I won't unfriend someone who thinks differently from me, but...
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
United States
January 27, 2017 8:28am CST
....I will unfriend anyone who tells me I am stupid or un-Patriotic because I think differently.
I kept my mouth shut the last two years (has it only been two years?!). I did not say anything against anyone running for office or anyone voting for that person. I ignored all the nasty posts on Facebook - while my blood was boiling my thoughts I kept to myself.
What finally got me was when a so called friend (who I knew online and in person) said that if I wasn't for his candidate then I was un-patriotic. There were a lot of other words thrown around also, but being a lady I won't repeat them.
I have unfriended two people from Facebook and one from real life. The real life person upset me far more than the online friend that I never met. But I will not be talked down to by anyone.
I felt the need to say this today, I've been holding back, but I'm tired of keeping quiet. It makes me sad but life goes on.
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28 responses
@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 17
I only unfriended one person on here and one in life. (That's not counting ex's of course.) The one on here was just immature and kept on bugging me until I felt I was either going to unfriend this person or I knew I would say something to get myself into trouble. The one in real life accused me of falsehoods which hurt me and then still wanted to be friends. Yet she wouldn't apologize. I knew I hadn't done anything and so I ended our friendship. It was very hard and took me several years to get over it. She and I had been friends for twenty five years. I am very picky about who I am friends with.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
27 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill I think I remember you writing about the friend whom you helped out to check homes.(Not here).
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I am very picky too and the real life person I had known for 8 years online - thought i new the person - finally that person asked for our help in finding a home in our area (they live in another state) - we helped them we did ground work for the so they didn't have to drive down here to check out homes that wouldn't work for them We had their whole family over twice for cookout and pool time, they played with my Ruby and I just can't get over how nasty it all turned out.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@silvermist Yes indeed I did - and it was on here. You have a good memory!!!!
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@LadyDuck (471456)
• Switzerland
27 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill This is very rude and it's not something acceptable.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@LadyDuck The funny thing is he has been much less vocal about things the last few days.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I know and the person I'm speaking of continues to say nasty nasty things because I see his comments on other friends' posts.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
27 Jan 17
Just because you have your own views doesn't make you a lesser friend. Very rude of that person!
I unfriended a few people (that I know and in person). They upset me to the point I don't trust them and would rather not talk to them.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill They won't be in my lives, less drama would be better.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@infatuatedbby You got that right, we get enough grief we don't need more from our so-called friends.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I unfriended his wife first and he jumped all over me for doing that.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Jan 17
I think we should speak out when something outrageous is said to us or written about us on Fb or anywhere else. If people always ignore things, then those who cause the problems think they can get away with anything. In the end we lose the right to free speech when we have not been the ones abusing it.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@CombedaleRoad - I did speak up to the one person in real life - I said how I felt and it went over his head. Those on FB that do it I rather not argue with since they won't listen anyway.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
27 Jan 17
It is sad, when this happens! I have also kept my mouth shut and nose clean of political debates till late. But yas, I had to let a couple of acquaintances go, as I was shocked by what this world political event has made them into. It makes you wonder whether you ever really know a person
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I don't think you really ever know someone. Especially the people you met online. We can say anything because there is no way for anyone to check it out. But for a person who has been to your home to turn on you (Me) was very upsetting.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
@Drososphila @AbbyGreenhill
These elections have thoroughly shaken things up and now we have to deal with whatever crawled out- good and bad alike.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@Daljinder I just wonder how smart it is to piss off our friends and sleep with our enemies
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
@Kandae11 and @Daljinder - Lke I said I kept things to myself but I should have spoken up earlier and I might not have hurt so much.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill In my case, I let the person know where I stand early on. Agree to disagree sort of thing! I was okay with that and so were they. BUT the next moment they turned around and started all over again. Trying everything (even forcing articles, videos etc... on me) for me to change my mind.
No can do with that!
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
@Kandae What I learned during these elections is you can have your choices until they are not aligning with what they want and in that case, you might as well have no choice at all. 
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
28 Jan 17
I have had to quietly avoid people who have caused me harm by words said. Better to fade into the sunset than to abruptly disappear. I have found that those who notice that you are gone are quick to seek you out. Those that I have slowly stopped associating with soon forget I was there. We still bump into one another and I am polite with a hello and how are you. I'll even say we should get together sometime. But, I never reconnect with them. They never call. Maybe it is because I don't answer if and when they do, or they know not to call at all.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
28 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill I have also blocked a few on Facebook. A couple of them are family members.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
These people live in another state, they bought a home here for vacations but they won't move here for 3 or 5 years, so we won't be running into each other..they are 45 mins from us.
