members may well feel the need to respond back. You don't have to comment if you don't want to, after all...
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
I haven't been here very long. But you look at how many responses and comment I do make you'd think I was here a longer time. I love the site and it is a wonderful place to be. I just feel all this finger pointing should have a section of it's own so we don't have to see it all the time. This is a great place and there are so many wonderful people that can really make you laugh and smile on here. When you are down they are there to pick you up. I've seen people asks for hugs when something is wrong and there are a lot of people giving them out here. This is a warm community and filled with a lot of really good people. I think from now on when I see a conflict brewing I'm running the other way and staying away from it all.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@crystalvisions I like that. It is a wonderful place here and I know you are new. Sp please don't be discouraged by all of this. I just wish people would stop fighting and let it all go. No need to drag up one after another because it will never end. I would like to welcome you to a great place. Plus Merry Christmas and I hope you had a wonderful day with family and friends. Please don't run away from a small spat because most of the time it isn't like that here on the site. We do have a lot of fun and laugh between friends. This is actually a very friendly community for most of us on here. Welcome and thank you for stopping by.
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@crystalvisions (440)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 15
@poehere I agree - the way to look at it is not to bother. There's too much time moaning online that a place should exist where not much like that happens.
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@nonersays (3335)
• United States
25 Dec 15
I've seen this fighting, petty, argumentative side of every place I've ever been online. There are always the friendly group and the "I'm better than you" or the "I'm right and you're wrong" group.
The way the wold world is today I don't think there can be an online gathering spot without both kinds of people.
If only it were easier to only see the good and be able to ignore the bad side.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
25 Dec 15
You are so right. I just wish people would learn to live in harmony just once on one site there is online. the fighting is depressing and takes away from the beauty of this site. This site is a fun loving site and normally a lot of fun to be on.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
25 Dec 15
@Susan2015 Actually when I wrote this it was meant to be a positive article. I wanted people to see this and think about this mess. I just wanted the positive of the site to shine through and get rid of the negative of the site. That was all. I might not of said it the right way I just want a happy site again. I love to laugh on here and I love the light hearts and joyful smiles I get from everyone on here. I have had so many wonderful laughs and it makes me smile all the time.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@JakeOmatic I am not blinded by where I live. I haven't always lived here. I have lived in many places around the world. I have seen the good and the bad. I just think that if people form a community on a place such as this that all else should be put aside and for once have some fun and laugh again. We don't always get to do this in our everyday lives. So why not have one place online that we can all have some fun. Put all the negative, hurt, and bad feeling aside and come here with some open eye and join in and laugh with us and have some fun.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
25 Dec 15
I assume that you must be referring to the recent discussion that I submitted. This was simply something that I had encountered and seemed quite strange, so it became a topic that I wrote about.
This was not intended to be a volatile discussion, although it did elicit quite a fair amount of animosity.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Yah got you but still not a real need for it. But we are all free and can do as we please. From now on I won't comment on stuff like this. I want to laugh at your poetry and joke around on the site. I feel that's what this community is all about. These fights have no place on a happy community and I guess from now on I will ignore them all and refuse to answer.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@Asylum No I know and neither was my comment to you. But for some reason it did and I didn't think it was right to always do this to people and sort of got tired of it. it isn't your fault and you and I were just talking about why I say happy holidays and combine it all into one instead of saying Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. It was fun until the end then it turned into a rock slinging post and not what I had wanted at all. Do not worry it is not all or anyone's fault I just wished things like this would stop happening that is all.
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@celticeagle (166970)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 15
As I recall we had some real odd balls on the first version of Mylot. I had a run in with a real corker of a little rabbit. It takes all kinds to make a world. I think that for the most part Mylot has a lot of great members. The others will get tired of being such a bunch of idiots and hopefully will go elsewhere.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Dec 15
hi@celtceagle oh yes hte l ittle rabbt oh m g she was the pits and we all got sick of her comments too gkad is t if s are fru ebds
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@celticeagle (166970)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 15
@Hatley ...Yes, she was. So glad she isn't onboard this time around.
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@rebelann (112878)
• El Paso, Texas
26 Dec 15
Ummm, Ok, but who was fighting? I did read a couple comments about someone blocking people but the conversation I had there was more like fun rather than a fight.
