Wednesday... I love my sister but...
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
April 4, 2017 10:33pm CST
I and my sister are poles apart. While I am quiet, she is loud. While I am patient, she is not. While I am sincere, she is cynical.
Maybe because I have a heart ailment that she challenges my emotions.
This morning, her sarcasm started again. I am usually quiet when she speaks loud about household chores that she refuses help from me and my son. When she commented on the CPU where I myLot that it was dusty again, I lost my cool, so I answered her in a loud voice. We had an exchange of words and although I said I was vulnerable because I was tired yesterday, she did not stop talking. I went out of the house.
Then my son called me. My sister was on the floor, somewhat seizing. I knew she was faking the act so I told her that she should deal with her anxiety with composure. Then she sat down and talked loud again.
I knew she wanted attention from me and my son. This is the third time she did this to me, and since I know if a person is faking her actions, I disregarded her 'seizure'.
Up till now, we are not yet talking. I will go out later this day for my check-up. I am glad that even though we were shouting at each other, I maintained my heart at its normal rate and rhythm.
I love her, and she is my only sister and we are family. But sometimes there are circumstances that we lose our control and we give violent discussions with words. No body contact, but words that can hurt one's feelings.
How do you deal with a sibling who, sometimes,is sarcastic?
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14 responses
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
yes my friend. a true seizure should be drooling, eyes turned up, continuous shaking of the body, and losing consciousness, all of which my sister did not manifest.
that is great for you and your brother to not have any grudges at all.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
6 Apr 17
@ridingbet it is probably due to the fact that we are so many years apart. We did not grow up together.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@minx267 that is good, but do you know each other's good points?
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@Shavkat (139828)
• Philippines
5 Apr 17
I think we cannot refrain from having clashes with our siblings. I had a couple of times being uncool because of their wrongdoings. I am the eldest and they need to respect me.
I am sure you can determine if the person is malingering. Because you are a nurse, my friend. I hope your sister is not in regression state.lol
Of course, you need to calm down in time likes this. Since you have a heart problem. The best remedy is to find a special someone.lol As what @magallon had said.lol Cheer up, kabsat!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
when i told her to fix her anxiety and she sat and talked, i told her that she is not seizing; she answered, 'i don't know those medical terms you are saying'. kabsat, she thinks i cannot read her mind, but i can check her health. she made a post on FB several hours ago that she slipped 'daw' yesterday and it caused her to shake, rattle, and roll, with my son holding her. i asked her where did that happen, and she said yesterday.
'i thought you had a seizure?', and she stayed mum.
my friend, i think i don't need someone now. my son is enough for my love and attention. you and @magallon should find your own pair.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
@magallon my friend, 'thumb up 'ka jan'. hahahaha
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@allknowing (136082)
• India
5 Apr 17
Stepping on each other's toes I suppose leads to this unpleasantness. This is normal and you being the tolerant kind could perhaps diffuse the situation.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
yes i am more patient than her, probably because i developed that attitude of being kind when i knew about my heart condition, but not always should i give in and stay calm.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
That's normal , because you are both human.
Me, it's my youngest sister I had a fight with many months ago. She speaks to me as if she's older than me.
We really had a heated exchange of words and we both so angry with each other. We didn't speak with each other for many weeks. But after sometimes, she begand speaking to me as if nothing happened.
Yes, sometimes our patience towards our siblings will be tested. 
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@ridingbet It should have been that you love each other so dearly because there's Only the two of you sisters who are always together.
Though, there is a saying "familiarity breed contempt". Do you think it is something like that with you and your sister?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@SIMPLYD i do believe in that adage, but we are so familiar with each other since i was born.
i also believe that adage is advisable to those who we are friends with, or those who we newly got acquainted with, because once they become so familiar with us to the point of allowing themselves to act as our sisters, then they abuse, that is already not good.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
i think i remember that you made a discussion about this? yes, my lady, because we are only 2 among us siblings and the tendency is we look at one another's faults rather than praise or appreciate them.
but since we are a family, heated arguments eventually die down.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
yes, and i am trying hard not to get in to her toes and step on it. we are okey now because she was the first one to talk to me yesterday, before i went to the hospital for my check-up.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
11 Apr 17
@DianneN yes my friend. now, we are again in speaking terms but now, i am trying to keep my cool when she is raising her voice for no apparent reason. i would not want my heart to have missed beats.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
yes, i have to forgive but i cannot forget that circumstance, my friend. now, we talk, but i am keeping my distance, and keep myself cool as well
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 17
It is better not to enter into arguments with our siblings, we should bear the sarcasm. When things calm down, then we could express our displeasure to our sibling(s).
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
that is good for you to say that, but if you were in my shoes and you hear sarcasms in a loud voice, i would not know how you will react to that. i am a patient person but i boil as well. i am human, after all.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
7 Apr 17
@ridingbet I just voiced my opinion, if you feel like paying your sibling in the same coin, you may do so.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@dpk262006 yes, my friend, and my response is also how i felt about my relationship with my sister.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
5 Apr 17
So sorry you had to go through this. Hopefully, this gets sorted out and you and your sister can patch things up.
Family is family but ultimately, you have to look after what's best for you and your son and cutting ties with your sister might be an option that you have to look into.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
thanks, but no i won't be severing my ties to my sister. she is the only sibling i have here in our house. i have a heart ailment, and my sister is also sick. staying away from her is the least of my priorities.
i just needed to vent out what i felt yesterday that was why i made a discussion about our argument.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
5 Apr 17
our own flesh and blood can be really challenging. i hope your appointment goes well.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
the result of my PTPA examination is within my normal range, but unfortunately my cardiologist was not around. i texted him my result so he made a schedule of my consultation 2 months from now.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 17
@ridingbet , I have a temper, so if someone verbally attacks me, I attack back. But lately my sister and I know when to give each other space and keep busy with our own things.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
that is good. giving each other their own space- i think that should be what we do here. but i am silent and when i am full to the brim, i erupt like a volcano.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
5 Apr 17
My brothers sarcastic but doesnt bother me too much. Im use to it
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
wow, good for you, to mind your own business when your brother talks sarcastic. you are a patient person, my friend.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
i don't think that is possible because we live in our ancestral home and we have each other, with my son, caring for our home in the province.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@Kandae11 hahaha! no more my dear, she won't marry anymore because she is separated from her husband.
@Kandae11 (54986)
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6 Apr 17
@ridingbet Well maybe she might soon get married , live elsewhere , and visit occasionaly.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
of course i love my sister but we have some differences as regards attitude and opinion. we are poles apart
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Apr 17
@ShifaLk yes, i just left and that stopped the rift.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 17
she does not stay calm and keeps on verbalizing her cynical comments. i am calm but at times, i get my nerves up and i erupt as well.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
7 Apr 17
@ridingbet oh then I understand, I've seen a person like that too.
You surely can't do anything then!
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