Being his Gf-come-Mom !!
By Shayani Saha
@Shayani (250)
Pune, India
February 22, 2016 6:45am CST
well all of you must have understood by the title of my post , what I want to talk about.
I believe all girls have the charm, charisma to be girlfriend, but when it come like handling him like a mom ..it goes a different way altogether , trust me.
I have been his mom and girl friend simultaneously and this way I understand him better and can feel his dependency on me.
The question is I need to understand which role to play when...
Do you people really feel its an easy job..? Well definitely not. I cannot be his mom all the time and poke him on things, but there were times when I have to play a girlfriend's role to put our relation on much fun and excitement.
Just thought of sharing with you all, that I have realized that I am being the second mom for him ... and also his girlfriend, and have handled him in both ways. I am not aware of any pros and cons for this... but yes... definitely I have to be enough matured to do this. The most important thing which drives me is, his respect towards me and also his dependability in certain things, which help me to channelize my ways of dealing with things.
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@Bhaskarjhborah (735)
• India
22 Feb 16
It is not easy. And surely you have to be enough matured to be like this.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Feb 16
do you really want to play the role of a mother for you boyfriend? I mean isn't he mature enough? it's said for a reason that girls look for a paternal figure in their partner and boys for a maternal one
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@Shayani (250)
• Pune, India
24 Feb 16
Hi Alina, It is something which is happening since the beginning , and not that I am prominently replacing his mom in every way, but yes, there are certain particular way of making him do things and treat him which is similar to a motherly figure. To be very frank, I know the limitations of doing things this way and of course he is enough matured ( more than me I should say ) , but he like this motherly touch to certain things . I do play a prominent role of his GF too , which keeps a differential line between the two roles.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Feb 16
It sounds interesting to hear that you successfully played both the roles for him and you could make him dance to your tunes.
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On a serious note, I will have to but agree with you that it is easier said than done to play these kinds of two roles for your boyfriend/partner. To play a mother's role is all the more difficult because you just cannot imagine what all his mother would have done to him to make him grow. Keep it up. 
Many wives need to play both the roles because (Indian) guys are called "mama's boys"
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On a serious note, I will have to but agree with you that it is easier said than done to play these kinds of two roles for your boyfriend/partner. To play a mother's role is all the more difficult because you just cannot imagine what all his mother would have done to him to make him grow. Keep it up.
Many wives need to play both the roles because (Indian) guys are called "mama's boys"1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Feb 16
@Shayani As I said it is very difficult to play both the roles effectively. What perhaps he would expect from you is - caring attitude (of a mother). However, the moment you start poking him or intruding him like his real mother, he might get irritated.
PS - I feel the guy is lucky because he has a partner like you who goes to the extent of playing double roles to keep him happy.
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@Shayani (250)
• Pune, India
24 Feb 16
@dpk262006 True I do agree on this with you. But it always seems that everything has its own limit, and when things will not turn up in the way it is expected to be, may be we need to scrutinize different way of dealing with it.
Thanks for your wishes !! :)
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@Shayani (250)
• Pune, India
23 Feb 16
But believe me ... he is not a mama's boy, though he is the only son, but he do not like that kind of motherly attention and is not even fond of his mom poking him and asking questions for every thing. His mom is quite possessive about him, provided he is the only child to them. But I have accepted the fact that it is not easy for me to do this kind of double role play....trust me.
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@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
23 Feb 16
I was in Bubblews.com when someone told me that, 'happiness in any relationship starts with a happy girlfriend/wife.' Do I believe this? Yes I do. In most successful relationships, she plays a vital role in making sure that her family is heading to the right direction. Her sacrifices for the family is her first priority and she makes sure that whatever she does if for the benefit for her family and those close to her.
Most women take their husbands as their little boys. They treat them with respect yes! But when it comes to how they take care of them, it leaves one with one conclusions, us men, we can't say we have it all until women tells us so.
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@Shayani (250)
• Pune, India
24 Feb 16
Its like knowing him inside out and handling him on certain things, along with playing a prominent, caring, loving Gf. Trust me, its not about poking him like a true mom, but yes definitely acting more matured at timed and dealing with things.
@rajendraingale (289)
• Estado De Mexico, Mexico
22 Feb 16
Hi there,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It´s indeed lovely to see you both are in love and take care of each other in the same way. You see such things in a few relationships where the girl has to be a girlfriend and a Mom to take care of the guy. With all due respect, you should not be a caretaker for him and likewise he shouldn´t be dependent on you in every aspect of life.
As far as i see to it, The guy should be able to take care of his girlfreind and make her feel safe at all the time. Yes, I agree that when you have to decide on some things, you should both discuss and come to a common conclusion , but he should not be dependent on you all the time. He should be stong enough to take decisions and face the consequenc
My best wishes for you both.
:)
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@Shayani (250)
• Pune, India
23 Feb 16
Hi Raj,
Thanks for your wishes. He takes his decision and not always dependent on me, but yes when it come to certain things where he knows I might be equally important to give my opinion, he do ask me. As of now I know what I am doing, and hope this all goes well with our relation. The moment one partner started feeling secured with other, may be that is the time to realize that you are in right hands.
Thanks once again... !
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