~She Stole My Daughter's Innocence~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
February 20, 2016 8:37am CST
Our friends that we used to live with have an 8 year old daughter. Apparently her parents were watching a movie with her there and told her to close her eyes during an inappropriate part. Well she didn't listen and she saw a couple being intimate.
My daughter was talking about me having Julian and saying how excited she was about the baby coming. The 8 year old girl asked my daughter if she knew how people got pregnant. My daughter said by kissing. She said no they lay on top of each other when their naked, kiss and do other stuff and that's how they get pregnant!
My daughter is only 10 years old and had no clue about anything like that! I didn't want her innocence taken away at such a young age...
Did your children learn something too early from another child?
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25 responses
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
20 Feb 16
Aww..that's something we can't avoid...other children! It seems that no matter how you want to keep them innocent, other people will just ruin it in just a snap.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@cherriefic Unfortunately that is the truth, we cannot help what other children do and say. I still hate it though.
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
20 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies I agree. Maybe your daughter should not mingle with that other kid for awhile.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@cherriefic I am definitely not letting her be around her anymore.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Boiboing My children are home schooled. They socialize with children at church, tutoring and children i babysit for. I didn't want them learning about that until they were older than 10. Children speak of what they see and hear though so I guess I should have expected it.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
20 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies Now that I read down further I see that they are not exposed to the things on the school bus nor the classroom.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@dodo19 No i can't help it or change it but that doesn't mean I have to like it.
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
20 Feb 16
I learned a lot at school and then once I mentioned it to my mom, she went out and got me a book with pictures and stuff lol. At 10 I didn't really know anything. I think it's still a little young. I think once girls get their periods is when they should get the talk. With boys, I guess when they hit puberty and their voice starts changing? All I know is it's hard to avoid the situation when it's splattered all over the place in books, TV, movies and what not.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Feb 16
@Daniegirl80587 Unfortunately my daughter hasn't even told me yet. She told her aunt and my sister told me.
10 is too young in my opinion. I was going to have the talk with her when she got her period but now i guess that is already done. =(
Yeah it is everywhere now a days!
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
22 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies Well once you guys do have "the talk" it'll just be another thing for you to discuss and have that kind of relationship. I was pretty close to my mom talking to her about those things and I was happy she was so understanding. Not at 10 of course, but since she knows anyways, no use going back.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Marlina It is a very difficult thing.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Amnabas Oh she's never going to be playing with her again.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Feb 16
No. I believed, and still do, that child should know(age appropriately of course) what was going on in the world. If they questioned me I told them. I still remember going to my mother and asking her " You mean they really do....bla bla bal?" I just couldn't believe it!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Feb 16
@Celticeagle Well, yes if they come to you. I didn't want her hearing it from another child, I wanted to be the one to talk with her about it. But I do think 10 is too young. I was going to wait until she got her period.
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
20 Feb 16
I am on the same page as @Boingboing my six year old come home from kindergarten talking about sexy. When I asked him what exactly was sexy he said that it was when me and daddy were in the bed together. 
He will not tell us who told him the word or the meaning of the word.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Feb 16
@Shellyann36 That's crazy! It is happening way too young, I hate it. =( I wanted to be the one to have that talk with my kids once they were a little older.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
20 Feb 16
Hello There,
I don´t have kids yet as I´m not married but the thing is that kids at such tender age should be just worried about barbie dolls and games and no where I think that they should be allowed to be familiar with such things , Reason being, kids at such tender age are very anxious and curious to try new things which they see and they have doubts about every single thing and they keep asking you questions.
We have to be careful not to keep them close to any of such things which would be harmful for their in any way.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@rajendraingale Yes I agree, kids should be worried about kid stuff at these ages. She's very upset that she knows this and she's angry at the girl for telling her. She won't be around her anymore, she doesn't like her anyway. So it's not something that will upset her.
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@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
20 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies
@LovingMyBabies
that's so wise of your kid, Very intelligent and smart I must say. I'm glad that she took that decision of not being around with her. On the contrary , I think it's not that girl's fault, the fault is of their parents who take kids to such movies , they should be more careful about their kids. It's the parents responsibility on upbringing the kids in a proper way and teaching them nice things.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@ladyduck One of many reasons I chose to home school my children.
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@LadyDuck (471978)
• Switzerland
21 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies Home schooling is not allowed in our country, they believe that children need to socialize since a very young age.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50580)
• United States
20 Feb 16
Sadly these things happen. So sorry that this happened to her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Tampa_girl7 Yeah I hate it so much. Thank you.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Thehorse Well I hope my daughter doesn't dwell on it. And I am glad she doesn't really care for the girl much anyway because separating won't be hard at all.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
20 Feb 16
Yes, my son learned way too early but, it does happen and it's usually a friend of theirs telling them this stuff than they come to you and ask questions.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Feb 16
@Whiteream My daughter hasn't told me yet, she told her aunt and my sister told me. I was going to tell her when she got her period.
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@whiteream (8567)
• United States
21 Feb 16
@LovingMyBabies My son was way too early but it happens. I wished he would have stayed innocent longer but stuff happen. Sorry, I hope you daughter does come to you about it soon.
@JH1973 (1)
•
21 Feb 16
I teach units on animals in second grade and most of my students are unaware of what actually happens for those animals to reproduce.When they write about their animals I chuckle because they will write things like "The leopard gets married and mates.."They do not really know what mates means. I have never had anyone really ask either.
So I am sorry that this other child was exposed to way too much too early and in turn explained something to your daughter that you would have explained eventually.You seem like a great parent though.I'm sure that you will have all the right conversations with your daughter.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Feb 16
@jh1973 Your lucky they have never asked you questions in more detail. And it's cute that they have no idea what mating is yet they say it. Lol.
Yeah I wanted to be the one to have the conversation with my kids. Thank you, I try to be a good mom. =)
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
7 Mar 16
Oh dear that is bad Lovings. I just saw this discussion at the side here and wanted to respond.
It is very sad that happened that your daughter was informed of that.
And very bad that other child was exposed. So young not right.
@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
21 Feb 16
It is hard to avoid. Usually adults do not help. My daughter began to fear things when an English teacher showed Alfred Hitchcock's "Psycho" to her underage class. Parents had no warning and the school ignored my complaint.
So much for laws. I think we need to stop showing this stuff on T.V. 9pm is too eafly for a watershed.
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
1 Mar 16
Hard to believe that Psycho would be shown to any but 6th formers
@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
21 Feb 16
That is too bad that happened. I was lucky because I was around 11 or 12 when my Mom told me about the birds and the bees. I am so happy no kid told me about it before I was ready.
@Juliaacv (51458)
• Canada
21 Feb 16
I remember I found out when I was in grade 4, and was old enough that it made sense to me. I heard it from another kid at school, but that's life, you want to shield your children from things but they'll hear, see or experience it. Now that the cat is out of the bag, I hope that you were able to talk with her privately and explain the issue and also explain that things such as this are best discussed in privacy, especially at her age, but leave the door open for her to come to you. Good luck!
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@FibroGodess (540)
• United States
20 Feb 16
Kids often learn things from other kids. It's inevitable.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Feb 16
@Fibrogodess I know it is unfortunately I just didn't think it would be this soon.
@creativeintelligene (133)
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28 Apr 16
Its natural. Children at such a young age are being exposed to adult content through mass media. They cant hide their curiosity and enthusiasm and end up telling it to other children. You can explain to your child in a subtle way about those things.
