Poligamy anyone?
By marguicha
@marguicha (223133)
Chile
February 12, 2016 8:26am CST
I just read an article at Digg saying that monogamy is overrated.
I thought that it all depends on each person.
Years ago, I was told by one of my friends that her body was hers so that she could do as she pleased. I agreed, but I also thought that our body is commanded by our mind (or call it spirit or whateveer you wish).
I cannot say that I did not find other men attractive after I got marred. But I did know that monogamy was important for my husband and I woyld not hurt him just for a moment of fun.
Still, I think that there is no black and white and each of us must choose our path.
What is your idea about this subject?
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
12 Feb 16
I have found that most of the people who support polygamy are male, though not always. I personally think it is a bad idea. A man answering the demands of two wives is bound to shorten his life expectancy. I think it can also cause problems among the children.
Rereading your post, it seems to me what your friend was referring to was promiscuity more than polygamy. Even in polygamy, you are in a committed relationship, but with more than one other person. I'd say you friend just wants to be free to fool around.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
Thinking about it, I think that you are right about my friend. Lately I have seen shows on TV about families where the man has many wives. I often woder how can the poor man provide for everyone. 
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
@JohnRoberts That was it! I could understand it better if living in the country, where everyone helps with the farming. In the city there is no use for the idea.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Feb 16
Did you ever watch that TV series Big Love about the Mormon guy with three wives? Good grief, he was nuts!
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
12 Feb 16
Polygamy may not be a serious sin, but it would most likely distress the other party in an otherwise monogamous relationship greatly. I agree emphatically with your opinion that it is not worth causing such distress to a loved one for the sake of a passing pleasure.
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
12 Feb 16
@marguicha Nor would I, yet amazingly many people do and quite often.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
@Asylum I know. It also amazes me the amount of people who do a lot of harm in the name of their God. Even here, there are some posts that I don´t dare answer
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
I have deleted the word "sin" from my vocabulary, But I would not do anything that can hurt someone I love if I can help it.
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@allknowing (136601)
• India
13 Feb 16
Muslims practise polygamy ofcourse only men and I still cannot understand how the women are happy about it and stay insane.
We have been brought up to believe that monogamy is the right way to live - not that we do not get attracted to other men but since it is there in our mind about monogamy being right that feeling is kept in check.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
I respect other people´s ways, as long as they don´t hurt anyone.
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@vandana7 (100303)
• India
15 Feb 16
@marguicha ..Yes, nobody should be hurt for sure.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
13 Feb 16
The idea in the article was not about it being legal or not but whether it suited better some people of the same culture and beliefs.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
15 Feb 16
@vandana7 I have read that in India there has been a great problem in that respect. But I have also read that, as the amount of women are much less now that the amount of men, things are beginning to change. Is that so?
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@vandana7 (100303)
• India
15 Feb 16
We have killed so many little girls because of dowry issues that human trafficking has become a lucrative profession out here. And things are so bad that men might actually like it that way considering that they have no responsibility. I would rather polyandry take over which already exists in some regions of the country even today, than let human trafficking flourish because then women and girls would truly be unhappy indefinitely.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Feb 16
I don't even have one partner much less two!
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@vandana7 (100303)
• India
13 Feb 16
My views may seem controversial...but I do feel that I would rather men take more wives or even women take more husbands, if they can manage it...it is their personal life...provided the partners too think in the like fashion. There should not be restrictions. If a person wants a single spouse, so be it. If the person wants more so be it provided that the partners are ok.and can accept the previous partners/new partners. The monogamy thing has not really made world a happier place and many crimes have occurred because of it. So why not kill the bait? I would rather we go for this way rather than let human trafficking thrive. I read JJ's views on this, and i agree managing more than one might be difficult proposition...but it is for the partners to decide what they are getting into. My sole objective in saying this is I think it will stop some crimes. I think polygamy can be managed. If it were not so, muslims would have discontinued that. And there are tribes in India to this day where polyandry is prevalent.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
15 Feb 16
I think that this is something that each of us has to decide upon. But I, too, thing that this is also a cultural situation.I don´t this that monogamy or polygamy or polyandry are better or worse per se, I can only say what it suits me.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
15 Feb 16
@vandana7 I only hope that the girl can speak up for what she really wants.
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@vandana7 (100303)
• India
15 Feb 16
@marguicha ..Yeah true. Dad had an assistant. He came one day and distributed sweets. Told us that he has a son, we were a bit surprised because he'd been hospitalized for long then they told us that they are three brothers who are married to one girl. And that is ok in their community. If it is acceptable within the community and if nobody including the girl does not have objections, why disturb?
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@Orson_Kart (6779)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 16
I like mahogany, but that is out of fashion too, probably due to cost. Everything seems to be pine these days. Cheap and cheerful, much like myself. 
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
15 Feb 16
For me if would mostly be a cost in stress. I always say that if I had had more than 2 children, I´d be insane.
@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
Poligamy and adultery are not the same. In a poligamous society (or group), the word adultery has another meaning. Even morality changes from one society to the other.
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@marguicha (223133)
• Chile
12 Feb 16
It worked for me, but I accept that other people have other ideas. I could not imagine being in a swinger club
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