The Voices in My Head

Stressors are always around us. What we need to do is find a way to walk through or around them. Not always easy to do.

@SHOHANA I hear you. I know I'm not alone but it does feel that way at times.

i often feel the same way that i'm alone but actually i'm not

I am trying to keep myself busy and put everything into perspective.

@TiarasOceanView I will be okay. I just need to get through some tough times.

@ElusiveButterfly I know how that goes Elusive..hope you are okay my friend

I have been to counseling before. The last time I sought professional help I felt as if he were more interested in getting me out before the end of the session. His solution to the problem was abrupt and rather a slap in the face.

@ataboy I haven't the money or time to invest in searching for the one that will be more beneficial for me. Therefore I turn to forums such as this for advice. I have found that through the comments of many I am able to find the focus I have so needed.

@ElusiveButterfly, I've been to terrible medical doctors of many specialties, but that doesn't mean the profession is flawed. I simply move on to the next one! A therapist/psychologist or psychiatrist is no different. I realize it can leave a bad taste in your mouth, but they are human, and many should have never chosen the field that they are practicing in! Find another one if you feel it is necessary or would be helpful! Don't let "Dr. Pushy-guy" staring at his watch for the better part of an hour prevent you from finding a decent or excellent therapist! He doesn't make decisions for you!

I can't remember going through a midlife crisis either. Just a lot of things that caused me pain and realized I needed to turn myself in another direction.

@ElusiveButterfly Life turned me around, I didn't have much of a choice, but it was a good thing.

@AbbyGreenhill I hope that this one will end soon. I feel myself pulling out of it, but it is a slow process.

I often hear music, but it is usually after someone mentions a certain song or I hear it on the radio and it stays with me all day.

@ramapo17 I have tinnitus too. Sick of that hissing sound. It gets annoying at times and when those high pitched ringing sounds take over there is no place to hide. The only place I find makes those sounds go away or at least lessen is in the shower or at the beach.

@amadeo I don't get voices or music, I get hissing noises. That is my tinnitus. The doctor said it will never go away and there is no medicine that can help it. Some days the noises are worse than others and some days I don't hear them at all. I just take one day at a time.

I was able to rest a bit last night. Hoping to sleep-in a bit tomorrow. It is may day off.

I am slowly on the mend. Just need to remember that tomorrow is a new day.

@ataboy Today is a better day. I rested well last night. I know that I do need more rest in order to let my body and mind remain sharp.

@ElusiveButterfly Don't let it get away! Time is fleeting, and you should MAKE tomorrow a much better day than you feel like it could possibly be. Mind over matter...

I was caught verbalizing my ideas and I just laughed and rolled my eyes.

@ElusiveButterfly I used to say "don't mind me, just practicing here"... Ppl naturally assumes you're preparing for something like an interview, especially if you're saying "well I think this should be done like that because blah blah

I like this one! Nice idea. Until someone walks into the room of course! LOL! But who cares!

Sometimes I write down solutions to the said problem. I have talked myself in circles before.

@ElusiveButterfly Writing is very therapeutic too, and that can help still the voices.

@ElusiveButterfly Anything that transfers the focus of your mind to something else actively will be beneficial. If it's something you enjoy, it's all the easier to think more clearly. That's what I find in my experience anyway.

Have you ever tried any relaxation techniques? They can be quite simple usually, and have a high success rate if you really put your mind into it...like not being skeptical.

Mandy I don't recall a time when I have ever rested well through the night. Maybe this is the way it is supposed to be. Egg Eye, I try to bring myself to a peaceful place such as a warm sunny beach. Nothing beats the real thing though.

@ElusiveButterfly There are a lot of effective relaxation techniques. One quite simple one sounds to easy to be truly helpful, and people don't realize that they are rejecting it to some extent, and making it much more difficult to lead to a rested state. Remember a good night's rest is not THAT MUCH worse than a good night's sleep. This simplest technique is just to find a good quite comfortable place without interruptions being likely, then just close your eyes (which is actually optional, but easier to fall asleep if your having that much trouble) And then take a while to truly clear you thoughts, see what it feels like to actively think of nothing. Don't even think about the fact that your trying this technique or desiring to sleep. Then concentrate on your breathing, don't change it or worry if it does change, just think of nothing else but the feeling of inhaling and exhaling and the sound of air moving in and out of your mouth...the sensation of you chest rising and falling. Every aspect of your breathing but nothing else whatsoever. Forget about how long it is taking. It may be seconds since you began or it may be the next morning, it's inconsequential. Continue this until you wake up. I say this because if you have followed the instructions fully you have nothing else to indicate when to stop, or how long it's been, so there's no reason to give up. Worst case scenario you will feel a lot more relaxed in the morning then you would have had you not preformed this relaxation technique.

@Shiva49, Unfortunately that's the way it tends to go...Preaching is the best way to remember good practice just as teaching is the best way to learn a subject matter thoroughly. I realized this this lesson soon after I started college, and it's an amazing reality!

Yeah that brain thing sure has a mind of it's own, no?! But avoiding FEELING "overwhelmed" is very important! I which I could always practice what I preach a little bit better though!

@ataboy Yes, we will remember what needs to be practiced when we preach them! siva

I often sit with my laptop or crochet project thinking how tired I am, and wake up an hour later.

@ElusiveButterfly Don't you just love that feeling.

So do you mean higher/older would be ideal?

I tried talking to someone who was close to me and it caused strain on the relationship. Eventually we stopped talking altogether.

@ataboy they were more interested in how I could help them. When I turned to them for support they didn't want to hear my problems.

@ElusiveButterfly That is sad, I'm sorry to hear that happened at such a trying time for you! But do you think that says more about you're situation or the relationship between you and that person. Only you know the answer to that one...

Figuring out what to purge and what to work on is key. I have shelved quite a few things to get myself to a better place. I'll leave them on a shelf for a while then forget about them and move on.

I do try to slow myself down and look on the brighter side of life. Life is too short to burden yourself over trivial things.

Internal dialogue being amplified by emotions?! Sounds about like voices to me! And yes, there is plenty of unnoticed intense beauty in the smallest of physical things around us including the tiniest of kind gestures that usually just pass right by us, @ElusiveButterfly! Sometimes you have to actively pay attention to be able to even notice they exist at all!