We all have mechanisms how to protect our delicate feelings.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
@ElusiveButterfly I have blocked from m my real life several relatives!
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
28 Jan 17
A friend can have a different opinion and not be rude or hateful while doing so. I do not like people who talk down to me or disrespect me either.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
I have lots of friends who have different ideas but they don't tell me I'm stupid or whatever for not thinking as they do. Life is too short for people like that.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
27 Jan 17
Unfriending someone because they have a different opinion is so childish. I lost a good friend on FB, I'd known her nearly 20 years on the internet and met her in person, I loved her dearly. She unfriended me because I'm a conservative. She was in fear for her life after the election, thought that men would be grabbing women indiscriminately and that we'd have slavery again and abortion would be illegal and women would be dying right and left. She's one of the few whose life was truly saved by the ACA while I'm one whose health was ruined by it and she thought Trump would leave everyone uninsured and she would die. I'm so sorry she felt that way and I believe it's a kind of sickness. I miss her a lot.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
28 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill The true disabled who made too much, the ACA did not benefit us. Still scared what all the new stuff could be as they are saying Pre existing conditions will not be covered again, but Praying and believing God is in control and only time can tell,
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
@KrauseHome It is hard to figure out what plan they will come up with - if any. I don't get it, but there is a lot i don't get.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I believe you have spoken about your health issues before. That's sad you had problems. I do think that w/o abortion there will be deaths, back alley abortions like years ago...
I think there are many who benefited from ACA,not just your former friends. I am not familiar with it since I don't need it. I have private health insurance. But I do think whatever happens with insurance some will benefit and others won't.
I wonder if your friend misses you?
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
27 Jan 17
We have been recipients of such nonsense. Since when are we not allowed our thoughts and opinions? It is frightening to see how some are acting and speaking now.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
When I think that we welcomed them to our home and then be treated like this is what gets me.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
Thank you. I mean if you can't be yourself with your friends...why have them
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
1 Feb 17
@HazySue Very true - and I'm tired of the drama.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
1 Feb 17
@AbbyGreenhill if you can't be yourself with them I don't think they are your friend.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
27 Jan 17
It's amazing that your supposed friend thinks his opinions count but yours do not. This is the exact reason I keep my political and religious views to myself. I can say whatever I please within the privacy of my own home, I do not however have the right to be nasty because someone doesn't agree with my opinion. I don't blame you at all for your feelings, I just don't understand how some people think this way. I have the same rights as everyone else, and those narrow minded people need to get a clue.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
31 Jan 17
@fishtiger58 He has an army of friends who talk the same as he does. No one will win me over with rough, nasty talk.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I can take only so much before I implode....and imploding makes such a mess!!!! Funny thing is this person is a minority, first generation American...so some of his ideas seem so far off base.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
31 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill And he is entitled to them. He can't be nasty and certainly can't expect others to agree with him.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
I won't unfriend anyone either for having a different take on things but I won't tolerate being called stupid and look the other way when they show racist/ violent tendencies. I WILL speak up and let the chips fall where they may.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
You make sense and that's how it should work, but some people prefer to fight, argue and be nasty.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
@AbbyGreenhill Then leave them to fight among themselves. I debate until it is polite and respectable. The moment they utter their first nasty word or comment, I report them and walk away!
Usually with those sort of people, more calmly you reply and be amused, the more angrier they get and get nastier.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
27 Jan 17
@HAPPSINGH Yeah Debate all you want. Get heated too. No problem here. BUT no rudeness!
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
Yes it does, and right now I have less to be upset about.
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
27 Jan 17
I have unfollowed most people in my facebook account especially those who share fake news. Fake news can be miscontrued as real news and can mislead people so I dont think it should be shared at all
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Jan 17
it is better to be slightly cautious online also so that relationship is maintained. good day.
@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
28 Jan 17
I was cautious - I knew this person for 8 years LOL!
@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
27 Jan 17
I honestly think that everyone should respect everyone's only choices... whether you agree with them or not. They aren't going to sway you and you aren't going to sway them so it's better just to quietly sit quietly and watch what unfolds!
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
What's unfolding isn't 100 percent of what they thought would happen.
@JamesHxstatic (29413)
• Eugene, Oregon
27 Jan 17
I have unfriended a few people on FB in the last few months and I like the ability to do so. It saves a lot of teeth-gritting.
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@AbbyGreenhill (45494)
• United States
27 Jan 17
I know what you mean, and I was tired of biting my own lip!!!!
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@Meramar (2695)
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27 Jan 17
Sometimes it's hard to turn our head to the other side and leave someone in its ignorance. There are many people believing they are right and a too short to be aware of the liberty of thoughts. Some day, they will open their eyes and understand the short of mind they have been.
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