Life In A Wheelchair

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By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
February 15, 2016 6:07pm CST
She sits alone in numb despair Cares are on her brow, Her fate it is so hard to bear, ''Who will love me now?'' She'd been such fun, was fit and strong, Received a cruel blow, And even though she is still young, ''Who will love me now?'' Her body now so bent and broken, No-one comes to woo, She doesn't cry, but words unspoken ''Who will love me now?'' She had been bright and beautiful, Her smile would make you glow, Then from her horse she had a fall, ''Who will love me now?'' And so she sits in such despair Trying not to show, But who will see beyond that chair? Who will love her now? Original poem by Jabo
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Feb 16
You know what. She should learn to love herself and when she does that what others can do will fade into insignificance. *Oh no! My record player is not working today and so I will say it differently. There is a corner somewhere on the Internet specially meant for great poets. Better find that corner.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK You had a real person in mind and that I did not know. Actually there are cases where one does get romantically involved in situations such as this.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@allknowing But it's nearly always the other way round - man in a wheelchair, able bodied lady.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK There was a case here not many years ago when my friend's daugher divorced her husband when she realised he was suffering from cancer
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Feb 16
Great and touching poem. I can hear her silent cry and it touches my heart.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@just4him Thank you, and you are right - it was a silent cry. Only those of us who were close to her knew how she felt.
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK Was this poem about someone you know? If so you did that person justice. Well done.
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@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK She's no longer bound but running free. The fact the poem was real, makes it special.
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@glenniah (1197)
• Mandurah, Australia
17 Feb 16
Amazing story within the poem Jabo. Reminds me of a story they told me in the hospital when my husband had his first stroke. It is a movie and incredibly moving, called Diving Bell and Butterfly. May be a bit of a segue but your poem reminded me of this
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@glenniah (1197)
• Mandurah, Australia
17 Feb 16
@jaboUK It is an old movie now but worth looking up, my son and I found it intersting and moving. Loving your poetry, Janet
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
@glenniah Thank you for your nice remark about my poetry, I appreciate it.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
I've never seen the movie you are talking about, so I'll look out for it.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 16
Very stirring poem. I hope this person realized there are other things in life and love is all around.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK ...My first known experience with plagiarism on here.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@celticeagle Yes, she lived as full a life as she was able,though she was almost completely dependent on others.. She used to say ''It's only my body that doesn't work - not my brain or my mouth''.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@bangun Thank you. I see that you are quite new here, and I think you'll find it best to use your own words, rather than copy what someone else has said. You'll get used to the way we do things the longer you are here. Good luck.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
16 Feb 16
Accidents arrive so quickly, but then you can have your days ruined for the rest of your life. I feel that this is a true story and I am sure many loved her, but possibly not the one she would have wanted to love.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@LadyDuck As usual you are spot on Anna.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 16
@Daljinder Nope - there are a lot of like-minded people around, so it's not too surprising when someone else says what we are thinking.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
18 Feb 16
@LadyDuck took my thoughts and put them out there @jaboUK. Should I be worried??
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
the poem made me remember our father, who spent years in his wheelchair after his legs were amputated
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@Lucky15 I'm sorry about your father, it's no fun to lose your mobility.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK he has not complain but i can feel his struggle. We just have to make adjustments on each doors of the house for him. He doesn't want us to feel the burden
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
That's a moving poem. I am advocate of PWDs (People with Disabilities). This is what really felt by patients who are wheelchair bound.
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@Shavkat (140102)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK Ooops! PWDs stands for people with disabilities.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@Shavkat Right, thankyou for explaining that.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@Shavkat I'm afraid I don't know what PWD stands for, but I'm glad that you understand.
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@ricki_911 (21625)
• Toronto, Ontario
16 Feb 16
Wow that is well written. I can see having disabilities and the feeling of being lonely. But also those people don't deserve the time of day.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
16 Feb 16
What do you mean?
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@ricki_911 I gather that you mean that the people who don't love her don't deserve the time of day? Actually people did love her, but no-one romantically.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK I did not understand what the friend meant by "those people".
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I often wonder how these people felt sitting in wheelchair for most of their life. What are they thinking?The poem was great.Thank you
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@amadeo I think it must be worse to be in a wheelchair as the result of an accident, than if you'd never been able to walk.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
Surprisingly people with disabilities work even harder to make a go of it rather than sit back and let life pass them by! A nice poem Janet.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
That is very true Gary - my friend concentrated on what she could do, not what she couldn't. She lived a life as full as possible.
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@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
16 Feb 16
Awe, so sad. She will stop feeling bad and realize life is good even in a wheel chair. Please do another post and make her happy... Never mind I just noticed some comments. It is sad she never had someone to love her while in the chair...
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@PainsOnSlate She never found someone who loved her romantically since she'd been in the chair, though she'd been engaged before her accident. Fortunately they had split some time before - I say fortunately because, as she said herself, she wouldn't have wanted him to stay with her out of pity.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Feb 16
Despite disability, a disabled person will still be loved by family , close friends and soulmate.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@cacay1 Yes, she was loved by family and friends, but never found her soulmate.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Feb 16
@jaboUK Aw, hehehehe sorry my dear.