I also never fight with people, if someone tries to fight with me I simply ignore them, it's my choice afterall.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
For now it is over. I did comment on that one too if it is what we are talking about. But you did not read what was said after all of this. It is no big deal now and it is over. I just hope things will be happy once again and the two who were throwing rocks will put them down and become friends. That would be excellent. I'd like that so much.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
25 Dec 15
@jstory07 Yes that is my goal from now on. I will no longer read them and interact with them. I love the site and the light humor it has. I read some really funny stuff today. Mr Grinch is gone and for some unknown reason some redneck killed Santa in the home next to his or was it in the newspaper. One of the two. I had a great laugh at this story and it was so funny to read. Plus all the warm wishes and joyful greeting people have left for all of us today. There is no need to look at the other stuff now.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
25 Dec 15
No Judy it is not yours for sure. it started off with one person attacking the site and being so proud he banned over 100 people. In this a person responded with an attack on this one. From there it is building up and a lot of people are jumping in.
I just wish if a person has to be that stupid to announce here on this site he has done this that others would ignore him and leave him to his games and let him play alone.
I just love this site and love to interact with everyone on here. I don't feel like being in the middle of some war to see who can out insult the other person. I guess I love happiness and joy and don't like to always see stuff like this. That is all. I love it here and in the beginning this site was never this way at all. It is just recently it is becoming this way and I just want people to realize this and go back to the way it was before. But then on the other hand maybe I should just pass these people by and no longer read their discussion or comment on them.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
26 Dec 15
I enjoy reading posts that are positive and have a twist to them. I do not like a lot of negativity and will not respond to anyone who is not being positive about something. Leave you negativity inside your home and don't bring it with you online as we don't want to hear it.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Excellent point here. I feel all the response are positive on here but one or two from the negative person who decided to flood the comments with ones of his own. I just ignore them and move on. I feel like we should try harder to not give in to these negative people and let it effect us. We all know we are better than this one.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
There was a person who wrote about blocking hundreds of members and then one to come back and make a post on his post. Well anyhow it is not so important. I just hoping the new year all this can stop. This site use to be so much fun and I know it can again. I just need to stop worrying about all these hidden fights between people and let them work it out on their own.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
26 Dec 15
You can lead a horse to water...people will do and say what they want. I am not sure what particular discussion you're talking about so I can't comment.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
26 Dec 15
sometimes it is just best not to continue the thread. We all know when it is time to walk away from an argument and the same applies here. Perhaps we should make a list of the happy MyLotters, who we can rest assured will give us something to smile about whenever we need it. @poehere
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
You are so right. I just commented on one and then after my comment was talking or commenting back to the author of the post. One person chimed in and left sort of rude but no so rude comment back to me. I left it. Next thing you see is the two of them going at it and then anther joined in. After this one I refused to go back and read more of it or even comment on it again.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@41CombedaleRoad This is correct. But the person I wrote on their discussion is one I love to interact with. it was in the comments this one happened and I was sort of shocked to see this. So I left the discussion and won't answer this back.
But you are right I basically have a lot of good people on here that are so fun and easy to interact with. That is why this site is a lot of fun all the time.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50250)
• United States
26 Dec 15
I wasn't on Mylot for most of the day. Glad I missed the negativity.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Yes this one would of been great for me too but it was my comment that turned this way. Oh well it is a new hour in time and the old one is gone forever. Let us forget this and pass the best time on here from now on. I think this site is so much fun that I love to write things to make people laugh. Hope you had a wonderful holiday and all was warm and cozy in your home today.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@ivyparkgirl Hope you had a wonderful Christmas Kelly. Merry Christmas.
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@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
26 Dec 15
@poehere The secret is that you do not tell a single soul that the change needs to happen.You just stealthily lead the change.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
@GardenGerty Yes you are so right on this one. If everyone slowly lead the change we could all laugh again. I did post a few funny ones today so this is on the right track for all to see and laugh again.
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@troyburns (1405)
• New Zealand
25 Dec 15
There are occasional bouts of unfriendliness here, but they are still pretty rare. One of the costs of freedom is that not every opinion will be agreeable. I don't think that's a problem though, because we're all free to vote with our feet and avoid negativity if we choose to.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Yes you are so right. I just need to stay away from them and not get involved. I love to laugh and share good feeling with everyone on here. So when this happens from now on I will pass them by and not bother to look or care what the outcome of these are.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
You are so right. My positive comment turned into a negative even and from now on when I feel this one will happen again I will not comment at all and not even bother to read this one either. That is the best advice stay away from it all and just be happy and have fun. That was what this site was designed to be - fun.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Dec 15
@JakeOmatic really? why don't you put a sock in it and stop blocking people on your posts. i do not even know you and you blockd me from your posts thats really pretty unfriendly 
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@FourWalls (68014)
• United States
26 Dec 15
@Hatley -- want a good laugh? We used to follow one another here and on the B-place. I was one of his most ardent supporters, too: I'd make certain to read his posts, and I even referenced the way the b-place refused to pay him when I filed my complaint with the BBB. My "reward" was him blocking me here. Oh, well, c'est la vie.