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@Shiva49 (26765)
• Singapore
16 Feb 16
A moment is enough being at the wrong place at the wrong time. I know one who was still young when it happened. He was wearing seat-belt inside a cab when another vehicle hit from behind and that resulted in him wheelchair bound for many years now and needs constant care. Life is indeed so unpredictable and we take much for granted - siva
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@Shiva49 Yes, something like that can change your life forever. Your friend had a similar experience to the girl I'm talking about here - she needed 24 hour care as she was paralysed due to a broken neck.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@Shiva49 My friend here was expected to live 5 years at the most after her accident, and she managed 23 years.
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@Shiva49 (26765)
• Singapore
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK The most highlighted recently was that of Michael Schumacher. Hats off to Stephen Hawking for his bravery and persistence outliving all predictions - siva
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
16 Feb 16
So lovely and sad and very well written @Jabo- I could be her if they don't fix my hip and then maybe the other- but at least it happened later in life and I have lots of confidence all will be well. See- you're not jsut a limericist or limerick-ist you're a poet and didn't know it- haha! like I was. Although I won't hold my breath for the grand prize- lol!. Very good!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
@MarymargII They say my other one needs doing too, but I'm not in too much pain with it, so I'll wait until I am. The one I had done is great - I can walk well with no pain.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
No - I don't just do silly limericks. You'll get your hips fixed and be as good as new.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
17 Feb 16
@jaboUK How's all that with you- You were a trooper getting it done- I'm on the list and waiting for the call -gulp- Lucky you had only one altho they say I'd have to wait a year for the other one if it has to be done. :)
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
16 Feb 16
A beautiful poem! Many times I have wondered how would my life have been if I had lived 50 years before my time. I had a back surgery 20 years ago and if the surgery hadnĀ“t been done, I would have had to be in a wheel chair.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK I know. One of my best friend who is no more on earth, had so many discapacities that she lived in pain. Still she was the bravest person I have seen.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@marguicha You were lucky in that you were saved from life in a wheelchair. Nothing could be done for my friend as her neck was too badly broken, resulting in paralysis.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@marguicha Something like this sometimes brings out an inner strength from somewhere - believe me, they need it.
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• Greece
17 Feb 16
This reminded me of a lady I know who fought against having to use a wheelchair. Eventually her husband's arm was no longer enough and she accepted that she needed the chair. She found a new life for herself in that wheelchair, took up handicapped sports and encouraged others to do the same thing. She has established a group of others now and is a high flyer. Not bad for someone confined to a wheelchair!
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• Greece
17 Feb 16
@jaboUK Your friend was a very courageous woman and must have been an inspiration to both the able bodied and the handicapped people she came into contact with.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
@41CombedaleRoad You are certainly right there.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
A wheelchair is a marvellous aid to people with walking difficulties, and the wheels can become their 'legs'. I gather that the lady you are talking about has the full use of her arms? - That makes such a difference. My friend was almost completely paralysed and could only move one arm - even then she had no use of her fingers so could not grip or hold anything. So sports were out for her. However she did do skydiving and scuba diving while attached to an instructor.
• United States
16 Feb 16
This is a beautiful written poem. My mom needed a wheelchair for most of my life. When I was young she was able to get around more with just special made crutches. However as time went on she was unable to get very far without her wheelchair nearby. She was always so fun loving and optimistic but then the years seemed to take that away from her somewhat as well. She passed away a few years back.
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• United States
16 Feb 16
@jaboUK I could not imagine being almost completely paralyzed and relying on others. I would be so lost most of the time as I am very independant.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum I know - most of us cannot imagine a life like this.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
@ScribbledAdNauseum The girl I'm talking about here was almost completely paralysed, but like your mom, she retained her spirit.
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
22 Feb 16
Oh this is such a wonderful poem - While I was in Swakopmund I went to visit the sister of a bowling friend of mine's, who lives with two leg amputations, in pain from Arthritis, and depressed. she is lifted every day into her wheelchair and when I read your poem, I saw her face. I have a photo but dont think it appropriate to show it here. You have great insight to someone's feeling in a wheelchair - - - ?
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 16
@Inlemay She never complained, even to me. She just concentrated on what she could do, not what she couldn't. She wrote 4 books, went skydiving, scuba diving etc.
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
23 Feb 16
@jaboUK Just amazing
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
22 Feb 16
@jaboUK well your words have reflected that knowing how she felt sadly but beautifully
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Mar 16
That was a tear jerker! Must ask, but was there anything that inspired you to write this one? Like was this based on someone you know etc
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
14 Mar 16
@VivaLaDani13 Why feel bad? I wouldn't have written about her if it was too senstive a subject for me to discuss. Despite everything she was a very positive person, just concentrating on what she could do, not what she couldn't. She succumbed to pneumonia as her body wasn't strong enough to fight it off. She was 54 and had been in her wheelchair since she was 31.
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• Perth, Australia
14 Mar 16
@jaboUK I'm very sorry. I feel bad for asking now.
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
16 Feb 16
We all love her! Excellent poem. Does this incidentally refer to a real person?
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 16
Yes, she was a great friend of mine - she faced her disability with great courage. Sadly she succumbed to pneumonia a couple of years ago.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
17 Feb 16
@Scindhia That's true - I will never forget her.
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