I can't wait to see his post, "Why Am I Not Making Money Here on myLot?" 
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@allisonwish (464)
• Shenzhen, China
26 Dec 15
Agree with you. I think the Mylot is a friendly community. But I have not ideal what post you taking about.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
it is not so important anymore. I sort of got drawn into it because it short of shocked me when I read the title. I made a nice comment and moved on. It was what came afterwards that was not so wonderful. Oh well this is a fantastic place and let us concentrate on this and not the past now.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
26 Dec 15
@poehere,I don't take interest in such things.If someone criticizes me,I try to take it positively.Two days back someone blocked me for reasons best known to them.I am not hurt or disturbed.It's their choice.I am glad that there are lovely people like you in the community and they all are my friends.
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@else34 (13515)
• New Delhi, India
27 Dec 15
@poehere Two days back while interacting here I chanced to read a post by someone who had blocked me for no reason.Later on it was revealed that this gentleman has been blocking many others.It's his choice.I am glad if one person blocks me,then there are thousands who allow me to interact with them.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
27 Dec 15
@else34 You found him. This is the one who blocks everyone here plus it is him who leaves all the nasty comments behind. He started on here like he did on another comment I left on a post. So finally after the last one I blocked him too. I don't need this and I don't think others need it either.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Me too. I personally don't care if someone blocks me or not. This is their choice. I just don't like leaving a nice comment on a post and having it turn ugly in the end. The one I answered was not a post that this one should of happened on at all.
But like you I am so happy to have a lot of nice friends here on the site and just stay away from others who do this one. I just wish that people could get along but in a writing community like this one I know how it is.
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@GreatMartin (23672)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
26 Dec 15
I haven't come across anything negative like you are talking about--maybe I am just lucky OR just nice???
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
26 Dec 15
Ah GreatMartin you are just plain nice as everyone on here knows. @GreatMartin
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
There wasn't actually a post. Just the one post I mentioned about bragging. The rest was left to me in comments. I was commenting back and forth with the author of the discussion and another person chimed in. This is when it started.
Well anyhow let us hope this one will stop and not happen again. When you comment back to one person and another jumps in with a negative comment and it goes on from there it is hard to feel good about commenting back again.
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
26 Dec 15
I was blocked by that loser too and I'd prefer not to know that. But i do...I am glad to see he usually gets maybe one or two comments which is good I'm thinking. He's in my past and I don't look for his posts (although i did when I found myself banned from his life - I was curious.) Not any more. I like it here and like the people I am connected too. i love reading their stories, happy or sad. I like being friendly and entertained...
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
Seems like he does this to everyone. I was not targeted and after this post he decided to follow me. Not sure why because normally anyone who lives outside of his region is blocked by him. If he doesn't know them or not he will block them for no good reason. So be it I won't go there at all. I might of answered one of his post when he first came on but I am not even sure of this one at all.
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@anh101 (1379)
•
26 Dec 15
I dont really comment often these days on post, and sometimes just go Mylot and check in the people i follow, since im a little busy overhere, need to finish this thing at the end of January to make a move to another things, cuz it seems the plan is wrong, should finish to move out soon, nobody likes the one who all day work on computer and still dont generate any cents
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@Gabugs (1895)
• United States
26 Dec 15
Well call me lucky if you will @poehere But frankly, I haven't come across any negative/in-fighting posts you've mentioned. Perhaps, its 'cause I am not here for long periods of time nor have too many followers. I'm a very simple person and revel in being "ordinary."
I wish you the BEST in the years ahead.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
26 Dec 15
The original post wasn't negative and fighting. I just left a nice comment and one person had to start it off which led to another and another. In the end it was a really nice comment turned ugly. But now it is passed and I am glad I did not answer back. I just left it as it was and now leave these guys to fight it out between themselves on my comment.
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